Straight Roommate with Gay Porn

[bachemi2000]

do you have a mac or pc? we both have macs. on the top left-hand corner is a blue apple. if you click it, a menu comes down and one of the options is Recent Items. that goes to another menu that shows that last 7 or so files that were viewed/opened along with the last 7 or so applications that were used. the song and the gay porno videos were both there. see? no snooping. i didn't search around the computer with words like "gay," "porn," "sex," etc. i went for the song and found gay porn. i didn't even go into the folders where the music is. i was being the least possibly intrusive as possible.

in any case, i am kind of tired of everyone accusing me of being a snoop and this and that when it's all beyond the point. this is kind of ridiculous.

and to whoever quoted me as calling him my "best friend," i never once said that. jeez.

can we just please continue this without the background information, since it's really kind of 100% irrelevant? how about "do straight people save gay porn on their computers? what might be some reasons for this behavior?" clean and simple.

 

[JoshuaGlynn]

Have any of you ever used a computer?

He just told you about a Mac.

Also, in windows:
In the start menu, there is a fly-out menu for Recent documents.....

This is all recently opened files word docs, music, videos......

He didn't have to go snooping though files.... just drop it....

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But to answer your question..... he could just be very open minded str8, and maybe a bit curious... I know a few str8 guys that like to watch gay and bi porn, as well as str8..... to them porn is porn.... A line i have heard from them is "I can see why you would like being gay.... but i don't think I could do it."


Joshua

 

[Sweet20s]

A bunch of reasons. He could be bi, curious or gay. Another friend and I found out one of our friend is gay through a similar way. We went to his house, we borrowed his computer and he went off to the shower. We used the net and from the address dropdown list, we saw that he was on a gay porn site previously. He probably didn't have time or forgot to delete it. So yeah, tell him that he's got good taste in porn and leave it at that. See what he's do.

 

[colemanshs]

My roommate and I use each other's computers all the time. It's not as big a deal as most everyone's making it out to be. He and I both get on each other's computers to listen to each other's music and see if there are any songs that we could share from each other's playlist. Everyonce in a while we find each other's porn stash.

It's honestly not a big deal. He likes busty titties and I like big cocks. We understand that we both have our preferences and we don't have anything to hide.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>We understand that we both have our preferences and we don't have anything to hide.

Yes! That's just it! You've got nothing to hide. If you DID find gay porn on your roommate's computer - or anything else that made you say "huh?" - you'd just ask him about it. "Hey, what's up with the hot man-on-man action on your desktop?" The thing I don't understand in the OP's problem is the dichotomy between "we can share everything" with "I don't know how to bring this up with him".

Lex

 

[bachemi2000]

this is just becoming ridiculous. everyone is focusing on every trivial aspect of this question. i've never once said i was going to ask him, i think i've made it very clear that i will not ever bring it up because i don't want to embarrass him. even if i found gay porn on my best friend's computer (who i've known for 6 years) i wouldn't ask him. my best friend and i talk about everything, i have never lied to him, but i still would never bring something like that up. when i was in the closet, people would ask me questions or confront me and it was a horrible feeling, extremely awkward, and terribly uncomfortable. i am not trying to out or embarrass anyone. i was just curious as to why a seemingly straight person, one whom i have never thought to be gay, curious, or bi, would have gay porn on his computer. this is not an issue that concerns privacy or morality.

 

[bachemi2000]

also, just another reason why i would never want to ask him is that he doesn't discuss this sort of issue. he is shy. i once asked him why japanese porn is censored and he said he was unaware of that, even though the file i found was censored gay porn. i will never bring up finding gay porn. ever.

 

[bachemi2000]

if i am worried about embarrassing him, yes, i am worried about his reaction. if he is unwilling to even acknowledge his knowledge of japanese porn's censorship, why would i go so far as to confront him about owning and watching gay porn?

and it has nothing to do with how i feel. i feel nothing about the situation, just curiosity.

 

[gameboy 11]

He's not straight. Bisexual at best. You can close this now. I have shown you the Light! ^-^b

 

[gameboy 11]

It's okay, Bachemi...

You were just minding your own business, looking for a song, and stumbled across something that sparked your curiosity.

You've done nothing wrong.


I'm joining this thread way late in the game, and it appears you have already decided not to question your friend about it. I think that's a good call.

 

[boy0boy]

I've met some straight guys who really do enjoy watching gay porn... they seem to even struggle with it themselves, wondering: why do I like this, I must be gay or bi or something. But they don't have an attraction to men. So although there are underlying issues and one could play psychiatrist all day about how they "really" are gay or bi or whatever, I choose to trust them at face value for what they said.


Men are very visually stimulated. Watching two guys having sex doesn't make you gay just as us watching straight porn doesn't make us straight. It's more likely a carnal thing where he is visually aroused by gay porn, and in this society that labels so quickly that which it doesn't comprehend, he may very well likely be embarassed about it. On the other hand if it was in the open area of his computer either, he forgot to delete history or he didn't mind if you saw it.

 

[Columboy]

Zero.

Perhaps he has penis envy?

I'd simply ask. Nothing wrong in asking. Good luck.

 

[Kyanimal]

also, just another reason why i would never want to ask him is that he doesn't discuss this sort of issue. he is shy. i once asked him why japanese porn is censored and he said he was unaware of that, even though the file i found was censored gay porn. i will never bring up finding gay porn. ever.

Uh ... you may have just answered your question! Since you brought it up, before, and he wasn't aware of the censorship, he may have simply been "researching" the issue!

I'm impressed with your sensitivity to your friend's feelings! What the two of you wish to discuss, or not, is entirely up to the two of you, in defining your relationship!

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

(But, the only way to Really find out "Why", for sure, is to find a way to "tastefully" ask him. He's the only one with the "right" answer, in this case.)

 

[glorificus]

I don't think it means anything. I've been on my friend's brother's computer who is really straight and have found gay porn on there too - maybe it's some kind of fetish, looking up thinks that might disgust them

 

[krfflyer]

"I am hoping that this will not solicit responses from skeevy old perverts who only want gross details about this and that."

I have many questions and many thoughts on this subject, but clearly bachemi2000 isn't interested in my opinion.

I don't normally pay attention to posters who begin who begin by insulting at least some of their audience, but bachemi2000's question is just so compelling, so important...oh well.

 

[bachemi2000]

aw, pity. if your answer is going to bring up creepy questions like what kind of porn it is, if he's cute, if we have ever seen each other naked, etc etc, then yeah, it's fine.