Straight Guy with Dick On the Brain

[G-Lexington]

>>>What the hell do I do?

Prepare to sort through all the PMs you'll be getting to find out which guy is closest to you.

Lex

 

[josher]

At most it sounds as if you're bisexual.

 

[new86]

in your position you should think to your girlfriend. it is not right to cheat on her

for your feelings... live them, don't be afraid to explore new territories.
but don't do it while you have a GF.

 

[breatheH20]

If there were more "straight" guys like you, i'd be getting laid a lot more...

go with it, but don't do your gf like that.

it's one thing to cheat on a girlfriend, it's worse when it's with another guy (at least to her it will be).

 

[youngnihilist]

if you wanna get your dick sucked off craigslist by another "straight bro" tahts fine and probably safe. a good way to explore.

be very wary of advertising yourself to get gang raped. because you'll probably end up hating it, getting brutalized and scarred for life.

 

[Soilwork]

I'm really just baffled at how people convince themselves that they're straight but want some gay sex.

But it's not gay sex.. it's just sex with men.. cuz you know.. that's not gay.

Being bisexual really isn't such a horrible thing. Or so I'm told, anyway.

Just allow yourself to enjoy what you enjoy and stop trying to cling to some word (in this case "straight") that doent' really apply.

 

[G-Lexington]

I guess I'm a vegetarian that just loves eating meat a lot.

Lex

 

[Spiff]

I'm not interesting in gay sex exactly. But once again if power is put into the scenario It becomes very appealing. For example I fantasize about being overpowered and forced to have sex by a group of men(or one if he's strong enough). But thats the only way gay sex even appeals to me.

Looks like to me that you're officially declaring yourself as a bottom. Also looks like to me that you are interested in gay sex . . .exactly.

 

[Críostóir]

I guess I'm a vegetarian that just loves eating meat a lot.

Lex

And superheroes
Come to feast,
To taste the flesh
Not yet deceased,
And I all I know
Is still the beast
Is feeding.

 

[Soilwork]

And superheroes
Come to feast,
To taste the flesh
Not yet deceased,
And I all I know
Is still the beast
Is feeding.

FUCK, I love that song.

And it's so true.

You gotta own the fact that you like what you like.

 

[bzeus69]

I'm really just baffled at how people convince themselves that they're straight but want some gay sex.

But it's not gay sex.. it's just sex with men.. cuz you know.. that's not gay.

Being bisexual really isn't such a horrible thing. Or so I'm told, anyway.

Just allow yourself to enjoy what you enjoy and stop trying to cling to some word (in this case "straight") that doent' really apply.

<3 Soil

 

[spreadeagle]

Your sex life with your girl-friend is not completely fulfilling and your fantasies about what's lacking - male dominance, control and submission - are occupying increasing psychological space.

If you 'experiment' with men you'll no longer be a gay virgin. If you enjoy it you'll either have to delude yourself (and your girl-friend) or you'll have to break off with her completely. I suspect that 'this oral thing' may not be something you can 'get out of your system' - the fact is that men have dicks and women don't.

Before going down that road you might consider whether more of your secual needs could be met within your current relationship. Do you have a dildo? Would your g/f wear a strap-on and fuck you? Had you thought of joining a wrestling club?

 

[provenlogic]

What do you do? Go out and find yourself a group of men to "force" you to have sex with them. Have fun, bring lots of lube, and enjoy yourself .

 

[iosif2]

Anyway, my problem is that I want to get this oral thing out of my system but I have a girlfriend. I'm not interested in the gay lifestyle so I'ld rather do this secretly so as not to deal with a life time of fallout just because of curiosity.

There's no reason to believe you will ever get anything out of your system. Indulging in gay sex will most assuredly reaffirm your desires and make it unbearably difficult or impossible to avoid afterwards. There is no putting it behind you, as though it never happened. So there will be fallout, even if it is psychological.

When you say you're not interested in the gay lifestyle, I'm confused. If you are referring to a stereotypical flamboyant gay lifestyle, that's something else. I don't see how that relates to having gay sex. Straight acting gay and bi men are everywhere who don't adopt flamboyant lifestyles.

