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Subtle tests to see if someone's gay/interested?

. . . Speaking of tests, I've created a Flexuality Test that produces a sexual profile keyed to one of 12 sexual types and a scale of sexual "flexibility." The assumption is that most people are not entirely gay or straight. Just taking the test might open up the discussion, regardless of the answers. Unfortunately I'm not allowed to post the link yet.

Sounds good. You can still post the link info - just don't put the http and add a space between two of the letters so the system doesn't think it's a link.
 
There isn't a subtle way. The only way you can know before they come out, is if they show an attraction or sexual interest in you or someone else of the same gender.

If you're around a guy who is attracted to you, then it isn't going to be subtle. Trust me.
 
It really depends on the person. Now, I'm basing this on my own experience, so this might not be the case for you---

If it's someone you've been friends with for quite a while and you know he's not homophobic and that you can tell each other anything, then come out to him when you feel the time is right. You made the first move and he'll decide where you will both stand from there. If he's interested, he'll most likely come out to you as well right then and there. If he's straight or gay but not interested, he'll more than likely either be okay with it as long as you don't hit on him, or not say anything. If that happens, then sorry to say this, but you'll have to take a step back and accept that you can't have him as more than a friend.

After I came out to my friend/crush, he immediately told me that he doesn't care what my orientation is as long as I know that he's straight. Some guys may not say the same thing, or anything for that matter when you come out to them, but you know you've given them an opportunity to make their move. There are a lot of straight guys out there who can be touchy-feely and over friendly, never assume that because of this, they're interested in you. My straight friend happens to be very secure with his sexuality that he doesn't need to express how hot a woman looks. Just my two cents.

Also, there's always alcohol and porn :D
 
Gay man: Gets passionately invested in other gay men, will get genuinely angry at other gays, and if he's not out of the closet will openly denounce homosexuality. Secretly wants gay men to behave like he wants them to, and if they don't- they get more seriously pissed off.

Straight men: Neutral towards gays. Accepts them better socially, not as emotionally invested as all. More open to newer experiences and taking risks. Treats them more like brothers, and more of an equal. If he's the homophobic straight type, it will be less emotionally invested, just more cold and indifferent.
 
if his dick is hard when your fucking him hes gay, if its soft then hes not so gay.
 
EJMichaels: just following up. I think I can post links now. Go to my blog here to take the Flex Test.

My suggestion to Slipmn was that he half-seriously suggest the test to his friends and see what kind of discussion results.
 
Pay attention to women's comments. They are always sizing up guys among themselves. They either know right away that if guy is gay or their will be some ambiguity, but it doesn't matter. Ambiguity or not, unless they are in total agreement about someone being straight, then you can bet it's safe to take notice of a guy. I have actually made a couple of friends with guys at work whom I would have never approached, just based on girl talk I've overheard.
 
@onetwo: Haha that's too straightforward. I'm looking for *subtle*. Also I have no idea what you're talking about with the handkerchiefs lol.

P.S. I had to google what being friends with dorothy meant lol.

@Young: What would you say the difference between a gay guy's eye contact and a straight guy's is?
Rofl I had to google Dorothy too. They way I had my first relationship is a guy (in texting) and me play ask random questions game after a while he asked if I ever liked guys and I said maaaayyybe haha and went on frm there
 
"not so gay if its sofl...lmao"...

Thx

haha...the guy i buttonholed last night was so gay he had a boner......lol...

my boyfriend is so gay he says hunny when talking to his girl friends....

the guy that rammed my bum couldn't look me in the eye or kiss me...he was not so gay afterall

anyway sorry to sidetrack, but a good way to "tell" is if a hot guy walks into the SAME room as your subject, DONT LOOK AT THE HOT GUY! look at your subject, if he looks at this hot guy, he sucks pole.

put it another way, if he is smart enough to do the same thing to you, and YOU look at the hot guy, you just told him "i suck pole". confused yet?
 
Tell him you are friends with a girl named Dorothy, and ask if he too is friends with Dorothy.

If he has no idea what the hell you're talking about, he's straight. If he says that he too is friends with Dorothy, he's gay.

Also if that doesn't work, you can resort to handkerchief code, just beware any man with a brown handkerchief out his back pocket, and you'll be fine.

Such an '80's thing...I waitered with a guy back in the day who asked me that and I said "huh?" He started laughing and explained it to me...afterwards, I found several friends of Dorothy just by asking...

Another time I wore a hanky in my right pocket and a friend (not of Dorothy's) asked my if I was a pitcher or a receiver. I asked him which one did he want...he walked away laughing...:-)
 
There isn't a subtle way. The only way you can know before they come out, is if they show an attraction or sexual interest in you or someone else of the same gender.

If you're around a guy who is attracted to you, then it isn't going to be subtle. Trust me.

This I somewhat agree with, except the last part.

Subtle things like eye contact or a certain look can mean anything really. A lot of times you MAY think a guy is bi or gay and interested in you but it's just in your head and hopefull wishing. Other times it may be true but you can't really just go by subtle behavior, and even if you're SURE they may be gay/bi doesn't mean they're going to feel comfortable acting on it.

You're really taking a chance by making a move on someone who isn't out as gay or bi and you aren't clear what they're intentions are. They could go through with it or you could creep them out to the point where they don't want to talk to you anymore.
 
The easiest way to tell if a guy is gay: Invite him over to your place to hang out. Be naked when he arrives and allow yourself to grow hard. If throughout the day you see him starting to drool while staring at your cock, or if he reaches out to touch it, he's gay.

Oh, I forgot to mention, make sure your AC is off and tell him its broken if he asks.
 
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