Stress is making me wanna quit school and everything

[Tomruyssss]

Well I'm working on my 2 year degree for marketing and management, and I'm bout half way done. I'm planning on using that degree to get me a better job, save up and move down south eventually and attend UNC and do my next two years there. Ive been watching college movies lately and its like its the best time of everybody's life. The college I am now is a private college and its small. I dont have many friends because most everyone in my classes are all adults, married and have kids, and im 21 no kids so I dont really fit in with them. Which makes going to school even more boring for me.

My job is very independent so besides the coworkers I talk to when changing shifts, I dont see anybody else. Plus I've been wokring 48 hours a week and Going to Night School 12 hours a week and trying to make time for the gym its stressing me out. I feel like I'm stuck and I'm just bored with everything. I wanna be able to go the club or call up my boys and have a drink and once in a while I do, but most of the time I'm either bored or tired. I'm at this awkward phase where I've out grown most of my friends who have no jobs and want to smoke weed all day while I just prefer to drink a few beers and go to the club or the movies or something but cant cuz no one has money besides me.

I guess I'm just tired of feeling bored where I live. I really wanna get out and meet new peope and make new friends. Ive been kinda depressed just from working 6 days a week and not really having much to look forward to. and Ive been cutting class sometimes so I hangout with my friends instead because I work so much when theyre free. Am I just being stupid or is this normal? I know I wanna finish school and everything, but its like I'm losing my drive. I missed out on a lot of fun stuff this summer from working so much. I feel like I havent been enjoying my 20s. I'm 21 and I feel like im a 30 year old.

 

[HorndogPaul]

First things first: don't quit school!

I'm 22 have my bachelors degree and understand exactly what your going through. I did my first year of my associates degree while in high school then did one year at the community college. Most times it seemed like that year was three! However overall to get done with my prerequisites an all it was worth it! Then I went to a much larger 4 year university took 16-18 hours a semester for two years, was very involved, and absolutely loved the experience! Some of the best times of my life both at and away from the university!

So morale of the story is your making the right decisions so just stick it out and hang in their!

 

[dragon08]

In movies what you are seeing is the stupid frat guy story. That usually involves some guy who fresh out of high school goes to college tries to barely pass his classes, get wasted, bang a bunch of chicks, and not have consequences. Fortunately it seems that none of that applies. College can be whatever you want it to be but the conventional college experience is graduating high school then moving into a dorm that your parents are paying for, and going to classes. It seems as though you are already somewhat older and have your own responsibilities such as work. I am not in a similar position as you are but i think that classes aren't going to be the place that you get friends at if you are going to night classes. Those people have enough in their lives.

Regularly scheduled classes are going to be where people closer to your age would be but I'd also imagine that there would be a maturity gap since those students would probably not be the ones with full time jobs and paying bills.

College is mainly about education, anything else should come second. The trick is to not give up.

 

[Seasoned]

You're half way through this phase so it's doable. Take it a day at a time. Best wishes!

 

[bruce379]

Don't quit school. Finish it then move to a UNC if that's your plan.
You say you don't have a life; lots of people today don't have a job. You are on your first steps to securing your future, don't let go of that goal. It sucks sometimes but it gets better.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

Working and going to school that much, it's no wonder you feel burned out. People need rest, mentally and physically. You should probably try to find some quality "ME" time in there to balance out your life.

 

[maxpowr9]

I'll try to cover as many points as I can...

- Nobody really talks about this but quite a few students will have some sort of "existential crisis" while in college and cause a breakdown of varying degrees. I had one my senior year in college and it made me realize who I was and who I am right now. With that said...

- Don't be surprised if you dump most of your high school buddies when you head off to college, especially after your first year. People do in fact change. I dumped quite a few of my "loser" high school buddies that would just sit around and smoke weed and do crap all day.

- Working and going to school is tough. Basically the first year of my life after undergrad, I worked from 9-5, then went to grad school 6-9pm, 4 nights a week. It sucked and I had to take xanex to keep sane through it all. At least it helped me save money because I had no time for a social life. Looking back, don't even know how I managed a boyfriend at the time.

 

[lodeus369]

Stress is making me want to go back to school and get a new job.