Supposed "Straight" Friend Confusing Me...

[Dextra]

So, we're both 18, and I came out to him a while ago, got a normal reaction, but now I just can't work him out...

First of all, he is religious, and his religion makes it very clear that homosexuality is a sin. However, I think he's only a part of it because his parents are, as I'm sure he's broken many of his rules etc...

At times, he can be really homophobic ("So you want to put your dick in another man's ass? Ewwww... Fagggg...", and so on) but a lot of these are just jokes that I take a little more seriously than I should.

Then, at other times, he'll rub my thigh, or quickly run his hand across the bulge in my trousers, sometimes telling me he has an erection while I'm at his house... and I never know how to react to this, I usually go with a dramatic "leave me aloneeeeee" whine, to which he just laughs.


I don't believe it is him dealing with it awkwardly, because he's known for a while and has definitely had time to process it.

How would you guys read this?
Is he interested but afraid to embrace his curiosity because of his religious views?

All replies appreciated ^_^

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>Is he interested but afraid to embrace his curiosity because of his religious views?

Yes.

When he's horny, he lets his body take over, and starts making his move on you.
When he's not, he lets his religious training take over, and he recites chapter and verse.

I'd keep pushing him away. Even if you get him to bed with you, I doubt the aftermath is going to be pretty.

Lex

 

[Dextra]

>>>Is he interested but afraid to embrace his curiosity because of his religious views?

Yes.

Lex

Thanks Lex.

How do you think I should react to him? Or what should I say to let him know it's OK?

 

[G-Lexington]

Know what's OK?

Him being gay? Just keep being a gay, out, happy person. Leading by example is usually the best way to go.


Him rubbing up against you? Do you want that to continue? Or go further? Just give him positive feedback. "That feels good." "If you keep talking about your erection, you're gonna give me one, too." But, again, I think that's not a good idea. The post-orgasmic meltdown won't be pleasant.

Lex

 

[KaraBulut]

He's playing the alpha male game with you. He does it because it bugs you. He does it because it makes him feel like he's the one in charge.

The next time he starts toying with you, just say, "Either put up or shut up bud. I can't stand a cock-tease."

If he's not willing to put up, then say, "Well, then don't bring it up again unless you're willing to do the deed."

And never let him bug you again.

 

[miguelfukt]

um if he starts touching your crotch then i say go for it! i wish a guy would touch my crotch! lucky.

 

[cockbrain]

When you're alone, take your clothes off. Do it naturally. Don't talk about it. Talk about anything else. Talk about something sexy. But get naked and see what he does. Change your underwear. But don't put your clothes back on. Be prepared to encourage him.

 

[G-Lexington]

^ and ^^ are both OK ideas if you DO want something to happen. But remember - chances are that once the sex is over, he's almost certainly going to REALLY freak out. As in "don't ever talk about this again". As in not calling you for the next month or so. There's an old thread here about a guy who finally made a move on his homophobic friend when they were both drunk, and yes - it was successful. They had hot and heavy monkey sex.

But 48 hours later, he had a black eye, his place was trashed and his dog was dead.

Lex