Straight guys and gay sex

[nycguydowntown]

agree with borg---and I think it's naive to think sexuality is black or white just because you see it that way---especially in the hyper sexual society we live in where guys can see all kinds of homo sex on the internet from a young age---generations ago straight guys NEVER saw gay sex or anal or anything so it never crossed their minds---but today, as young guys are always horny---a guy could get curious and curious more than once just like a gay guy can enjoy vagina once in a while.

 

[LeicsDom]

I had a recent rendez-vous with a 30-something guy on a business trip and he couldn't get over two discoveries:
1. He loved having his asshole played with, eaten out, licked, kissed. He's never been able to convince girlfriends to do this

I agree with that. Most of the 'straight/curious' guys I have gone with end up enjoying the novel experience of anal play

 

[LeicsDom]

I had 2 "straight" guys, and one was married but I didn't know until we were at his shop. He told me he didn't do hookups with guys often and never talked to me after that time. The second one didn't care too much for getting rimmed but seemed to like the oral, even though I think he was sort of faking the moaning and I knew I was sucking him good but it was just kind of awkward and he stopped talking to me too and denies that he has curiosity for men. Straight guy problems.

I would guess they are both feeling guilty for having sex with a guy

 

[LeicsDom]

You had sex with women because society rewards you for doing so.

Not rewards. Expects, pressurises you maybe

But then you can only be pushed into doing something against your will if you allow it
I have never ever felt any pressure to be straight so it has never come up with me

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

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[IceColdLover]

I would guess they are both feeling guilty for having sex with a guy

Maybe, but that's not my problem. I did my part and did it good and enjoyed it at the time, but tired of duds using me for sex.

 

[xbuzzerx]

I think men and women are wired differently. Women ovulate once a month and (usually) require more emotional involvement and foreplay to copulate. Men seem more wired to ejaculate in anything willing to reciprocate them without a whole lot of requirements other than stimulation.

I also believe that sexuality is more of a bell curve and very few are completely on either extreme of 100% gay or straight. I think more gay men could have sex with a female than would admit to it. They're just as stigmatized by the idea of it as most straight guys are of the idea of a gay guy being able to get them off.

But would we define sexuality around capability or around inclination?

Gay men have fathered many, many children with women while in the closet all throughout history. Straight men have screwed around with other straight men in prison or on military campaigns away from women for an equally long stretch of time. The capability for anyone of any orientation to have sex with someone outside of their orientation probably approaches nearly 100%. But I think with sexuality we are discussing the psychological, chemical, physical and hormonal responses which drive an individual towards a particular gender for the purposes of sex.

 

[dpnice]

But would we define sexuality around capability or around inclination?

Gay men have fathered many, many children with women while in the closet all throughout history. Straight men have screwed around with other straight men in prison or on military campaigns away from women for an equally long stretch of time. The capability for anyone of any orientation to have sex with someone outside of their orientation probably approaches nearly 100%. But I think with sexuality we are discussing the psychological, chemical, physical and hormonal responses which drive an individual towards a particular gender for the purposes of sex.

I agree with your comments but wondering, apart from the first example you give, if a gay man deprived of all male contact whilst surrounded by women in similar situations would resort to sex with women?

My opinion would be no he wouldn't. Therefore do your arguments, as valid as I think they are, only apply to straight men?

 

[xbuzzerx]

I agree with your comments but wondering, apart from the first example you give, if a gay man deprived of all male contact whilst surrounded by women in similar situations would resort to sex with women?

My opinion would be no he wouldn't. Therefore do your arguments, as valid as I think they are, only apply to straight men?

It is difficult to answer that question because plenty of gay men have resorted to sex with women even without being denied all contact with males. And though it is often tempting for gay men to dismiss that entire practice as entirely repressive social pressure, you can find a very wide continuum of behaviors and lifestyle choices among gay men in societies that vary widely in terms of acceptance. Your question also leads me to believe you have a certain type of gay male in mind, rather than the whole totality of all males who are homosexual. For lack of a better way to phrase it, "Gold Star Gays." If there are "Gold Star Gays", there are also "Gold Star Heterosexuals", though I would say that neither label applies to everyone who is homo and heterosexual.

