"Straight" guy I met on Craigslist

[Rex]

I posted an ad on craigslist looking for a dude to hook up.

I got a bunch of responses from guys who came off as really weird and nothing like what I asked for in my ad but surprisingly, some guy who was exactly what I was looking for responded.

We talked on the phone for a while and I went over to his place. Now let me tell you, this dude had no gay traits about him. He was completely straight in his characteristics. He was 29, muscular, good looking, tattoos, facial hair and didn't carry himself like a stereotypical gay guy at all. I told him I was bi and he told me he considers himself straight, not even bi. I am telling you though, this guy was damn hot.

Well anyway, we had mutual oral and I rimmed him (so fucking hot) for about a good hour or so. He'd never been rimmed so he thought it was weird but ended up liking it a lot and his ass was so hot. He took some vicadin beforehand so he had a problem getting hard at some points and took a long time for him to cum but eventually did. We both agreed to meet up again.


After I left, he called me on my way home. We talked about his family, my family, jobs, etc. Then I gave him my screen name and we talked a little bit more when I got home.

Now I'm wondering, is he looking for more than just a hookup fuck buddy? I mean, he claims he's straight, which I know he is bi but just doesn't like to admit it, but he obviously was interested in more than just sex and gave me indication that he liked me. Like a friendship at the very least. He told me the only other guy he did anything sexually with got weird with him but didn't go into details. I'm thinking maybe that guy wanted a relationship or something and that pushed him away.

I don't know if he would be comfortable with that. I wasn't either with any other guys who I had a relationship with and it never lasted long, but with him I've never felt more comfortable with another guy. Usually after I cum, I just want to bounce and leave but with him we were both very cool with each other.

So my question is, is there a possibility he is looking for more than just sex, maybe a relationship more than just a friendship? I don't want to ask him that if there is a chance it might push him away or make him uncomfortable and I know it's probably early to be thinking like that. What do you guys think?

 

[lonnie1]

I'd find out what the other guy did that he considered weird before trying to change the nature of the relationship. If he tells you, you can better assess what to do.

 

[Bruski-101]

One day at a time.I've never been rimmed but have others.If you can be patient it will show.

 

[jerich69]

100% fag,gay,cocksucker,friends with benifits,fuckbuddies NO not for relationship

 

[Rex]

OK Marley, I will give more updated info when I see him more. I understand I didn't really give too much information.

By him having no gay characteristics, I mean if you were to see him on the street and talk to him, you would never in a million years guess he was bi. He's completely masculine and most gay guys aren't. That's the type of guys I'm attracted to. I know most people on this forum always have issues with that but it's my preference.

 

[DON55]

I've always subscribed to the theory that once you suck a cock...you're gay.

The issue of a possible relationship is one that everyone faces after a first 'date'. Forget about a relationship at this point. You need to see if you have anything else in common with this guy (remember, you met him on-line...you only know one side of his personality).

As for the rimming..........LOVE, LOVE to rim!!!!!

 

[Rex]

i agree, that's my preference as well, but some of your comments have sounded more anti-feminine than pro-masculine.

personally i wish you the best but i don't know how you expect to have an understanding of the dynamic of you guys' relationship if you won't ask him any of these important questions.

I will ask him eventually. Unfortunately I haven't been able to talk to him.

He only prefers to call me private. I'm thinking the guy he used to hook up with had something to do with that.

 

[Rex]

ooh, i hate that, the private calls. to me this situation would be more work than it's worth but as long as it gets your rocks off and doesn't cause you any stress, i can't object

Oh he is worth it. You need to see what he looks like.

 

[Nagash]

Just remember to take things slow man. Nearly nothing in any relationship is to be gained though moving quickly. Good things come to those who wait.

 

[Storybook_Man]

One day at a time.I've never been rimmed but have others.If you can be patient it will show.

Wow I feel sorry for you. Getting rimmed feels GREAT! Its a tad bit disgusting, but if you got a clean hole, or the other person does, go for it.

 

[Rex]

This guys ass was clean as a whistle.

Only problem was his ass was big (in a good way) so it was hard for me to do it but he loved it.

 

[CGHJ]

Dude do NOT change your avatar. DON'T!!

And congratulations, he sound pretty hot. Just BE SAFE, you don't know where he's been and if he's "straight" but enjoys mutual oral and rimming with strangers you can bet he's in denial. If he called you then don't push, just be receptive to whatever. You could easily scare him away but if left to his own he will make his intentions abundantly clear. Have fun!

