Strange Question about Girlfriend and Gay Porn

[Georgie234]

My girlfriend and I have always enjoyed watching straight porn together that of course had some girl on girl scenes. Recently, she commented that I should get some with guy on guy scenes. I figured why not, it was only fair since she would watch the girl on girl with me.

Well, while watching it with her, she noticed I was hard and she pulled down my underwear and started stroking my cock until I came all over my chest. I must admit I did enjoy watching the two men have sex together and imagined it was me sucking their cock and getting fucked. We still have great sex together and she continues jacking me off to gay porn when she's not in the mood while whispering filthy stuff in my ear like she wants to see him fuck me and cum in my ass.

However, now she's teasing me about it, and says I'm gay, bi, or a latent homosexual which she's okay with but to be honest, it does turn me on and make me hard and I find myself masturbating while watching gay porn when she's not around. I've also used a dildo in my mouth and ass and really liked the feeling.

I have never had sex with a man before and would not want a romantic relationship anyway just maybe sex where I was the receiver of the cock in my mouth or in my ass, but I don't think I would really go through with it.

So what do you think? Is this just a phase or curiosity? Do you think I might be gay, bi, or a latent homosexual(whatever that is)? Please identify if you are male or female in your reply.

Thanks for all replies!

 

[Royal Heart]

I think you're a sexual person who is turned on by sex. Don't mean you're gay, straight, bi, or whatever. You're just you and you get turned on by whatever turns you on. Don't read too much into it. Just enjoy yourself. (I'm male.)

 

[Sk8ter_Boy]

If you really want to put a title on it I guess bi would work but why bother everyone is somewhere on the kinsey scale.

 

[austinbi]

I agree with Royal. Don't get hung up on the 'whys' and 'what ifs' and just enjoy your sexuality. I wish my wife was as understanding as your g.f.; when mine found out, she didn't poke fun at me, she moved out and is planning a divorce!

 

[sixthson]

So what do you think? Is this just a phase or curiosity? Do you think I might be gay, bi, or a latent homosexual(whatever that is)? Please identify if you are male or female in your reply.

You're gayer than Clay Aiken at a Barry Manilow concert.

Signed, a male.

 

[bluedragon4]

Hmmmm, I know I couldn't get off to lesbian porn at all. It must mean something it turns you on so much.

 

[biguy11188]

You're gayer than Clay Aiken at a Barry Manilow concert.

Signed, a male.

dont listen to this guy, he just wants you to be gay

if you weren't turned on by the straight or lesbian stuff at all, or by your girlfriend, then you probably would be gay. but by what you've described you're obviously not. you may be bi, and whatever, it doesn't matter. do whatever you want to do. you don't need other people telling you what you are.

and im a guy.

 

[Krakenbwool]

First off, your girlfriend is really, really cool.

I don't think you're gay, but very sexual. And there is nothing wrong with that. Some people just like doing what feels good. And believe me, if most people weren't hung up by social and gender constraints, there would definitely be more people like you.

Maybe you should try a MMF threesome with your girlfriend first, since she seems to dig that side of you. Again, nothing is strange about that. There are a ton of men who like seeing their girlfriends getting it on with another girl, so why not the other way around?

I'm female (and yes, I love seeing man-on-man).

 

[Mstrshake]

I think it is safe to say you are not gay, based on what you wrote. You could be bisexual; it is my personal belief that bisexuality does not necessarily (and in fact, it very infrequently does) mean that you are 50/50 with men and women. From what you have said, I would say you lean more towards women than men. But I would also assert that there is a certain attraction towards the male gender, whether it be men themselves, masculinity as a concept, or simply the genitals that are attached to them.

Either way, you don't have to work with labels. This was just my take. I am male.

 

[KaraBulut]

Well, you like girl on girl porn.

Are you a lesbian, too?

Do you think I might be gay...

Since you said "might be", it's possible.

.. bi...

Depends on your definition of "bi".

...a latent homosexual(whatever that is)?

Not likely.

So what do you think? Is this just a phase or curiosity?

Time will tell.

Here's the deal: the only thing anyone knows is that you're kinky, you like porn and you like to have fantasies where you're passive and getting face-fucked and ass-fucked by a guy.

If you ever decide to move beyond just fantasies, then you might need to think more about where you are in your sexuality.

In the mean time, enjoy.

 

[evanrick]

i think your girlfriend is doing you a good service and probably knows that you are into men.

however, at the same time she is teasing you for wanting to expand your plate.

but your grammar is way too good , you are brand new on these forums, and are asking people what gender they are, what are you really up to?

