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"straight" guy having curious thoughts

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hi im 30 years old from newcastle uk - i have always been straight all my life but over the last year i have been having thoughts about men.

i dont find men attractive in day 2 day life but when ever i see i hard cock i start to have fantasy/day dreams about being fucked.


it all started when i joined my local gym for the first time. whenever i got into the locker room i say all these fit athletic men coming out of the showers - ever since ive been starting to watch gay porn masturbating over it which ive never done before. theres something about the raw animal of a man i keep having a fantasy about getting fucked.

dont think this should be normal to live 30 years and straight and now start having these thoughts - if anyone whos lives close id love to chat sometime.


thanks
 
There are plenty of guys who realized they were gay far later in life than that. There are commonalities of experience, but there is also variety in how sexuality is expressed. You'd have to provide a bit more context for us to make a decent guess but just from what you posted, if you are still attracted to women I'd say you're bi, if this begins to overtake your attraction to women, I'd say you've been repressing which is not at all uncommon, just not healthy.

Also think about what you're saying, you could be fetishizing the cock (and hey, is that really a bad thing) for some kink. Let your body be your guide, if you listen to it, you not only will find where you need to be, but you'll have a fucking good time (heh) along the way.
 
Oh yeah, consider your post, you say you don't find men attractive, but then you say this started from being around a bunch of attractive men. No gay man is attracted to EVERY man on the planet, if you are attracted to men, you still won't be attracted to most of them anyway.
 
So, is this about being attracted to men or is it about being dominated/fucked by men?

Or both?
 
just to clarify - when i say im not attracted to men - i mean that when i see your everyday man on the street i feel nothing the majority of the time - but every now and then if i see someone with a good body with a nice arse (mainly at the gym haha) i fantasise about what it would be like to suck cock etc.

and yes its not so much being "attracted" to men its the idea of being very submissive to a man and curiousty of what feeling of being fucked by a man is.
 
just to clarify - when i say im not attracted to men - i mean that when i see your everyday man on the street i feel nothing the majority of the time - but every now and then if i see someone with a good body with a nice arse (mainly at the gym haha) i fantasise about what it would be like to suck cock etc.
Well, that's how most gay men would also describe their feelings. They're not attracted to all men- there's certain preferences and it's often more about the overall package and not just the um... "package".

and yes its not so much being "attracted" to men its the idea of being very submissive to a man and curiousty of what feeling of being fucked by a man is.
Then you're probably best described as bicurious with a definite submission fetish.

The next question is whether the fantasies are enough or do you want to take the next step.
 
You didn't mention women in your post, you said that you had always been str8, have you found your interest to women waning since the attraction to men began?
Sometimes one claims str8 by default until a catalyst pushes their gay button.

I would tell you that one does not "turn" gay, they discover that they are gay or bi.
 
When you masterbate,do you finger your hole? And if you do does it cause you to shoot?If it causes you to shoot,do you shoot harder then you normally do? Do you have fantasies of being submissive to a man only in bed,or all the time? I.E. being collared.Shaved down,and trained to service and serve your Master's body?
 
You are gay then.

No matter how beautiful womens are, gays are not attracted to women LOL
 
Maybe you are a submissive slave inside and that is the source of your attraction...

Interesting though...a lot of people assume that men who have sex with men are gay. I don't. I think there are maybe 589 shades of sexuality and our need for labels limits some of our perceptions....
 
Our culture fetishizes masculine athletic prowess. It would seem to me that all straight men have to come to terms with pecking order. It would also seem to me that its a cultural taboo that prevents some (most) straight men from exploring anal pleasure. Two things: don't be afraid to experiment with toys and don't be afraid of your sexuality wherever it takes you. All the best to you.
 
When you masterbate,do you finger your hole? And if you do does it cause you to shoot?If it causes you to shoot,do you shoot harder then you normally do? Do you have fantasies of being submissive to a man only in bed,or all the time? I.E. being collared.Shaved down,and trained to service and serve your Master's body?

the want of being submissive is mainly in bed - not into the collared stuff lol thats too much - and yea ive tried finger my hole when mastrbating and i shot HARD lol!oops!
 
the want of being submissive is mainly in bed - not into the collared stuff lol thats too much - and yea ive tried finger my hole when mastrbating and i shot HARD lol!oops!

