Successful relationships from the club/bar scene?

[queenororo]

Hey everyone! I was wondering if a bar/club scene is a decent place to meet guys for a relationship. Ive been trying online dating for a while now with absolutely no luck. And by that i mean ive been on a couple sites for 2 years and gotten 1 date. its not that i don't try i start talking to someone and after a few messeged they just stop talking to me no reason given they just stop. So i figure id give the bar/club scene a shot i just wanted input from you guys.

 

[jensu846]

I would think a LTR would be tough to find at a club from what I have experienced.. I think most guys are just looking for some fun. But you never know, its certainly worth a shot. You never know where cupids arrow will hit.

 

[palbert]

You'll have more luck at a bar or club than you will with on-line dating.

 

[Seasoned]

Anyone looking for a relationship ought to look anywhere and everywhere, not appear to be overly eager and above all too ace a demeanor of openness and friendliness. Good luck.

 

[queenororo]

Thanks everyone! I was just afraid that they're mainly for hook ups but ill give it a shot

 

[TX-Beau]

Guys are mainly after hookups I don't care what moonbeams and unicorns they pine about.

But having some hot NSA is not incompatible with looking for love. You aren't restricted to one or the other. Have fun, meet a lot of guys, you'll meet someone special somewhere along the road.

It's been my experience that guys who go out "looking" for a relationship wherever seldom find it, usually because they have already planned it out in their heads with hypothetical guy, and overlook real guy because of that.

 

[Rolyo85]

Quoted for truth. Slut shaming and sex guilt make too many guys think it's either some depraved meaningless sex degradation or the true magic of true love. When it's usually neither, and the two often mix.

 

[whitedavo]

Some people don't come across well online and vice versa. I'm an excellent conversationalist online but I am incredibly self conscious in person/over the phone so unless I'm getting a certain vibe, we probably won't say much and you'll think I'm boring. I say try it out.

The best advice I can give you from personal experience is that the person you thought you'd end up with, usually won't be who you fall in love with. I met the sweetest, cutest, and most incredible person from freaking Manhunt almost three years ago and we've been together since. I had always pictured myself phoning it in with someone who didn't quite get me.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

It can work perfectly well... if you don't mind developing a relationship with a bar type.

 

[JakeBequette]

I got into a LTR with a guy I met on Growlr. I wasn't looking for anyone in particular or anything, we had dinner, saw a movie, a week later met again, had dinner, had sex, and were together.

I think that when the right guy is supposed to enter your life he will. ​

 

[hylas]

i think the clubs and hook-up sites are pretty much the same, in the sense that most men are looking for nsa sex, but its also possible to find love, and the two are not mutually exclusive. at least in my experience, its way easier to find love in a club or online than in everyday life.

it sounds like there is something weird about how you act online. maybe you just dont come across well online, and youll have more success irl.

my advice is to not go to clubs alone, because you may end up looking a little desperate. go with a gay friend, or a fag hag if you must. just get drunk and have some fun dancing. youll notice which guys are checking you out. eye contact is usually the first step, and if it happens several times, and/or if its accompanied by a smile/smirk/grin, hes definitely interested and you should go talk to him.

hope i could help, have fun!

 

[eastofeden]

I met the man I have been with for 27 years in a nightclub.

I think alot of the people who lack people skills or who are insecure or fearful think nightclubs are a nightmare...and it probably is for them.