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I am having the worse luck in the dating department.... seriously!
I do not understand this!
Maybe I am looking in the wrong spots?
I should let him come to me?
What is going on here?
:confused:
 
stop searching for your dream guy.he doesnt exist.nothing is the way we want it.
start searching for guys.
 
Mattcharles said:
I am having the worse luck in the dating department.... seriously!
I do not understand this!
Maybe I am looking in the wrong spots?
I should let him come to me?
What is going on here?
:confused:
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You're not alone, trust me.

It also depends on what you're looking for. Are you looking for a specific type of guy? I mean, are you being really picky? That's something you need to look at.

I've found that when you're not looking is usually when it happens.

When you least expect it, expect it.
 
When you least expect it. He will find you. Meanwhile be yourself. Turn around now and then . He might be that guy right behind you.

I never thought I was gonna find that guy that was looking for me. But one day he read my bio at gay dot com and said he liked what I had to say. We have been together for just about 22 months.

good luck
 
I agree with others here. When you least expect it your man will show up. I hae found that most of the dating sites are not that. Most men either want to have cam sex, or when you find one to email you, you find that they only want email or phone sexy. The usual first question is: "How big is your cock?"

Seriously though, if your loking for your man. The one you want to be with to love, you need to be a little patient. I know it is hard, but he WILL come to you!

I have been successful at outpersonals.com. Met my first bf there 6 years ago and we had a 5 year relationship. After he dumped me, I went back to outpersonals and I have found an even better and more loving man!

As suggested, think about what your looking for, look for the man with a heart that than love you, don't go for his looks first, looks are fast fleeting as you ger older! Yes, it is nice to have a model looking kind of guy, but there is more to your man than that! Isn't there? I think so...my 2 cents worth....goof luck and let us know what happens!
 
thanx for all of your advice. :)

Also, any free dating sites? I will not spend money to meet a wacko online lmao.

There is someone I like though but I have no clue if he likes me and he is a little to young for me. he will be 18 soon and I will be 25. I mean it is not that much od a difference like he isnt 17 and im 40 lol then there is a problem but their is something about him that just clicks with me.
What do I do? :confused:
 
WYSIWYG said:
I have been successful at outpersonals.com. Met my first bf there 6 years ago and we had a 5 year relationship. After he dumped me, I went back to outpersonals and I have found an even better and more loving man!
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Could not help to notice this mention of outpersonals.com - I share the shout-out. MY BF and I met through this site and we have been very happily together for several months.

The key: Avoid frustration caused by actively looking - let yourselves find each other. If it is meant to be it will happen when you least expect it .. like with me.

(*8*)

P.S. Neither one of us paid for our outpersonals ad.
 
RicanDAB said:
Could not help to notice this mention of outpersonals.com - I share the shout-out. MY BF and I met through this site and we have been very happily together for several months.

The key: Avoid frustration caused by actively looking - let yourselves find each other. If it is meant to be it will happen when you least expect it .. like with me.

(*8*)

P.S. Neither one of us paid for our outpersonals ad.
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Awww, thank you. :)
I guess I need to go to outpersonals lol. :)
 
Hey Matt,
Just letting you know you're not alone, as I'm sure it's the same with other people in the world as well. I'm beginning to believe that giving up is not the right thing to do. Just keep trying!!
 
I've learned waiting will get you nowhere when finding your man.
 
thirstycanadianboy said:
Or maybe he's talking to right now and you just don't know it yet, maybe he's on this board, or maybe he's across the street, some times what your looking for is right in front of you and you don't know it yet.

Just a thought:rolleyes:
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VERY true here, BUT WHERE IS HE?!?!?!?!?!!??!
I want him now lol. :P
 
JamieFL said:
How did you contact each other then? :confused:
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We apparently were both in trial periods where you still have access to full ads and features and access to message boxes and stuff. He sent me a message with his email address in it and we continued the communication off the site via personal emails. Needless to say we both did not use the site for very long.

I guess it was lucky then, that we did not have to pay an upgrade before we met!
 
BrandonSBCA said:
I've learned waiting will get you nowhere when finding your man.
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There is truth in this too. If you look too hard, you won't find what you're looking for. But just because hiding in a tower waiting for a prince worked for Rapunzel, doesn't mean it will for anybody else. You've got to put yourself out there. The trick is not to date all the time necessarily, but rather to go places to do things you like to do where there are other available gay men around (think friends' parties, interest clubs, volunteer work, coffee houses, etc.).
 
eurocrat said:
you never know when something great might pop up :-)

keep the spirits high!! i'm not the luckiest person around either, seeing the status of my current lovelife... But i'm confident that whatever the outcome, it will be for the best!

how r u in the LDR department by the way? lol
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Whats LDR mean lol :D
So I guess NOT GOOD lol. :p

Anyway, I just need to sit back and relax and hopefully he will come! :)
HOPEFULLY lol. :)
 
Well, let's see... here are the guys that SOME will say are out of bounds:

Co-workers, friends (former/future), family friends, a friends ex, a female friends bi-friend, former teachers, divorced, separated, to old, to closeted, to far away, to needy, to shallow, to fem, to butch. The list goes on and on.

Since you asked, here's the way I see it.

What two adults consent to do with each other is their business. If you discount every guy that someone else has a problem with, you'll be left with bathroom stalls and sleazy bars.

I'd rather take a chance an losing a friend than find out down the road that I missed out on the chance of life time. Trust me - it happens.

Co workers are just that - people you work with. Jobs can come and go but a life long mate doesn't walk around the corner every day. For christ sakes, the President of the U.S. is only only allowed to keep his job for 2 terms.

People will fire every pathetic, overused cliche at you they can. Don't worry about what isn't best for them but what is best for you.

Sometimes we need to take a chance and see what happens. It's better than kicking your ass for the rest of your life over never trying.

Thanks for listening.
 
nsguy2 said:
Well, let's see... here are the guys that SOME will say are out of bounds:

Co-workers, friends (former/future), family friends, a friends ex, a female friends bi-friend, former teachers, divorced, separated, to old, to closeted, to far away, to needy, to shallow, to fem, to butch. The list goes on and on.

Since you asked, here's the way I see it.

What two adults consent to do with each other is their business. If you discount every guy that someone else has a problem with, you'll be left with bathroom stalls and sleazy bars.

I'd rather take a chance an losing a friend than find out down the road that I missed out on the chance of life time. Trust me - it happens.

Co workers are just that - people you work with. Jobs can come and go but a life long mate doesn't walk around the corner every day. For christ sakes, the President of the U.S. is only only allowed to keep his job for 2 terms.

People will fire every pathetic, overused cliche at you they can. Don't worry about what isn't best for them but what is best for you.

Sometimes we need to take a chance and see what happens. It's better than kicking your ass for the rest of your life over never trying.

Thanks for listening.
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I agree with you nsguy2. All is fair in love and war

When my partner and I decided to pursue a long distance relationship 10 years ago (against the advice of our friends) he said he didn't want to turn 60, look back, and say "why didn't I"
 
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