straight, curious, or bi?

[hotforjocks1346]

Wondering if I could get your guys opinion/advice. Ive always considered myself straight cause ive never had emotional feelings for a guy. I would never date a guy or anything like that and I wanna get married to a girl and have kids and all the stuff but since i was in middle school I have been attracted to guys as well as girls. I was a jock and I was always turned on by checking out the hot guys on my teams. I would fantasize all the time about fucking them and sucking them off, I still do for that matter even while being in a serious relationship with a beautiful wonderful girl. Ive only fooled around with girls (never all the way, im still a virgin and my girlfriend wants to wait till marriage) but every once in awhile i'll have fantasies and jerk off to facebook pics of guys from my football team that I always found hot. Ive thought about hooking up with a guy discretely but im the type of guy that has morals and standards and I dont fool around unless im in a relationship plus i would never cheat on my girlfriend. what would you guys consider me? and do you think I should experiment with a guy before i decide to get engaged?(this girl im with is the one)

Thanks

 

[Seasoned]

You may be gay. But only you are going to be able to answer that question. I wanted to hold off from sex until marriage too. With me it was performance anxiety. That ended when a fruststed girlfriend sat on it. What are your other jackoff fantasies? Don't get married until you know who you are.

 

[fingers]

I think you sound more bi than gay. I suggest you not wait to have sex until after you're married. You need to know if that's what you really want. If you get married and discover you're gay not bisexual, you've screwed yourself.

"Wait until marriage" is a great way to cement yourself into a dungeon. You need to know if you're sexually compatable before you make a lifetime commitment.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

Here is a radical idea for Internet. You are just attracted to someone emotionally and physically. With a female you are going to have children. With a male you are going to adopt if you wish to have children.

You can hide under words like BI straight and even Gay but at the end of the day how you decide to treat people around you no matter how the ( society ) treats you if you choose the gay option or it is choosen for you, is up to you.

Currently many societies are still coming out of the dark ages as they still decide for you no matter you are included in it or not. For example Race color reglion economics. How you choose to show your affection for another should be of no concern to anyone but the people involved and in that the responsiblity that goes with it with what goes for the world today.

Or there is the option of joining the comic world that live on the Internet and off it who do not want to deal with the complicated problems their society has in just being able to show affection and join those who use the people under what is called the GAY no matter how they are treated or made to live.

 

[slnattak]

If all you do is treat guys like manwhores, that's all you will be treated in return.

I mean I don't understand some people. It's a psychological fact genders are more equal than not, that men have just as many feelings as women- and yet people still think they have some god-given right to treat men poorly, and play with their feelings.

Would the universe really implode if you showed intimate/affection to another man? And not just use him as a meathole?

It sounds like you want to be irresponsible. You know that with two men- there's going to be less barriers to fool around, since men tend to be easier than women. Sperm is cheap. Eggs are expensive.

You're still getting another human being involved, buddy! If you want to play around discreetly- well you are opening yourself up to all kinds of stds and heartaches. But if you would just 'come out' a little bit , you would start attracting healthy gay guys - who don't have stds, that like themselves enough to not do that.

So I hope you see the dillemma you caused yourself. And once again, it has NOTHING to do with where you like to stick your dick into, and everything to do with how you treat other people. If you think you can have 'downlow sex' with no consequences, you are in for a rude awakening.

 

[theFallenGod]

You have never had sex with a woman... and you fantasize about having sex with men... and yet you are engaged to a woman...

Sounds like the only reason you are engaged to the woman is because society has told you you have to and you are definitely going to be in for one hell of a rough ride when you finally do decide to come out.

 

[hotforjocks1346]

You have never had sex with a woman... and you fantasize about having sex with men... and yet you are engaged to a woman...

Sounds like the only reason you are engaged to the woman is because society has told you you have to and you are definitely going to be in for one hell of a rough ride when you finally do decide to come out.

Well first I guess I should clarify, I fantasize about women more than I do men. Im just saying that I do have fantasies about men sometimes too. Also I have done everything except go all the way (for her religious beliefs which i choose to respect) I know im not gay cause I have never felt feelings for a guy. Feelings as in Butterflies in the stomach, crushing, thinking about them when there gone constantly, and just straight up fallen in love. Ive felt those feelings many times for quite a few girls all throughout my life but never for a single guy. I just find some guys sexy and have sexual thoughts once in awhile and have for a long time. I really think theres a big difference between emotional feelings and sexual feelings. Its just like I find jennifer love hewitt sexy as hell and would love to fuck the shit out of her but I have no emotinal feelings towards her, granted I've never met her lol but you get my point.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

But would jennifer love hewitt like to have her shit fucked out by you?

if you feel it natural then you have no more thinking on the matter.

If you do not feel it natural then your problem is with the culture that raised you unless you wish the Internet to feed your fantasies or those who share your fear of just being themselves and not hiding under the cover of excuses labels and the endless churning of approval that many on the Internet look for so they can feel it is okay to go out in the world and do it.
Unless it is of course just to play with words on the Internet.

