Straight Crushes

[SexyToad]

Okay, so, there are endless (read:ad nauseum) stories of gay/bi men crushing over their straight best friends. How many out there have actually confronted their crushed and confessed their true feelings? How did it go? Just curious.

 

[SexyToad]

I'll go first. My best friend, Scott, who's straight I've always had feelings for. But with him, it was never a secret. I told him I was gay when we met, and I never missed an oportunity to tell him how cute and twinkish he is. I never got much of a rise out of him. It's only more recently, after some years of knowing him, I've really started to feel a deeper sense of something toward him. It may be that he and I can communicate so easily, more so than with anyone else. It's scary to call it love. So, I sat Scott down and explained to him that my feelings toward him were much deep than lust or a crush. He said he understands but nothing will come of it. He's straight; end of story.

That's fine, and we're still best frinds. What irks me is that he treats me like a boyfriend. He calls me just to say hi, and we'll talk for hours. When I'm over we'll stay up till sunrise talking about eveything and nothing, he's told me his secrets and let himself be exposed emotionally an revealed himself to be a sincere and beautiful person. He's spent the night in my bed and held me in his sleep. To be fair he's shared beds with his friends before, but he's known to be a violent sleeper. With me, he's calmed by our closeness I think. He lets me hold him just when we're hanging around, while he does homework or plays xbox.

He knows that my caresses aren't totally innocent. He knows that I want him, but I don't know if he just likes the attention or what. I'm fairly certian that he's mostly heterosexual. I don't know what he'd do if I made a pass at him. God knows I've had my chances. I don't want to ruin our friendship. It's shit knowing I can get so far with him, but only so far. I've told him that he makes a shit substitute for a boyfriend. I should probably start dating again, but he's the only one I have feelings for.

I'm not sure if confessing my feelings for him changed anything at all.

 

[Kouken]

I had a Boy Crush when I was 13-14 and it didn't end well for me. I managed to muster up the courage to tell him but things just got awkward, didn't hang out as much as we used to and then he moved away. (his father transferred so It wasn't his doing) but all in all. He didn't fully shoot me down and given time, I believe we could have still been friends but I was fooling myself in thinking there could have been something more. I was new to the whole gay thing at the time so I'm not surprised I ran head first into it.

 

[blackbeltninja]

What irks me is that he treats me like a boyfriend. He calls me just to say hi, and we'll talk for hours. When I'm over we'll stay up till sunrise talking about eveything and nothing, he's told me his secrets and let himself be exposed emotionally an revealed himself to be a sincere and beautiful person.

Um... isn't this sort-of exactly what best friends do? Boyfriends do it as well, I suppose, but definitely best friends.

All my good friends do this with each other and with me, and none of them know (although they might suspect) that I'm not straight like them.

-d-

 

[aneal_lingus]

I had a big crush on one of my bestfriends. we weren't emotional close but we'd spend time together whenever possible (usually with another friend). i liked him for unknown reasons and i got the vibe from him but eventually i had to accept him as a friend and let whatever happens happen. i told him i was gay about 2 years into the friendship, last frebruary.

since then he's been acting really cute by putting his arm around me in public, standing a couple inches too close, wearing my jacket and giving me his even though i wear an xs and he wears a medium. he also lets me read his poetry before anyone else and shows me his sensitive side, but only on paper.

he tricked me one day by sending a chain letter that gave a free answer to any question. so i fell for it and asked him a question, which i cant remember. in return he got a free one and of course he asked if i ever had a crush on him. i was like "shit", and i had to answer so i just typed "yes". he was like i knew it. nothings changed, he still acts cute but nothing will come of it.

 

[zeus007]

well that's a thread i predict it will grow fast.

my story:

Postgraduate student in Stirling 4 years ago having just arrived there in my late twenties (still am) and from greece where the only gay thing i had ever done was to jerk off thinking guys.

I had a university owned flat sharing along with 4 more people. He was Italian and with common mentality, such as we greeks have strong relationships among men. I hung out with him and soon we became best friends. After a while we were feeding each other in the mouth, drunk together, making gay jokes (shows very close friendship in greece), etc. I fell in love with him. I was obsessed. I was jealous almost for everything, i was receiving good things badly, every word of his had multiple meaning and i was catching myself overanalyzing everything. It was my first time.

These were obvious to him and the first time he missed a meeting cause he was late due class, i gave him a (gay) scene that he never had even when he was dating two girls in the same time. Instead of making a bad scene, he said that he is delighted to have found someone to love him that much and that he wont do it again and he kissed me in the chick.

One night we played spin the bottle us two and a chinese female flatmate. His fucking bottle pointed me and i had my first kiss with a boy ever. His tonque was so warm and wet and i had the biggest boner in my life. I was then sure about me and who i am... This bottle was pointing at me when he was spinning, so the whole night went through like a kiss fest for me.

