Straight best friend !

[Benvolio]

It's always odd to hear someone described as a "best friend" but they don't know that you're bi and that you are afraid that sharing something about yourself.

Since your friend has a girlfriend and you realize that your feelings toward him are largely a fantasy, then you really don't have that much to lose if you tell him. Bottom line: if he can't accept you as bi or that you have a sexual interest in guys, then he's not that much of a best friend, is he?

Perhaps in an ideal world, but for now, not everyone wants to give up the friends of their young years for a principle.

 

[Willie Boy]

Perhaps in an ideal world, but for now, not everyone wants to give up the friends of their young years for a principle.

One point KaraBulut was making is how can you call someone your "best" friend if you can't even bother to be honest with him? Not you specifically but people in general. Part of the point of a best friend is that is THE person who respects you for who you are, even at your worst. If you're expected to share the worst of who you are with him, why can't you share the more trivial?

If the OP can't bother with being honest he isn't any kind of friend...... And with the basic premise of this whole thread he's alluded to that in more ways than just his dishonesty.

 

[seioussuction69]

Don't even bother trying anything with him. First of all, he has a girlfriend, and you don't want to cause a shit storm! For her to say something that suggestive to you means she is either a wacko or she suspects something. Either she suspects you want him, or she has doubts about his sexuality. Like the way mothers always know, girlfriends know. She might have noticed the way you look at him, or the way he looks at you. If he is a valued friend, one you want for life, keep your mouth shut and stay friends. Has he ever given you any clues that he is attracted to you? If you decided to take the plunge and ask him if he likes you, wait until he's single. His girlfriend sounds like trouble, any sane guy will eventually dump her, or maybe she'll dump him. Just try not to go barking up the wrong tree, he might dump you if you ask him if he likes you. Some straight guys can handle a guy being attracted to them, as long as they don't try to make something out of nothing. Trust me, I lost a really close friend because I slept with him, and we just drifted apart because it was never the same after that. Sure, I still jerk off to the memory of that night, but it still was a mistake. Try coming out to him, but DON'T tell him you want him. If he wants you, then you've left the door open for him to make a move. In the meantime, go find a guy who wants you. Having a boyfriend that wants you is one sure fire way to forget about your friend!

 

[Benvolio]

One point KaraBulut was making is how can you call someone your "best" friend if you can't even bother to be honest with him? Not you specifically but people in general. Part of the point of a best friend is that is THE person who respects you for who you are, even at your worst. If you're expected to share the worst of who you are with him, why can't you share the more trivial?

If the OP can't bother with being honest he isn't any kind of friend...... And with the basic premise of this whole thread he's alluded to that in more ways than just his dishonesty.

No, your best friend is just the best you have. He may not measure up to abstract standards for such friends, but if you give him up then you have one less close friend than before. He may be hard to replace.