'Straight' men who always talk about sex

[micklader]

I have my suspicions (or hopes) that this guy I like at work is tryin to drop hints.

Basically even though I am out he still always comes to me - despite loads of other straight guys - to tell me who the hot girls are around and keeps telling me he needs to get laid and hasn't had any in a while.

The other night, we were chatting on MSN and he kept telling me about what he had been upto in Summer last year and how he had a great time with girls but then he starts typing stuff like - "I just need to get off", "It's been a long time" etc.
I was really taken aback so I changed the conversation to music (we share the same taste) and it was ok then.

I checked with my mate who also works there with him and he says he doesn't talk about sex as much as I make it out be when hes around the other guys.

It does strike me as strange a straight guy would always tell me about his sexual experiences and his current affairs so openly to a gay guy. Do you think he is actually trying to bed me or something? Or wishful thinking?

 

[bcwang]

I have my suspicions (or hopes) that this guy I like at work is tryin to drop hints.

Basically even though I am out he still always comes to me - despite loads of other straight guys - to tell me who the hot girls are around and keeps telling me he needs to get laid and hasn't had any in a while.

The other night, we were chatting on MSN and he kept telling me about what he had been upto in Summer last year and how he had a great time with girls but then he starts typing stuff like - "I just need to get off", "It's been a long time" etc.
I was really taken aback so I changed the conversation to music (we share the same taste) and it was ok then.

I checked with my mate who also works there with him and he says he doesn't talk about sex as much as I make it out be when hes around the other guys.

It does strike me as strange a straight guy would always tell me about his sexual experiences and his current affairs so openly to a gay guy. Do you think he is actually trying to bed me or something? Or wishful thinking?

Probably. But I don't like the tone...

 

[drhladnjak]

Only one way to find out... flirt back. Next time, he says "I just need to get off" try responding with something like "I don't see why you have so much trouble finding sex. I'd totally help you out. Too bad you're not into guys."

I've found that over time I have certain friends with whom I have certain kinds of conversations. With some friends, I talk about sex a lot. With others, never. Part of it's just the patterns we've gotten into. Perhaps you're just his sexual confidant?

 

[gewhite3]

--keeps telling me he needs to get laid and hasn't had any in a while.

The other night, we were chatting on MSN......typing stuff like - "I just need to get off", "It's been a long time" etc.

He is obviously making a come on to you. Be careful, it seems to me that he is only trying to use you to get his rocks off, and it doesn't appear that he would expect to have any type of relationship with you. If you're into the possibility of just having the sexual part and want to go for it, then maybe you should.

Just be extra careful because many friendships have been ruined because of sex.

 

[swerve]

I would say that you're possibly reading more into it...

Guys talk to guys about sex ALL the time...

EXCEPT...

AT WORK...

If you're his buddy -- and he's comfortable around you...he's just going to let it all hang out...

On the other hand...

He could be trying to experiment...

Based on what you've said so far...

I doubt it...

 

[jcaster42987]

I was kind of thinking the same thing about someone I know. They keep telling me "they havent had any touch in a while", and other really specific things about themselves that im sure they dont tell anyone else (like "I need up get bigger condoms, I keep breaking them", has brought it up multiple times, and im sure he doesnt talk about this to anyone else... and he gave me a massage before) So, maybe its somewhat common, I feel like im in the same boat. I would kind of doubt it.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

At times, str8 guys are hittin' on friendly gay dudes believing that the meaning of being 'gay' is that you would do it with any willing man and that all you want and crave for is a dick to suck.

He keeps on repeating that 'he did not have any in a while'? So, why would his lack of pussy really be your problem? If he needs some, he is a str8 dude, and he knows where to get some. So, dude, just go and get it.

Don't be shy or anything. Tell him. And make sure you see the reaction on his face.

SC

 

[G-Lexington]

I have a couple straight guys who talk to me about sex a lot more than they do others. Why? Well, they can't talk to their straight friends, especially when it comes to talking about sexual problems, hang-ups, or peculiarities. And they REALLY can't talk to women, because they're afraid of sounding like they're hitting on them. So they talk to me.