 

[dpnice]

It is difficult to answer that question because plenty of gay men have resorted to sex with women even without being denied all contact with males. And though it is often tempting for gay men to dismiss that entire practice as entirely repressive social pressure, you can find a very wide continuum of behaviors and lifestyle choices among gay men in societies that vary widely in terms of acceptance. Your question also leads me to believe you have a certain type of gay male in mind, rather than the whole totality of all males who are homosexual. For lack of a better way to phrase it, "Gold Star Gays." If there are "Gold Star Gays", there are also "Gold Star Heterosexuals", though I would say that neither label applies to everyone who is homo and heterosexual.

I see your point of view but ask the question as "social pressure" does, to me, seem the reason that gay men form sexual relationships with women. But would an ordinary gay guy who has never had such relationships with women resort to them when deprived of any male contact?

Come on commit yourself and give me a yes or a no.

 

[xbuzzerx]

I see your point of view but ask the question as "social pressure" does, to me, seem the reason that gay men form sexual relationships with women. But would an ordinary gay guy who has never had such relationships with women resort to them when deprived of any male contact?

Come on commit yourself and give me a yes or a no.

Social pressure acts as a behavior moderator on heterosexuals as well-- not just homosexuals. As little as 30 or 40 years ago, "you got her pregnant so you ARE going to marry her" was a pretty normal reaction from families to sons. It's probably still quite normal in many conservative small towns and religious families. The idea that we see some kind of unbridled or unfettered heterosexual free expression at work when we watch straight people is probably a flawed concept, and flawed to use as a basis for comparison with homosexuals and what they might do "free of any social pressure."

 

[JPGhost]

He can't be straight rite? geez..Im bored already..

 

[JohnnyAnger]

I agree with your comments but wondering, apart from the first example you give, if a gay man deprived of all male contact whilst surrounded by women in similar situations would resort to sex with women?

If sex was available with these women I am stuck with for the foreseeable future I would probably give it a go at least once. I mean, you might as well and that is coming from someone who never bothered to do anything remotely sexual with a woman.

 

[dpnice]

It is really not feasible to form an opinion based on one's sole personal experience but I honestly wouldn't even think about it if I was placed in such a position.

 

[mikemizanin729]

If a gay man fucks a guy who says he's straight then he is NOT a straight man.

 

[bankside]

If a gay man can jack off into a fleshlight he can jack off with a vagina the same way. He's still gay no matter how much he prays or tries to explain it away or hide deeper in that squishy snatchy closet.

So it's fair enough to say if a straight man an jack off into a fleshlight, he can jack off using a guy's ass the same way. He's still straight. In theory.

But things get a bit different when your favourite ass is as sweet as your favourite fleshlight. Own up to the gay at that point.

 

[nyctopgam]

You guys are delusional as fuck! If you have sexual contact with a healthy man who isn't compelled to do so by drugs, force or poverty, then you are sleeping with a homosexual, NOT a Straight man.

Period the end!

IDK. I tend to lean to the straight gay spectrum. Did Kinsey actually have a scale of 1-6? I also suspect male sexual behavior towards other males is fluid in a given society.

But OK. It's only the 21st century and we are still not out of the woods yet. So let's draw in our ranks and call out the ones still in camouflage. It's not that huge of a risk here now. We just need to make sure that the complex nature of sexuality is not used against us by cynical hypocrites.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

^cammmoflage a any ting wot is 1st worldees a eons no vary gurd but no say nothin
_so?_

anyway

maybe world leapers mak law how walk a ons 2 feet
_or tax folkeess feet or parkin feet or lots_
yea dat a 21 st dig tinkin

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