str8 guy who likes gay porn

[bi_pitcher_5er]

i'm new here. thought some of you might find this hot, but it's actually a bit of dilemma:

i'm straight. i tried once with a guy (we gave each other head and made out) but it didn't quite do it for me. but there is something about gay chat and porn that gets me off like crazy.

thing is, i'm not seeing anyone right now. i haven't for a while. and i wonder sometimes when i go on these sites or get off while chatting with a guy if maybe i should give it another try. just curious i guess. i wasn't sure if anyone else here had that same problem.

but man seeing a couple of guys kiss, shew buddy! lol

 

[DidntMeanToTurnYouOn]

Could it be that you are getting curious? It does take time find out your true identity. I think everyone has gone through that stage of experimentation, doubt and discovery...

 

[bi_pitcher_5er]

i liked getting and giving head. but the kissing was weird. his kiss didn't taste as good as the girls i'd kissed, and that kinda turned me off. my first straight expereince was pretty damn good.

i guess it's like, i wanna date girls, but i like watching gay porn, even though the real thing was sort of awkward.

sorry. i'm kinda strange, i know. i figured it's also not what a lot of folks would like to hear.

 

[Roland00]

Give it another chance.

Shew Buddy?

 

[screwnutty]

hehehe Well Bi_Pitcher_5er. First let me tell you that not all gay guys like to kiss! and not all gay guys do alot of that other stuff that you think we do too! You know what I'm talking about!

Your not weird, gee....were all special in our own way. Take for example that I'm 30 years old and a big Doctor Who/Star Trek/Transformers fan. I have a signature quote from an episode of the new Doctor Who and in the Transformers: The movie thread...I spend half my time talking about Go-bots. Now that's weird!

ahhh it was your first time. maybe you were alittle "weirded" (is that even a word?) out by the whole thing. Who knows! Who cares....really what is normal? Hell if your not in a relationship right now then you don't really have anything to lose...nobody to hurt and all the time in the world to figure out what to do next! So sit back....have a beer and let the good times roll my brother!

 

[confusedboy23]

You're NOT weird! Let's get that point nailed in your head!

You are perfectly normal and most of us including myself would have had gone through similar comfusions.

Don't label yourself gay or bi or whatever. Do what makes you feel happy and just be yourself. If you feel like you are more emotionally attached with a girl, then go date girls. If you feel that gay sex is awkward, then don't do it. If you feel keen on watching gay porn, keep doing it. I don't think it is wrong for a 'straight' person to be watching gay porn even if they were in a relationship. BUT, if you went sleeping around whilst in a straight relationship, then, yes, there are issues to be dealt with there!

 

[Frenchie1334]

hey, no one else has put this forth so i will:
i joined this site a while back, when i was afraid i was gay but wouldnt admit it
well, my college years are here and i tried shit out with a few guys
wasnt bad... ill agree, kissing a guy is NOTHING like kissing a girl
the dick sucking was... interesting, i didnt mind the cum, didnt taste as bad as i thought it might... and it isnt something i wouldnt ever do again

BUT, in the process i realized something, sure, im bisexual but it doesnt matter... for me, personally, i see no future with a guy, i cant get emotionally attached, its a purely sexual thing... women are what i crave on a sexual and emotional level

so, no, ur not weird, u may very well be like me... but i advise u to try stuff out and figure it out for urself... just dont do my mistake and do it when not single, i almost ruined the relationship of a lifetime


and if it isnt clear from me being here right now, i am still with her, in total love, but that doesnt mean occassionally looking at guys doesnt get me off

and with that, peace

 

[sonical]

I can't tell you all how great it is to find our that I'm not the only man that is struggleing with his sexuality. I'm in my fourties and never been with a man but ever since I can remember I have had a strong attraction to men. My situation is that I'm not attracted to obvious gay men, but good looking, fit, masculine men, (don't mean to boast) but that is what I am discried as. Please don't anyone take offence, I am mearly spilling my guts. I often think, "fuck, If I could only find someone like myself" I'm divorced, have children and am currently dating a very lovely lady and I think about her all the time and I think I might be slowly falling in love. But yet I can't stop these feelings inside me. I especially am confused with the fact that when I see solo gay porn or pictures of nude males, my testostorone levels increase and energies inside me bring fourth high creativity, physical endurance and an overall hightened physical state. See Bipitcher your not alone and with the support of this great site, we finally have someone to talk to and feel better about ourselves.

 

[Soilwork]

Ok.... I can't hold this back any longer.


Sonical... you're not straight.

you're either gay or bi with issues.

There are plenty of gay men out there who are just regular guys. My motorcycle club is jam-packed with every type of gay guy from the Muscle-stud firemen to the effeminate software developers.

It sounds to me like you're more turned off by the idea of being perceived as "obviously gay" and have instead chosen to just date and marry women, even though you're much more attracted to men.

Your life, your choices, but just as you can't choose to be gay, dude, you can't choose to be straight just because you dont' wanna shag RIchard Simmons (and for the record, NOBODY wants to shag Richard SImmons).

 

[Just_Believe18]

Why do you say you are straight if you call yourself "bi_pitcher_5er?" Labels aren't a big issue with me, but self-honesty will help point you in the right direction.

I say try it again. First experiences can be bad. The guy could have had bad breath. Maybe you haven't met a guy who holds a Masters degree in cocksucking, yet?

