Straight friend help - please! :-)

[RRUGER]

this sad and pathetic.

i mean seriouslllly. this is why society views us gays as predators and sexual deviants..no means no its alomist like sexual harassment. how can u sleep at night

plus you are almost n20 years older ????

 

[bobngvl]

you are not desperate??? haha please. you are 37 not getting any younger, 3 years from the big 40. you may be financially sound, attractive, and intelligent, but you are getting older old man. sooner than later you will be fat, old, and more wrinkled than a raisin in the sun. You are like a male version of a cougar going after a younger guy. You say you may have so called "good qualities" but you haven't found a gay dude yet. if he said no the first time, no the second time, an indifference response the third time, he does not want his dick sucked by some dude. i mean you asked him three times and he said naaa. lol i bet the third time he must have been high as hell because he kinda said "he would consider it". if he was sober and thinking clearly he would say nope not for me. You should go try to find a sexual relationship with a gay dude. man seriously, straight are for straight and gay is for gay. it's like a lesbian trying to hit on a gay dude, it's not going to happen. you very desperate old man, just leave the good friendship you have right now, go do your sexual thing with some gay dude.

Thank you Steve! Now will you do me a favor? Could you please teach everyone here how to properly offer advice? I'll thank you again if you could do that. People, this man knows how to do it!

I am not being a smartass. You have helped me to seriously call it quits. Yes, when I first read your response I thought you were a prick. And maybe you are but if so, then a prick is what I needed. (Yes, you can easily can make a joke outta that sentence - I'm simply choosing not to.) Your reply was the cold bucket of water to the face which has helped me realize what I was doing. Not just acting creepy - more importantly I was risking the best relationship that I have have established in many years. With a str8 or gay boy or str8/gay girl. I already knew and feared that saying or doing anything COULD screw it up, yet I was just that damn determined (you can substitute 'desperate' here of course! lol)

It wasn't until you dick-slapped me back into consciousness that losing his friendship is would feel SO much worse than whatever pleasure I could possibly hope for. Then I realized how I had been deluding myself into seeing it as a real possibility. I believed that he would be able to see it the same way as I did. Today when I met him and some other old coworkers for lunch, we sat directly across from each other. I really don't even remember what we all talked about because I was planning my next step. A few times our eyes met and we each paused, gazing deeply into the other's eyes. Not long enough to be noticeable to the casual observer but seriously intense. His pupils slightly dilating and the baby blue deepening to more a royal blue.

At least that is what I thought! Alas . . . I don't know if you'd call it a hallucination or just my eyes playing tricks on me or what. Seriously, my heart started beating faster and a lil extra blood flowed down and through my member. Looking back I see my problem - love. It's happened before. With a girl back when I thought I was straight. I was totally blinded (and used) by her. When I woke up from that experience I swore it would never happen again. So much for the best laid plans. He slipped under my radar and I will go back and figure out how, but damnit! It has happened again!

I've got a LOT of thinking to do. When I began typing tonight, I planned to say thanks and let everyone know that I am now ending my pursuit. And luckily, I am doing so while keeping a great friend. Thanks all but especially stevexxx. Were it not for your blunt analysis, who knows how it would have ended.

PS - Steve, I saw on your profile that you are str8. I think that's really cool. For some reason knowing that you were speaking from a str8 point of view helped. I don't know why, but it did.

 

[stevexxx]

Thank you Steve! Now will you do me a favor? Could you please teach everyone here how to properly offer advice? I'll thank you again if you could do that. People, this man knows how to do it!

I am not being a smartass. You have helped me to seriously call it quits. Yes, when I first read your response I thought you were a prick. And maybe you are but if so, then a prick is what I needed. (Yes, you can easily can make a joke outta that sentence - I'm simply choosing not to.) Your reply was the cold bucket of water to the face which has helped me realize what I was doing. Not just acting creepy - more importantly I was risking the best relationship that I have have established in many years. With a str8 or gay boy or str8/gay girl. I already knew and feared that saying or doing anything COULD screw it up, yet I was just that damn determined (you can substitute 'desperate' here of course! lol)

It wasn't until you dick-slapped me back into consciousness that losing his friendship is would feel SO much worse than whatever pleasure I could possibly hope for. Then I realized how I had been deluding myself into seeing it as a real possibility. I believed that he would be able to see it the same way as I did. Today when I met him and some other old coworkers for lunch, we sat directly across from each other. I really don't even remember what we all talked about because I was planning my next step. A few times our eyes met and we each paused, gazing deeply into the other's eyes. Not long enough to be noticeable to the casual observer but seriously intense. His pupils slightly dilating and the baby blue deepening to more a royal blue.

At least that is what I thought! Alas . . . I don't know if you'd call it a hallucination or just my eyes playing tricks on me or what. Seriously, my heart started beating faster and a lil extra blood flowed down and through my member. Looking back I see my problem - love. It's happened before. With a girl back when I thought I was straight. I was totally blinded (and used) by her. When I woke up from that experience I swore it would never happen again. So much for the best laid plans. He slipped under my radar and I will go back and figure out how, but damnit! It has happened again!

I've got a LOT of thinking to do. When I began typing tonight, I planned to say thanks and let everyone know that I am now ending my pursuit. And luckily, I am doing so while keeping a great friend. Thanks all but especially stevexxx. Were it not for your blunt analysis, who knows how it would have ended.

PS - Steve, I saw on your profile that you are str8. I think that's really cool. For some reason knowing that you were speaking from a str8 point of view helped. I don't know why, but it did.

no problem, sometimes people just need a slap in the face to come to a realization. hope your friendship goes well and stays strong man.