Straight guy bathhouse questions

[scubott]

Hi, I'm a straight guy but I love sexual adventure and I'm also an exhibitionist and I want to go to a bathhouse, but I'm also kind of scared. I've never touched a guy or been touched by a guy and I'm ready to try, but there things I'm wanting to try and things I'm not. I've only read about bathhouse experiences, so please excuse my ignorance.

So first, what about hugging and kissing? Is this common or is pretty much jump into sucking and fucking? I actually like cuddling and things before sex with women, so I think I'll feel the same way with a guy.

Okay, next, sucking. I'm really afraid of diseases and I so want to try to suck a dick and see what it's like being sucked by a guy, but I'm afraid that will be looked down upon, yet I don't want to risk anything.

And lastly, fucking. I've never given or received anal, straight or gay, but I do love anal plugs, so I think I'm ready as long as condoms are used. One person online wrote that guys will agree to use a condom and then take them off before fucking without you knowing it. Do I need to be afraid of that? And on this topic, is it likely I would find a guy willing to fuck without sucking him or letting him suck me?

Be gentle with me if these questions seem stupid.

 

[seven2go]

Welcome to JUB.........

 

[frankifab]

First of all , don't be afraid

When you enter a gay bathhouse , feel free with your own nudity and with the other guys nudity

Men in those places usually use body language to interact with other men , of course you can kiss , hug and cuddle ( I have hugged , kissed and cuddled with men at the bathhosue , it's not easy to find men who you can do that with though , there has to be a mutual taste for eachother and sexual chemistry )

Maybe others woulddn't agree with me but I would advise you to be sort of picky if you're afraid of STDs , you have to get it on with a guy you're very attracted to , a guy who likes you back . Carry condoms , maybe for the first time you visit the bathhouse avoid sucking dick and avoid getting penetrated take it easy

Allow some guy you fancy to give you head and if he wants to you can top him as well

In case that you find a guy who's worth the risk in your first visit ... you could suck him off and allow him to penetrate you , but you have to make sure there's a mutual taste and sexual chemistry ( In my personal opinion there's nothing better than mutual sucking and mutual fucking ... being versatile is so fun )

Use your intuition , be aware of men who may be into you , use your body language and read other men's body language as well , you can of course talk to other men but be discreet

 

[scubott]

Thank you so much for the info and the advice! I really appreciate it! The nudity part I love. I love being nude around others, and even though I'm straight I love the ideas of others being naked around me, male, female or whatever, so that part is totally intriguing to me.

Strangely, I didn't think of kind of taking it easy during my first visit. I guess in my head it was all or nothing, but that might be a good idea.

I think the chemistry I have will have to be with personality. It's hard to describe because I get turned on my females and never felt attracted to any guy, but I'm totally attracted to the thought of being with a guy for the physical. It's really hard to explain. I'm sure there will be guys I will be like I don't want them touching me, rather than the other way, I'm attracted to them, but I suppose I can sense aggression vs. willing to be understanding with me with this.

I also love the thought of anybody being attracted to me, male or female, but haven't thought about anyone being into me in the bathhouse. Really I just thought about the physical interactions, so I like your idea about using my intuition to see who might be into me because that can be a turn-on, and I like your idea of using my body language to send signals, too.

What do you mean about I can talk to other men but be discreet?

 

[frankifab]

Hello again , first of all when I mentioned that you ought to be discreet ...
I meant you can chat with others , just don't be loud

As a way of teasing and showing you're interested you can show your boner to some guy you like , if he is interested he will approach you right away , if he isn't don't be discouraged and try with somebody else ... You can touch other guys in a subtle manner to show you're interested .... you can just gently touch their shoulders and smile to show you're interested , as I previously said , don't be discouraged if you're not liked back ( Finding willing Men in a bathhouse can be kind of easy sometimes , other times it feels like an impossible pursuit ... it's like a gamble you see )
Also when men who you're not attracted to , when they touch you ( sometimes some rude men dare to grab the buttocks or the cock when they aren't welcome )

Anyway when men that you don't like touch you , just gently push away their hands and you may even say thanks but no

It's just a matter of intuition and body language, the first time I went all bymyself to a real gay sauna in another city I was 23 ... I was lucky my first day and I was able to find a guy I truly liked and I had a memorable experience cus I was really into him , there were other occasions when I was hopelessly bored walking around the facilities


As I said it's like a gamble , just show yourself as a confident daring fella , do not be embarrassed to show your manhood to others in areas where you notice other men are showing off , you may sit , open up your towel , caress your thighs , your balls , jack off , stare at guys you like ... well just do it the way you think works best for you

 

[scubott]

Thanks!

 

[jockofstrap]

You gain your confidence once you visit the baths. I was scared first time went to THE CLUB in St. Louis. As gay man met guy who gave me tour made me relaxed as we cruised the areas. I have been back several times and feel like a pro. Love the steam room action glory holes and fucking in the room.

 

[scubott]

You gain your confidence once you visit the baths. I was scared first time went to THE CLUB in St. Louis. As gay man met guy who gave me tour made me relaxed as we cruised the areas. I have been back several times and feel like a pro. Love the steam room action glory holes and fucking in the room.

Thanks! A glory hole is a fantasy of mine! What are your thoughts about STIs and condoms?

 

[frankifab]

Hello again Scubott I am just expressing my personal opinion from my experiences

You will witness lots of men having bareback sex , but one doesn't have to be like the majority

I think it's better to wear condoms whether you are topping or bottoming . You may take a risk to get it on without a condom once in a blue moon ( but that's your own responsibility ... I've done it a few times , fortunately nothing happened , but it's better to be wary and cautious )

I hope you get to visit the bathhouse soon so you can share your experience

Take Care

 

[Superboy69]

I love bathhouses! I have been to many - mostly in the Los Angeles area. Most of the guys here have given you good advice.

Don't be afraid. Explore. Take your time looking around. If you don't find anyone to play with, don't blame yourself or anyone else. Sometimes there are great sexual experiences, sometimes nothing!

Me - as a top, I'm looking to fuck a guy. I always take condoms with me, for protection!

I also love just getting a good blowjob! So, I always check out the dark rooms or movie rooms. I go in, find a spot that is comfortable. Unwrap my towel, take out my dick in my hand and start stroking! Someone will come along to kneel in front of you and start sucking! You can tell him to slow down or speed up - that's okay.

Just keep in mind - We're all horny men. We are all fuckers. We are there to enjoy our sexuality. Have fun, enjoy being who/what you are!