 

[Rex]

He hasn't called me yet. It's been almost two days and I haven't heard from him in phone, email, or IM. I know I'm jumping to conclusions but I hope he didn't change his mind. I'm thinking too much into this.

I will let you guys know when I hear from him and keep everyone updated. I like getting feedback.

As for my avatar, no I'm not gonna change it. Perry Saturn is one of my favorite wrestlers of all time. It's not THAT bloody or gory. Get real.

 

[Rex]

I just got back from seeing that guy again.

This time wasn't as hot as the first time because he was tired but we both did mutual oral and then jerked off together.

I asked him if he ever tried doing anything besides oral. He said "no" in a way like he wouldn't be interested in doing anything else but damn I want to kiss him so bad.

Would it be a bad idea to ask him if he would ever try that? Or how can I get him to?

 

[tonyboy]

OK Marley, I will give more updated info when I see him more. I understand I didn't really give too much information.

By him having no gay characteristics, I mean if you were to see him on the street and talk to him, you would never in a million years guess he was bi. He's completely masculine and most gay guys aren't. That's the type of guys I'm attracted to. I know most people on this forum always have issues with that but it's my preference.

Sorry to sort of hijack your thead about the 'straight guy' here man...
But just had say something about your comment about most gay guys not being masculine....
That is a totaly fallacy.
Most gay guys are masculine. Not all of course, but from my experience most are.

Usually you won't know a gay guy from a straight guy unless he says he's gay.
Some gay guys are fem, that's for sure. And they are obiously gay.... but they have no choice but to be open cause everyone knows they are gay.

I don't know the age of your new friend but I'd say he is gay all the way.
If he liked being rimmed I'd say he is gay and just doesn't want to label himslef that way.
No problem with that.... I've seen that many of the young guys that post on jub say they are bi.... and I'd figure that they just aren't ready to say gay.
And some are probably truly 'bi'....
Doesn't matter though.
Just don't figure that most gays are not masculine.... that is a sterotype that needs to be put at rest.
Ok, back to the responses to your thread.

 

[Rex]

Why does him liking being rimmed mean he's gay?

I think he's bi. As for his age, he's 29.

I also don't agree. I think most gay guys are feminine. I know there are a lot of dudes who are deep in the closet and I guess this all depends on your definition of masculine but from my experience, most gay guys have qualities that can tell you they're gay. The ones that don't are rare.

 

[fireside]

there are straight boys who like it when girls play with their anuses...rimming, poking, whatever. they're not gay, that's just what they like. it's not an automatic "ooh he got rimmed he's gay" or "ooh he blew a dude he's gay". Sometimes people try things just to try them; they find out if it's for them or not.

 

[Rex]

I'm considering telling this guy how I really feel about him. I know he doesn't want to get serious with a guy and is in denial about his sexuality but I don't think I just keep having casual sex with him because I'm always going to want it to be more more than that, and If I continue with it I'm just going to be thinking about it and I won't be able to get him off my mind. I'm thinking maybe it's just best for me to stop seeing him because I can't get him off my mind. If I stop seeing him I can just eventually get over it and forget about him.

This is hard to do because if you guys would see what he looked like you'd think I'm crazy. I should just be satisfied with casual oral sex with a guy like him but I like him too much. I hope I don't regret it if I go through with telling him that.

 

[NoahChicago27]

how about showing us what you look like? a picture would be nice

 

[Rex]

how about showing us what you look like? a picture would be nice

I posted a pic in one of my other threads but didn't show my face. I prefer to remain anonymous.

Anyway, incase anyone is interested; about a week and a half ago I saw the guy again. We did some oral but he was a lot less interested in talking this time around. The sex also wasn't as good as the first time around but still hot. He seemed a lot cooler and interested the first time we hooked up because we talked for a good while and seemed like we'd be friends. So a few days after I talk online with him and he tells me that he's back with his girlfriend and that we probably won't be hooking up anymore but there is always the possibility because he and his girlfriend always break up.

It kind of hurt but I understood where he's coming from. I don't know if I'll ever see him again but today I sent him an email asking if ever wanted to just hang out (nothing sexual) we could always do that but to be honest I don't think it will happen because it could be too tempting for him to cheat on his girl.

I'll miss him. If anyone is interested in seeing what he looked like I could private send you his pic.