 

[Georgie234]

Thanks for all of the replies. I would agree that I'm kinky and enjoy watching any kind of sex. Can you actually be bisexual/gay without ever having sex with the same sex? Isn't that the definition? I don't believe I like men, just the genitals that are attached to them maybe, hence the dildo enjoyment. Maybe it's just the "naughty" aspect of the whole thing that excites me, who knows?

@KaraBulut:
I think a lot of this might just be a fantasy for me with no desire to actually participate in these activities for real. Sort of like a woman who has a rape fantasy. She doesn't really want to be raped for real but the idea of it turns her on and her boyfriend/husband dons a ski mask and they go at it.


@evanrick:
"your grammar is way too good"? Since when is good grammar and spelling offensive? Sorry for getting an education and paying attention in school. I just wanted to get a female and male perspective on this is all. You are reading way too much into this.

 

[EJMichaels]

Thanks for all of the replies. I would agree that I'm kinky and enjoy watching any kind of sex. Can you actually be bisexual/gay without ever having sex with the same sex? Isn't that the definition?

No, it's not. For one thing, there are straight and gay virgins/celibates. I'm not going to expand on the labels issue when others have already done a great job. You might be interested in posts here by Flexuality. He's a psychiatrist who has written a lot about sexuality labels. Here's a link to his blog, which has a lot the same material as his posts. 12 sexual types - and more

As you have probably noticed, there are some great responses here. As for getting some replies that are a bit glib, silly, or even snarky, that's what happens - there's a little of everything. This forum isn't a no-flame zone. Personally, I tend to be serious, but I've been known to come up with a witty retort.

I'm a female on the gay side of "bisexual" (if we need a label) and I write male-on-male erotica.

 

[KaraBulut]

Thanks for all of the replies. I would agree that I'm kinky and enjoy watching any kind of sex. Can you actually be bisexual/gay without ever having sex with the same sex? Isn't that the definition? I don't believe I like men, just the genitals that are attached to them maybe, hence the dildo enjoyment. Maybe it's just the "naughty" aspect of the whole thing that excites me, who knows?

This is where it gets a bit "cerebral".

The problem is that if just thinking about guys makes one bisexual, then any guy who ever fantasized about sex with another guy would be gay or bisexual.

There are those (including Kinsey) who would argue that we are all bisexual for this very reason.

It's important for some people to have a name for what they are. But it seems like we all spend too much time and energy on labels. We'd all be better off if we just lived our lives without all this speculation and angst about these things.

 

[iwantbig]

i could handle a girlfriend like yours

 

[iwantbig]

and by the way , get some cock up you , you'll love it !

 

[evanrick]

It's important for some people to have a name for what they are. But it seems like we all spend too much time and energy on labels. We'd all be better off if we just lived our lives without all this speculation and angst about these things.

Our society thrives on labels. we have been corrupted, to use a crude term, for god knows what. i think it has to do with control, the more people are worrying about their gay neighbors having sex (Lawrence v Texas comes to mind), who they are marrying, etc. the easier it is to outsource their job, rob their pensions, steal from the taxpayers (bailouts) etc. but that's another topic...

I dont think Christians are helping either, to be blunt, or any conservative religion where male relationships are frowned upon. I have a good idea that straight men were tired of being "opressed" by gay men in ancient times, (think of ancient greece) so they decided to scapegoat and criminalize male relationships.

but there has to be an explination as to how male relationships are a greater threat to America (DADT) than the Taliban. If America is too truly embrace freedom, we have to ditch the neo-conservative elements we share with our enemies.
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maybe this explains why so many men are failing out of school and falling behind in college. the emotional suport for them is not there thanks to our antiquated conservatism. and women are much less bound by our "masculine culture" and have thrived under it as of late.

sorry for the rant.......

 

[iwantbig]

feel free to rant

 

[rlb2444]

Never understood why everyone is so interested in putting a label on everything. I assume is a way to separate themselves from others in a manner that would make them feel good about themselves. The ego is so weak!

It was almost predictable where she would go with the gay porn thing. She probably suspected that you might be open to male/male sex but this was her way of proving it. It's a control maneuver in my opinion.

I would suggest that you do what makes you comfortable with your sexuality but keep it private. It's really no one else's business except yours and your partner. If she broadcasts it she obviously has an issue.

 

[CGHJ]

Sounds to me like you two need to go exploring. MMF and MFF, you see her with a girl, she sees you with a guy. Lots of couples do it, it's not even that far out of the norm, just have some fun. This is what adultfriendfinder.com is for.