Next day the whole university new that i kissed him last night taking advantage that he was drunk. Not a very pleasant feeling. Of course he came home with his gf and denied anything and he said to me that i was ok and remain best mates and he did it just to out me. The crush was growing and i was useless to blame him for anything even when friends were coming to warn me that he was talking bad jokes and gossips about me to people. After lots of distance from my other friends, the situation became most unpleasant for me when a greek male friend spit into my face and cursed me for being queer and we had a fight ending up in the police station.

i stopped every connection with the italian crush and once we met accidentally in a local club. he said let's be friends again and i denied. he said what do you want to be friends again? and he grabbed my ass violently in front of 5 other friends (i still had some left...lol). I was so furious with this and with all the rage from the other months that i pounced him twice really hard in the chest. That was also the first time to have pounced anyone. back in greece i used to be a light hooligan during my teen years but never had come to this point before.

That was the last time i saw him. Next day he moved away to a new flat and never had any contact.

 

[JNewYork]

Zeuss, that was painful! I'm glad you got through it.

I've never confessed my love to a straight guy. I just figured it would end badly. I had one supposedly straight dude come on to me and stare at my cock, things like that. When I made a move on him, he pulled away and left me deserted.

So sometimes even with the gay ones who are staring at your cock it doesn't always end happily.

 

[ProfRx2000]

I had three straight crushes; John N, Paul and John B. John N knows, but I never said anything. I could tell just by the way he acted toward me. He liked having me fawn all over him, but not in front of his friends. 10 years later, I found out that he got blown by another gay guy in HS.

I told Paul, then got to blow him 4-5 times. He always was "passive" about it, but I know he liked it...(I'm good). I believe he was embarrassed about it, so we grew distant as college went on. After college, we separated and we don't talk anymore. His loss.

Lastly, I told John B in college. We talk about it...I offer every once in a while, but he is so macho that he won't act on it...though I get the best hugs (and cheek kisses) from him. Maybe when he divorces his wife, he'll realize what he is missing.

 

[jacobb]

I have a crush on a straight guy!
He is one of my closest friends! I have liked him for ages and when I told him, he got closer to me! And my other friends have noticed how much closer we have got. And he looks at me the way I look at him.. He is very flirty and stuff, the only problem is; he has a girlfriend. He does act like he is gay or bi and loads of people think so.. Someone even asked me if we were a couple. I dont really know what to do.. I dont want to move on and then him realise he likes me? Help please

 

[charmedones_p3]

Have i had straight crushes, um yeah.
Did i tell him, um yeah.
How did it end, um not as bad as it could have.
The one or two of them, well we just drifted apart. The first well i have not talked to him in several years, to be honest i can not even remember what he looks like. The second, yes there was a second, you think that i would have learned after the first, but no i am a glutton for pain. Well this one was a little different, after i told him our friendship progressed to a new level, not the intimacy level but pretty damn close, we were this close for a couple of years and then one day out of the blue well our relationship did a drastic 180%, he quit calling and hanging out after about a couple of weeks of this i decided that two could play at that game. Then three months later guess what, he's getting married, all i can say is man what an ugly women.

 

[drgr86]

I never told mine how I felt about him. His friendship was too important to me and it's not that we'd stop being friends if I told him, but I know that things would never be the same and that nothing good would come of it.

 

[slippery]

about 9 years ago i was working with a man ten years younger than myself he was hansome and straight i found myself drawn to him but thought /new he was straight so was satisfied with his friendship . our mateship grew overtime then one drunken summer night with a few beers as courage i indicated my sexuality a few weeks later at a party in a secluded spot our conversation reignited i placed my arms on his shoulders and with a deep breath expressed my feelings... he looked at me slightly surprised but knowingly and i bravely drew him towards me and kissed him.... so i would say to some if you seriously sense sense something with your friend take the risk....ps 9 yrs on we are together and he is totally off fish!

 

[texan_slant]

YUP - three major ones. To this day, one of them knew, and the other two don't. Two of them are my best friends to this day (one of which who knew), and the other one is a work colleague.

It really sucks, but on the other hand, I don't get dependent or clingy; I take the friendships for what they are, and I appreciate and adore them all! They are my closest of friends.

 

[hothunk222]

I was lead on my a straight friend of mine. He always suspected my sexuality and got me to come out by making me think he was gay also and into me. The friendship ended explosively.

 

[inimegblue]

I'm in this situation now. I don't think I will ever have the courage to tell him because he's such a good friend. In fact, I'm more afraid of losing the friendship than I am tormented by my attraction to him. If I wasn't attracted to him I would probably tell him I'm bi. Hopefully the attraction will fade and I'll still have him as a friend. He's more valuable to me that way.