You are a total bottom ... :lol:
 
You are still in what I call the "wow-I-didn't-realize-how-sexy-some-guys-look" stage.
Given today's attitudes towards men appreciating other men, sexually or otherwise, it's not surprising your mind is allowing you to fantasize. You don't have enough information - or experience - to know that you'd like this, other than that you appreciate "fit" guys. I mean, look at the commercials on tv: some straight guy sits next to Michael Jordan on a plane, and, because they wear the same underwear, proclaims, "You and I could be brothers!" To which, of course, Michael Jordan says, "no, we couldn't." And the guy continues to insist they could. Straight men have their own version of attraction to other men, but usually based on hero worship. I see no reason why that couldn't be taken further to a straight guy who idolizes Michael Jordan thinking, "Wow, if he made a pass at me, how would I react? I WORSHIP this guy! He's the greatest basketball player EVER!" It's not hard to imagine straight men melting down when one of their heroes even just puts his arm around their shoulder. You can SEE them beaming, and later on, when they're relating the story to their buddies, their buddies go, "You LUCKY bastard! Fuck, why couldn't that have been me?" The attraction may not be sexual, but it sure is a kind of romantic ideal.
Some of homophobia comes from a fear of being less manly and the other stereotypes associated with even liking other guys (and how many of us didn't worship our older brothers? That's where it starts. I didn't worship mine, but I sure looked up to him). In fact, in Britain, an article recently came out that 39% of British men not only kissed their male friends, but had actually made out with them. And the researcher was shocked, because, well, wouldn't that be "gay" as he put it??? (It wa also pointed out that American men were pretty far behind in that respect of demonstrating affection. Ah, those crazy (and neurotic) Americans. We shoot each other, but kiss another guy? GOD FORBID!!!

In your case, a sense of "Hmmm, I wonder that it'd be like to be with another guy…" isn't all that farfetched - or even strange. You're of a younger generation, where guys aren't as uptight as guys in their 40s, 50s and 60s. And finding another guy attractive, what with even male actors saying they've tried it out, gives one a feeling of relief, as in "So, I'm not weird for thinking another guy's sexy." I think straight men have always found their straight buddies handsome, and have said as much, although not in a sexual way. Many, many men wanted to look like - and BE - Cary Grant. They saw him as a really good-looking, masculine guy and they didn't mind admiring that he was attractive.
And, if you still like women, too, then you've simply added to, as David Geffen once said, the possibility of having twice as good a chance of getting a date on Saturday night!
You're young, guy. Don't overthink it. Try to relax INTO it and allow yourself to enjoy it without the negative connotations that society has put on men for centuries (exclude the Greeks, by the way). They encouraged the worship of older men by younger ones, including sex, until the younger man was well into his 20s, although it seems, in literature, to have happened more when the man was "a beautiful youth" of 18 or so… Even Apollo was said to have had flings with men...
 
It's a whole new world opening up for you. It's liberating when you finally allow yourself to enjoy whatever it is sexually that turns you on. Whether it's a woman, a hot guy at the gym, fingers up your butt, thoughts of being dominated/submissive, etc. Label yourself straight, bisexual, whatever...doesn't matter, whatever you are comfortable with. Perhaps you start by buying yourself a Dildo and have fun fantasizing about some guy fucking you or you sucking him off, or you take the plunge and actively pursue it. Maybe your girlfriend would consider putting on a strap-on, and bang you silly (some women are into it!). Maybe you'll like it, maybe not. You won't know 'til you try...just might find out that you're more open minded and/or even kinkier than you ever imagined.
 
the want of being submissive is mainly in bed - not into the collared stuff lol thats too much - and yea ive tried finger my hole when mastrbating and i shot HARD lol!oops!

Then you need to explore the sensitivity of your hole.If a finger did that,just think what something bigger will do.Purchase a small Dildo to use while you masterbate.If you like it then move up to a bigger one.Oh,and you're gay. Like when a maiden aunt tells you that the reason you're not married is that you haven't met the right girl.Well in this case you haven't met the right man
 
all i can say is meet a nice guy you really begin to like and sexually fool around a bit with him..........eventually the time will come when you can ask him to fuck you. get well prepared, go slow and see how much you two enjoy it. it may not be all the sex you want but you will see if a big cock from a nice guy inside you fulfills your desire...........passion will take over and you will find fucking with a guy can be amazing !
 
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