Talking to my ex-bf the first time since we broke up... advice?

[Kennylingus]

Just two days ago I talked to an ex on the phone for the first time in a couple years...it was really akward.
If I could do it over again I would totally avoid talking about family. That just made it really uncomfortable for me at least.

 

[VenomGGXX]

Just move on. He has, and you're only hurting yourself by clinging on. There's a guy out there for you

 

[Reality101]

Since he may still be hurting and confused by your break up, I would suggest that you let him steer the conversation and go from there. Feel him out and keep it light at first. You will soon figure out what you can and cannot say based on his response to you. Be genuine and yourself like Raven said. And try to avoid saying anything that might interrupt his progress in getting over you. "I've been thinking about you a lot" should be avoided right along with "I miss you" (like you said)

 

[HornyHenry]

I dumped my exes because they burned me or ripped me off. Good riddance. I never wasted my time to even wonder where they were as long as they didnt set out to harm me or anything I owned.

 

[G-Lexington]

No. Keep it conversational. Don't grab a shovel and start digging up old buried things, or tugging at old wounds. Just be civil, be nice, and be happy you're both (presumably) in a better spot now.

Lex

 

[RationalLunacy]

Is there anything I should avoid saying?

It probably wouldn't be a good idea to tell him about your new billionaire sugar daddy.

 

[Masago]

I agree with the above people in just acting natural about it. He has to understand that you are over him, and as long as you dont "feel the fire" if you will and encourage him to continue having feelings for you, like flirting or whatever, then everything should be fine. But yeah, it's going to be akward ><

 

[PolterGUYst]

I hold the belief that you can still be friendly with somebody after you have broken up. We have strong emotions, but as long as we can control them and not go crawling back then I think it's perfectly ok to talk with an ex.
It depresses me to think that you can connect with somebody really well and then have them be out of your life forever. Maybe you weren't meant to be in a relationship, but there was something there, and you should pursue that in a friendship or at least have friendly conversation every once in awhile (as long as the person wasn't absolutely horrible to you or something).