My impression is, if you like gay porn so much but find it difficult to actually do it; I believe you have more anxiety issues than sexual ones. Nervousness, in the ability to perform, is a key issue for many guys.

 

[bi_pitcher_5er]

i just wanna say thanks to all you guys for the advice. i guess i have the label in my name bc some may wonder why a str8 guy would be here. but i guess i got stuff to learn. i would like to give it another shot sometime if i found the right guy. thanks again. ya'll can hit me up with a pm anytime.

 

[confusedboy23]

You are very welcome indeed!!!

Please continue posting so we'll always be kept up to date with what's going on in your life.

Do take care and enjoy!!!!

 

[Soilwork]

by the way, bi_pitcher..

my post can be for you too..

you'll be a lot happier when you can be honest with yourself...

 

[jockboy01]

And this is why I think experimenting to determine sexuality is the WRONG answer. He tried it, he didn't like it. But it is obvious that he's at least bi and had a bad first experience. So did I. And it screws with your head. Then you think you're not and you were just wrong about the whole thing. So bi_pitcher, I'd agree that you aren't straight... beyond that I can't say. But just because this guy wasn't for you means nothing about your sexuality. Sexuality is something that you have to figure out by being honest with yourself, not based on a single sexual experience or two. Which are you more sexually attracted to... guys or girls? That's the only question to determine your sexuality. The rest is just issues.

LOL about Richard Simmons... maybe some guys are in to him (not me... YUCK, but to each his own you know) LOL Now I'm working on getting pictures out of my head that make me want to hurl.

 

[sonical]

Hey Soilwork, why are your reponses to our dilemas always so aggressive? It seems that you are not a patient man. I consider myself straight because I have never been with a man. I was a virgin untill I had sex for the first time and previous to that I had masturbated but I was still a virgin, so I guess what I'm saying is that if I ever or never fullfill these urges I consider myself to be straight up to that point. Am I complicating things? I may never go through with being with a guy because even under the influence of alchohol and having had the opportunity, when it came to taking the plunge I became scared and like something held me back from doing it. We are all fucked up in someway and I guess this is my bit of lifes struggle and as I've said before, just discussing this with all of you is helping me tremendously.

 

[Roland00]

sonical, soilwork is aggressive for the simple reason he cares. He has seen too many people antagonize and beaten themselves up over their fears, its like they get up on the diving board, they are confident till its time to take the plunge, and when its ready they just break and are a grueling mess, hugging the diving board.

Well soilwork has moved past that point in his life, and he has seen how destructive it can be with other people. He knows the water is fine, he knows there is nothing wrong with it, actually there is something great about it. Once you are in the water you are free, and once you are free you are in control of your own life, and thus you are naturally happier. Soilwork sees those messes on the diving board and he just hopes they will take the plunge. The initial shock of the water may be cold, but in the end its worth it. If it takes being aggressive to get the diver to jump and try out the water he will be.

Sonical you aren't naturally fucked up, you may be fucked up at this moment, but you aren't naturally that way. You just need to figure out how to untwist yourself, and make things right and then everything will be as it should be. Struggles are meant to be overcome.

 

[Soilwork]

I'm aggressive because I think Kid Gloves are for kids.

you're grown men and I think you've wasted enough time and in the glorious words of the Ghost of Christmas Present as played by Carol Kane, "sometimes you have to slap them in the face just to get their attention".

Roland is right. As much of a total Jackass as I can come across, I really am thinking about your best interests. I've seen many guys up there on the high dive... and the only way to get grown men who's dug in their heels (am I mixing too many metaphors here?) to jump is to yell up and say "JUMP".

I'm not telling you to be gay and I'm not telling you to be straight but what I AM telling you is that cowering in the corner has only gotten you where you are right now... and you're unhappy enough with that situation to post here for help.... Time to be a man and stand up straight.. or.. well, stand up gay as the case may be.

And besides, in that motorcycle accident I was in a few months back, I broke my attitude control and I now go from zero to jerk with no fade switch.

 

[fivestar]

You aren't alone in this. This is EXACTLY what I'm going through right now.

I like to look at gay porn. I like the way men look, it just drives me wild, but I'm also extremely confused right now.

I tried experimenting with a friend of mine a couple months back, but there was something inside my psyche that was holding me back. I found him attractive, and I would often fantasize about him, but for some reason, I was so nervous I could not maintain an erection for very long. Sure enough, when he left, I masturbated to thoughts of what almost just happened and wished he was back at my house.

We've tried again a couple of times, but to no avail. I just end up blowing him and that's it.

So, I don't know what I want right now. I connect with females on an emotional level, but I also connect with males and prefer their company.

 

[drhladnjak]

FWIW, it's not what you do or don't do that makes you gay/bi/straight/whatever. Sexual orientation is about how you feel about sex and relationships with regard to gender. We're not all straight by default, only becoming gay once we have sex with a guy.

 

[Soilwork]

So, I don't know what I want right now.

Sounds to me like what you want is to just kinda.. get over your fears.

Learned to relax. How about.. and this is a bizarre idea... but talk to a doctor.. get some Cialis so you dont' have to worry about staying hard.. and finish the deed.

Once you've made it past that.. you'll maybe be able to help.

My first real boyfriend couldn't get it up when we first got together. He was too nervous around me (fancy that).