Straight Guys Question

[thermodynamics]

Well, from my experiences, I don't have a "fetish" for straight guys--I just started getting feelings for my straight best friend. I guess I had just been living in denial, thinking I was straight when in fact I was gay.

I've heard some other young gays mention that the only straight guys they've had feelings for were friends. It seems to be a knock over the head of "yep, you're gay. Don't go about hiding it" sort of message from yourself. Don't know if that makes a whole lot of sense to anyone who hasn't had that happen, but it does to me.

 

[Danugh]

I don't mean to offend anyone here, so if I do I am sorry. I was just reading some of the threads and I can't help but wonder why some gay men are so obsessed with 'straight guys'.

Why are you obsessed with gay men that are obsessed with straight men to the point a thread is started about it?

Check it before you wreck it.

I'm listenning to some ole school Britney as i type. I had a shitty day and Brit makes me feel better.

 

[jockboy01]

newboy12, I thought you of all people could answer this question best

 

[Jeimuzu]

Why are you obsessed with gay men that are obsessed with straight men to the point a thread is started about it?

Check it before you wreck it.

I'm listenning to some ole school Britney as i type. I had a shitty day and Brit makes me feel better.

That's not obsession, that's curiousity. If people didn't ask questions about why people do what they do, psychology wouldn't exist. It doesn't take much 'obsession' to start a thread, and frankly a healthy debate has opened up, where we're all trying to work out the answer. I like this sort of debate.

Sorry, but if you think that most gay men are feminine, you need to start hanging out in difference places.

Or just look in your gallery. You're probably the least feminine man I've seen, gay or straight. And yes, that's a compliment

 

[Soilwork]

HAHA

Well, thanks...

although I'm just yet another guy in my crowed of friends. Sure, I have friends who are feminine and friends who are masculine and friends who kinda straddle the line. But in the end, we're all men.

Don't get TOO hooked into the idea that gay men are less masculine than straight men, because it's just not true.

 

[RicanDAB]

Sorry ... a drunken str8 man who will sleep with another guy is an oxymoron ... he's gay - alcohol has lowered his inhibitions enough for him to embrace his subconsious desires! The only guys I feel who deserve the label "str8" are the ones that not only KNOW that they do not play with gay men but who also would not stray that way when drunk and are secure in their sexuality to be friends with gay men too. Thus, a homophobe would also IMHO not be straight.

 

[fuckmuscle52]

Just out of curiosity where are the best places in Oxford street to go?

Oh and abt the whole straight thing, for me its just a matter of being attracted to masculinity and straightness or at least perceived straightness is v. masculine.

Hi mate, just saw message vcxvgbfb -- are u in Sydney. There is a good site with all the venues etc listed and comments about them, try htp://www.squirt.org, and check messages for Sydney.

Lots of guys like Headquarters, I go to Pleasure Chest ( there are more Pleasure chests in Kings Cross, George St and Pitt Street). Of course then there are lots of pubs, bars etc like Midnight Shift, Colombian Hotel, Manacle (for bears etc), and Stone Wall (cute twinks).

Hope this helps.

 

[wentworth]

I don't mean to offend anyone here, so if I do I am sorry. I was just reading some of the threads and I can't help but wonder why some gay men are so obsessed with 'straight guys'.

Personally when I hear the term straight, it's an automatic turn-off for me. I prefer to be with a strong gay man who wants to be with me and isn't ashamed of it.

I'm thinking that a so-called straight guy would have to be convinced or tricked into being with another man, or at least that's the impression I get from some of the threads (and some porn sites I've seen ). Why is it desirable to be intimate with someone who doesn't really want to be there, or can't admit that he wants to be there?

So, if anyone cares to explain, why the obession with straight guys?

I don't mean to belittle anyone's fetish or anything, I was just curious...

I'm always late to these discussions with the most unpopular answer.
No. This is not about "wanting what you can't have" (a real nonsense-explanation that I have never bought as a reason for anything--sexual or non-sexual. It's pure psychobabble.)--
The real reason is that masculinity is more attractive to them than femininity.

Because many people have different notions about what "masculine" and "feminine" are, the word "straight" works much better for descriptive reasons.
Not to mention that those who are most masculine in behavior are less likely to be gay than the general population (gender aversive behavior is more common among gay men).

So that is what they mean by "straight"--masculine.
In a semi-biological sort of way, I cannot fault them. If gay men are just like women, they'll most likely be looking for the same things in men.
That includes "straight boy behavior".

But again. The real reason people use the word "straight", is because "masculine" is now a bastardized word.

(Case in point: there is a show on LOGO called "Noach's Arc" where one of the gay characters--played by a gay actor--is described as "butch". To me he is anything but "butch". As a matter of fact, only the straight actors--who play gay--on the show seem genuinely masculine to me.)

 

[wentworth]

Another case in point:
There was once an MTV documentary called "True Life, I'm living a Lie" or something like that.
In it, there was a gay guy who wanted to come out to his friends as being gay.
He was obviously gay to me (by his mannerisms) even while they showed him going out to parties with straight friends and chatting up girls.
They interviewed his best friend, a girl who he thought didn't know, and she was genuinely perplexed that he thought it was a secret to her and others.
She always knew he wasn't straight.

So he's talking into he camera like he has some big secret when everyone already knows the truth.

I dare say he would have described himself as "masculine" too.

 

[Soilwork]

I was at a party last night at one of my riding buddie's places.

about 3/4 the way through the night, I took a look around the room and figured that about 3/4 of the guys there you'd really have no idea if they were gay or not... a few it would be easy to figure out and a few you'd just never believe in a million years.

But most of the guys there were hot in their own way, so it really didn't matter much.

i think one of the biggest challenges that I had as I came out was to stop viewing gay men as "not as good" as straight men.

As I got more comfortable in my gay skin, I stoped viewing gay men as anything other than men.

 

[none_2362]

You can't help who you fall for. Just wait till a straight guy sweeps you off your feet!

 

[Soilwork]

Straight guys don't "sweep you off your feet" unless you're a female.

being swept off ones feet requires some effort on the sweeper, and straight guys - total mind game players and narcissists aside - don't pursue men.

If you think you're being swept off your feet, it's most likely all in your mind.