Best get a grip on your feelings and desires before you hurt someone else (like your gf). I would stay away from cheating and finding out that you can't let go of your fantasies. Then what would you do? You deserve to explore your sexuality and understand and accept yourself. Put your relationship on hold and get adjusted to yourself first. I tell you this from experience. I'm a married man who didn't come to terms with my fantasies until too late. Now I've caused lots of grief for my wife. What I did to her wasn't fair. Don't go down the same path. Be honest with yourself and do the right thing. You can enjoy both sexes, just do it without deceiving others, cuz you'll only really be deceiving yourself. Peace

 

[Soilwork]

I'm not interested in the gay lifestyle so I'ld rather do this secretly so as not to deal with a life time of fallout just because of curiosity.

this one is really sticking in my craw.

there IS NO SUCH THING as "the gay lifestyle."

Gay people are just as diverse as straight people.. we're all different and we do and like different things. Just being gay doesn't mean you have to dress in drag, crack whips and dance to Donna Summer.

Being gay just mean that you like guys. Most of the men here at JUB are just regular guys who have VERY different lifestyles than each other.

What the hell do I do?

Snap out of it.

 

[rareboy]

Well, am i the only person troubled by the fact that for you sex is apparently just about power?

....and not giving pleasure?

I'll just bet this need for control and dominance is present in every aspect of your relationships with people.

I don't think that any guy needs a blowjob that badly.

....unless they're wired to be a 'submissive' and then you'll both have fun.

 

[123kid]

this one is really sticking in my craw.

there IS NO SUCH THING as "the gay lifestyle."

Gay people are just as diverse as straight people.. we're all different and we do and like different things. Just being gay doesn't mean you have to dress in drag, crack whips and dance to Donna Summer.

WELL DAMN IT!! I have been dancing to Donna Summer all this time and didn't even need to. I thought it was a prerequisite, boy was i fooled.

 

[provenlogic]

Well, am i the only person troubled by the fact that for you sex is apparently just about power?

....and not giving pleasure?

I'll just bet this need for control and dominance is present in every aspect of your relationships with people.

I don't think that any guy needs a blowjob that badly.

....unless they're wired to be a 'submissive' and then you'll both have fun.

Whats wrong with having sex for a feeling of power? People do it all the time, it's one of the many joys of sex. There's nothing wrong with having sex to feel powerful, and a lot of people don't have sex to "give" pleasure, people have sex for all different reasons. There's nothing wrong with that unless you cross "that line" between willing partners and not willing partners.

 

[probeteam1]

Yep. SO I'm a "straight" young male that is very curious about what it would be like to suck dick.

Let me explain. I have only slept with women so far and I love pussy. The smell, the taste, the look, the feel. But for a long time now i've been curious about sucking dick. The reason?

POWER

I feeling of power turns me on. One of the main reasons I love eating pussy is because of the reaction of my lover. The y Squirm, scream, moan, curse me, ect ect and love every minute of it because I make them react. When they try to resist its all the better.
So I started thinking I can do this same thing to a guy. I could make him squirm and moan and fight me with my oral god-like skills!

I'm not interesting in gay sex exactly. But once again if power is put into the scenario It becomes very appealing. For example I fantasize about being overpowered and forced to have sex by a group of men(or one if he's strong enough). But thats the only way gay sex even appeals to me.

Anyway, my problem is that I want to get this oral thing out of my system but I have a girlfriend. I'm not interested in the gay lifestyle so I'ld rather do this secretly so as not to deal with a life time of fallout just because of curiosity.

What the hell do I do?

Well, what the Hell do you do?
Well, I'd say the first thing you do is a little soul-searching.

How important is it to you that you "get this oral thing out of your system"? If you're doing it and keeping it from your girlfriend, you're effectively cheating on her, and I think a lot of people would probably consider that a Bad Thing. So, is it more important to you than your relationship iwth your girlfriend? Is it more important than any moral or ethical principles you might have about fidelity in a relationship?

Then there's the guy whose dick you'd be sucking. Keep in mind that he might have different feelings about this whole deal than you do. Also keep in mind that it might take a try or two before you can apply genuinely "oral god-like skills" to another man. How much time and effort are you willing to devote? What if you liked it - could you stop at just one?
Are you capable of getting what you want without being a jerk?

What about your other fantasies? For example, I'm sure there are lots of guys who'd be glad to overpower and fuck you, if you asked nicely.

Second, you make some decisions

You don't have to board the giant rainbow parade float just because you suck a dick, even if you enjoy it. You don't have to live the "gay lifestyle" or even come out. The only thing that changes is how you see yourself - and maybe how the other guy sees you.

 

[bluedragon4]

I put my response in pics.