I'm not saying that's what's happening here - but it's possible. I'm sort of feeling that you're not interested in having a purely sexual thing with this guy, in which case keep steering him elsewhere.

Lex

 

[tallguy297]

Hey Mick

Well mate...gay guys intrigue the more open minded str8 ones around us at times. Its not that he might be gay...chances are he probably doesn't even know himself...yet. My guess is that hes curious...and horny. A powerful combination!

Its up to you how to handle this....do you like him? Is he a genuine friend? Are you willing to risk that friendship if he is? But most of all...what are you looking for here?

If you want to have some fun and are happy to go forward on that level because I think the chances of any long term future here would be limited simply because he sounds like he needs more time to get to know himself, then subtlty flirt back. Mention that you're horny too and that you're gonna watch some porn and see what he says....dont hit on him straight up...just give him an opening to walk into.

That way you've done nothing more that talk about sex back to him, he knows that your gay so it wont be a shock that its gay porn...and its not too deep a hole to get out of if you've misread the signals.

Just dont invest too much in this guy just yet....I dont think he ready either way. And you dont need to be hurt like that...

 

[micklader]

Thanks guys for your thoughts and that so maybe I should elaborate...

Yes I do like this guy, he would be perfect boyfriend material and I do like him.

Shortly after meeting me through work, he was on a night out in a club (not with me) and the next day he texted me (note, he didn't call me) asking me whether if kissing a guy made him gay. I was shocked to say the least because I thought he was coming onto me - but then he explained he apparantly kissed a guy when he was out and wasn't sure what to think of it.

I was tempted to 'turn' him and convince him he may be gay but then I just told him that often drunk guys will do crazy stuff just for fun. Even though he told me he snogged this guy and couldnt remember until his friends told him. I still find that really cute about him - the fact he asked me of all people for advice on his sexuality! He eventually said he understood and felt safe knowing he isn't gay.

Then at other times he would always ask me about who I like and what I got upto when I go gay clubbing. I thought he might be fishing for my taste in men or something. Then another thing, he is always trying to get me to go out (though not gay clubbing - its because we both love the same rock music - another reason why I like him).

But remember, we haven't actually done anything outside of work except like drinks straight after work, we never actually hang around each other or stuff.

 

[Rick18]

Thanks guys for your thoughts and that so maybe I should elaborate...

Yes I do like this guy, he would be perfect boyfriend material and I do like him.

Shortly after meeting me through work, he was on a night out in a club (not with me) and the next day he texted me (note, he didn't call me) asking me whether if kissing a guy made him gay. I was shocked to say the least because I thought he was coming onto me - but then he explained he apparantly kissed a guy when he was out and wasn't sure what to think of it.

I was tempted to 'turn' him and convince him he may be gay but then I just told him that often drunk guys will do crazy stuff just for fun. Even though he told me he snogged this guy and couldnt remember until his friends told him. I still find that really cute about him - the fact he asked me of all people for advice on his sexuality! He eventually said he understood and felt safe knowing he isn't gay.

Then at other times he would always ask me about who I like and what I got upto when I go gay clubbing. I thought he might be fishing for my taste in men or something. Then another thing, he is always trying to get me to go out (though not gay clubbing - its because we both love the same rock music - another reason why I like him).

But remember, we haven't actually done anything outside of work except like drinks straight after work, we never actually hang around each other or stuff.

His text to you could mean a couple of things. He's gay/bi and wanted to drop hints that he thinks you would pick up on. Or it could be that he didn't feel comfortable talking about it with other straight guys because they'd all call him gay, so he wanted to get an objective opinion by someone who knows that one kiss doesn't make you gay. It's good to hear that you didn't try to convince him that he's gay, because if he is going through confusion and later concludes that he is straight, that probably would break his trust in you.

 

[billybob109]

This is a hot situation, I say go out get drunk and then make out with him and then take him home and fuck the shit out of him. He will remember that next morning.