 

[Caaake]

okay so your straight (because you choose and enjoy being in emotional/sexual relationships with a woman) with a side of liking guys, your my defintion of Bi. You're def not gay. You get off on what you get off on.. no big deal. I've heard of guys that consider themselves straight that have the same exact situation as you, its hot. And I think you should do shit with a guy before getting in engaged, yes. Try it.. have sum sexy fun, boy. And don't forget to tell us about it

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

Well with a nick HOFORJOCKS what more can one say! Enjoy your female and male jockeys and you win the race

 

[blackbeltninja]

I find myself in a similar position to you - emotional attraction to women, physical attraction to men and women. I believe I am bisexual; others believe otherwise.

I do agree with the posters who say you need to find out about yourself before you get married, though - there's no need for any civilian casualties here.

Good luck. You may find the answers, or at least start to find the answers, from hanging out with us in here - stick around for a bit and see what's what. You'll figure yourself out as you go along.

-d-

 

[danny456]

From a personal perspective (& i'm no psychologist) I would say go and try out your fantasy ... if you want to. You'll either learn that you want to keep it as a pure fantasy or you might discover something much more fun. It took me a while to build up the courage to fool around with blokes (mainly because society dictated that I should like girls) but I have never looked back. Whatever you do, make sure you are happy .... it's your life

 

[hotforjocks1346]

Thanks for the advice guys, especially those who pmed me. I really think its just im a real horny guy lol and a hot body and ass drives me wild whether its a girl or a guy so im sexually attracted to both. Feelings/emotions wise though i just fall for girls i love the personalities, the smell, the little cute things they say and do. I just dont have feelings like that for guys. I think just all it is is that its hot to think about and even jerk off to when im alone and horny but if faced with it in person like one on one i wouldnt be turned on by a mans touch. A lot of it has to with the fact also that Im really a guy who bases sex/fooling around on emotion and love more than lust, I really couldnt just goto the bar and meet up with a girl or guy for an hour and than go back to my place and fool around with them its just not me, Im completely rambling but my basic point is that I think I am a Straight guy who happens to also find guys attractive but has no emotional attachment to men and since i base sex on love and emotional feelings fooling around with a guy just isnt in the cards. And someone said i should just do what makes me happy well im the happiest i have ever been with my girlfriend and even though we havent gone all the way, we do fool around all the time and our physical chemistry is amazing. And maybe once in a great awhile when i get some thoughts of hot guys i can sneak on here when shes not looking lol

 

[hermanding]

you should explore those sexual appetites NOW before going into a marriage and possibly damaging a great girl. your thoughts will not go away because you have married. Find out now. You could wind up miserable as well as your future wife, should you have chosen the wrong direction
ding

 

[simonof1234]

I'm in the same situation apart from i know i love loving(fucking, lol) my GF but i also wanking looking a vids/pics of men. Comments are good. thanks.

 

[Brandon-Bent]

I would experiment before because there is no going back...

 

[conrad]

Be what you are. Your thoughts on what you want to be will mature and/or change. Some have pointed out the way in which society shapes our expectations, but we are also individuals and it helps if we give ourselves permission to go with our own judgment when a relationship gets to the point where sex is likely to happen. In my time pre-marital sex was frowned on but it was pretty common also. IMHO, sex when it happens ought to be a confirmation of the bonds that already have come to exist between two persons.

It would seem to be wise too if you would heed the advice of those who seem to suggest that marrying when you have thoughts concerning men as you have is probably setting you up for problems later. I encourage you to stick to your ideas on the importance of relationship, but there is nothing that prevents you from forming a deep and loving relationship with a male; indeed, I think that would be great and you may discover what side of your sexuality is really dominant. Your girlfriend wants to wait and that is her call, but you want to be sure about yourself before you commit yourself to a permanent relationship as well.

You have lots to sort out, but don't be discouraged others have gone through this uncertainty and have made very necessary and satisfactory accommodations in their situations. You are so right in wanting the input of others. And, I wish you be happy in the choices you must make.

 

[straightup]

Many years ago, I was in your shoes. You, my friend, are just like me. Given a choice. I'll take a hot chick over a guy anytime, without a doubt. But, I also get off jacking off to hot guys on the internet as much as I do when I'm looking at tits and pussy.

You and I are among the lucky people who are bisexual. And seriously, you need to celebrate that! Think about it. Because we're blessed with an attraction to both sexes, we get turned on TWICE as much as gay or straight men.

I married knowing I was bi (but never having hooked up with a guy) and was very much turned on by my wife and loved the sex! But still, within a few years, I felt incomplete and the drive inside of me became too much. Over the next several years, I ended up cheating on my wife with various other men. And I gotta tell you, it was something I SO needed to do. The first time I held and kissed another guy, I finally felt complete. I just wish I'd figured that part out before I got married.

Having lived through this myself, I feel very strongly that for you, it's necessary and very important that you find a guy who you're attracted to and experiment....mess around some. Then you need to seriously decide if that satisfies your curiosity and urges and that the woman that you love will be enough for you for the rest of your life, or, on the other hand, there's a good possibility that, like me and many other bi men, your craving for cock will intensify and eventually overcome you.

It can work, but I strongly suggest you experiment with another guy first and see how you feel about that before making a major lifelong comittment!

 

[tonynchi]

I wouldn't over think it. Just go with your feelings.