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Such Thing As Being Too Nice?

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or sumthang

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if no figa no worrys

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there go

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thankyou
 
Yes and no. It depends on the situation and your relationship to that person. If its strangers and you open the door for them, or tip your hat to them, then I dont see that as being to nice just being friendly. Now I can see a point of being to nice, there comes a point when if all you are as nice, it can come off as being "fake". Now most time people dont try to be fake, but just comes from them, either maybe not liking the person or too nervous, or uncomfortable around them. Now for a relationship, if your too nice, it can be seen as too clingy, or that you dont live a life your self, that just obese with your partner and give them everything they want. You no longer become independent person or you never challenge your partner or offer up a different point of view even if you dis-agree with them.

I lost multiple girlfirends for being "to nice" and confused the hell out of me for awhile, until I saw it from their point of view. Now with me dating guys I try not to be "to nice" though I am a bit of a romantic at heart.
 
As many have said, there's no such thing as "too nice." But if people you trust think you may be too nice, you might want to look at why you're being nice: is it to make people like you? Is it so that people will be nice to you? Is it because you enjoy being nice? Is it because you believe in being nice?

Or, on the other hand, is "nice" your friends' shorthand phrase for "lets people hurt him"? I've heard the "too nice" phrase applied to people who allow toxic people to use them and do nothing to separate from those toxic people or even establish boundaries of self-preservation with them.

I don't know who the people are you overheard, and I don't really know you; but I do know that people who try to make people like them, or expect others to be nice in return, are doomed to disappointment and resentment... and people who allow toxic people to poison them are just doomed.

It's nice to be nice, that's my view. Let your freak flag fly, honey. (*8*)
 
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You're young. You're growing. This is a growing pain. But I'll tell you a secret, the people who say you are too nice? Prove 'em wrong, tell 'em what you're really thinking with no apologies.
 
Swellegant said:
As many have said, there's no such thing as "too nice." But if people you trust think you may be too nice, you might want to look at why you're being nice: is it to make people like you? Is it so that people will be nice to you? Is it because you enjoy being nice? Is it because you believe in being nice?

Or, on the other hand, is "nice" your friends' shorthand phrase for "lets people hurt him"? I've heard the "too nice" phrase applied to people who allow toxic people to use them and do nothing to separate from those toxic people or even establish boundaries of self-preservation with them.

I don't know who the people are you overheard, and I don't really know you; but I do know that people who try to make people like them, or expect others to be nice in return, are doomed to disappointment and resentment... and people who allow toxic people to poison them are just doomed.

It's nice to be nice, that's my view. Let your freak flag fly, honey. (*8*)
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People I have a good relationship with randomly tell me that I'm a good person, but it's never the "too nice" line. I don't really have anyone close enough to share my emotions with, so people don't often know when or why I'm hurt. Therefore, I don't think they mean in it the "lets people hurt me" way. Although I personally know that I have some poisonous people around me.. people I can't readily rid myself of due to them being family members and such...
I'm nice, in all honesty, for lots of reasons that I don't quite understand. I want to be liked. I feel it's my duty to serve other people. I was/am always the martyr in familial matters, so I'm used to it. I feel as if I really don't know other way to live. Yes, I can be cold and irritable at times, but never without an immediate, overbearing guilt afterward. What's odd is that I yearn to be liked, but I don't want friends as an outcome. I guess I just feel comfortable thinking that I'm not hated.But the more I think about it, the more I'm in a "fuck it all" mood.

" Let your freak flag fly, honey" <<Love it, stealing it.
 
this is a nice thread

there go

on last note

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think dat flow right

ans wit dat

nice folk plant land mines ans keep ya money safe

thankyou
 
SLOPPYSECONDS said:
this is a nice thread

there go

on last note

da insecure charade ofs a lands cultures ways make > ya figa it out ( wot make humans a poor excuse of species wot of senses got

think dat flow right

ans wit dat

nice folk plant land mines ans keep ya money safe

thankyou
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couldn't have said it better myself.
 
Yes there is. Ever wondered why so many guys complain that the women don't date the nice guys but the douchebags? Well it's not entirely true .. but there is something to it. Many people look for a bit of a rebel, a "rough" edge to someone. Some people say it "makes" a personality. Don't ask me why .. it's just an observation :)
 
Corny said:
Yes there is. Ever wondered why so many guys complain that the women don't date the nice guys but the douchebags? Well it's not entirely true .. but there is something to it. Many people look for a bit of a rebel, a "rough" edge to someone. Some people say it "makes" a personality. Don't ask me why .. it's just an observation :)
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"Nice guys make me smile. Mean guys make me hard."

Lex
 
I was quoting somebody else, but I think the idea is sound. The biggest assholes never seem to have trouble landing a boyfriend, and usually have guys waiting in line to get with him afterwards or on the side.

That said, I think I'm pretty securely in the "nice" category, and I don't have any shortage of guys who are interested in me. :)

Lex
 
Let's role play here.

What would make you really upset? What would make you verbally strike back at someone?

And before you say - nothing would. What if i were to verbally insult your mother - or a friend of yours - or a child? At some point you would say - enough is enough - and you are going to go into all out combat.

I used to think that i could be friends with everyone. In my first job, i was well-liked and i tried to do everything i could to help anyone i could. But when i took another job a few years later, there was a woman in my department that seemed to hate me. The harder i tried to be nice to her, the worse it became. Finally, one day - after i borrowed a file from her desk while she was on the phone, she made some condescending comment under her breath. Instead of apologizing this time, I closed her door and i reamed her out. I said in a very strong way - "Look, you don't have to like me - but we have to work her together. If you have a problem with me, then get it out." She was shocked by my different demeanor, but for a few weeks after that she was very pleasant - but slowly became her own self.

And then I was having trouble with a dry cleaner who had lost a brand new suit i brought to them for the first time i had it cleaned. I was so angry with how they were treating me, that i brought it to court. But during one of my conversations with the owner, I was working at my desk - on a weekend. The conversation got heated, and when the phone call was over - there were a few people checking out my cubicle - they couldn't believe that i was raising my voice - something that none of them had ever heard. But what was interesting to me, the next few weeks that person that disliked me seemed like my best friend.

I came to the conclusion that there was something in my out-of-control behavior that was attractive to her. We were never destined to be friends - barely acquaintances. But some people just like that kind of passion.

You have to be true to who you are. You sound like a decent guy. There will be lots of people who will appreciate that - but not everyone.


In an old song by Ricky Nelson, he claims: "You can't please everyone - so you got to please yourself." I think that's pretty true.
 
There are just some people who instead of seeing the Mary Sunshine side of you, want to know what REALLY makes you tick... how much you can take, and weather or not you've got the balls to stand up for yourself. I've had several bosses like that in my past. They didn't want "Yes Men", they wanted someone who would stand up to them and not take their shit.

People LIKE boundaries. When you're always nice, they don't know where the limits are on the other end.

Need a hand? Ask me nicely and I'd be glad to. Piss me off, and I'll fuck you up! ;)
 
Mr-Brooding said:
That's disheartening :/ I need to take an asshole class.

*As in how to be mean, not a class on assholes..
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I wouldn't try to be someone I'm not. It won't fit right and someone may call your bluff.
 
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