Tall Glass of Blond Midwest Goodness...am I fooling myself?

[bigpayback]

I never thought that my point of an interest would be in the form of a tall glass of blondness from the Midwest. Around 6'5'' with the broad shoulders of a quarterback, but the slender lankiness of a basketball star, his aqua eyes sparkled like diamonds hit by the sun whenever he looked at me. College was fun at times and sometimes not, but I found myself always thinking about him. This is not an obsession because we both have the most varied conversations you could imagine, from opera and classical music to the Beach Boys and Sailor Moon. I do not know if he's gay, but every time that he's studied with me in my dorm room he sits in my roommate's swivel chair while I sit in my hard chair (no pun intended) and I edge close to him and touch his foot with my foot and doesn't say anything. And I may have been seeing things, but his legs were slightly spread open and I could have sworn that his dick was hard; I mean, come on, he's 6'5 already. He talks in one of those flat, but sexy Midwestern accents that drives me crazy. When I asked him to a movie, we went and then we went to dinner, and that was the end of it. It doesn't sound like much, and I may be setting myself up for failure, but there's something intriguing about seeing how far it will go. I really like him, and I'm not sure if he's gay or not. You're probably wondering why I'm trying to pursue a guy whose sexual preference I'm not certain of, but I'm not out myself. I'm honestly not in the best situation in my life as far as coming out, but I'm really trying to make the transition. I just have the find the courage to do it. Like Mary J. Blige sang, I just want to be happy.

 

[G-Lexington]

Why not ask? "You don't have a girlfriend, do you? No prospects? Has it been a while?"

Lex

 

[Fiorino]

Go for it, he may be in the same situation that you are and not know how to make a move, good luck, keep us posted.

 

[thermodynamics]

Hey, go for it. Ask him about a g/f, or whatever you can think of. Better yet, stare into his eyes, and give him a warm smile. That will be a pretty big tipoff.

 

[bigpayback]

The thing is, when he's been around me with people from my dorm, they all make references to girls and how this girl in my dorm building likes me (that's a whole other story) and he probably assumes that I'm straight. I want to say so bad "I'm gay dammit!" but I don't say that. When I was at his apartment, he mentioned that the library is a good place to meet girls, and you would think that is clear, but I think he might say certain things because he assumes I'm straight. I hate when things are so unclear and information is no communicated. That's why I've been edging closer to the point by dropping hints. We were talking once about blondes, and I jokingly asked him "do blondes really have more fun" and he said, "well, yeah...I'm this blond hunk." And I said, "well that's definitely you." But all of you are right, I've got to be a bit more direct. Because otherwise, it's just going a big disappointment.

 

[bigpayback]

Hey, go for it. Ask him about a g/f, or whatever you can think of. Better yet, stare into his eyes, and give him a warm smile. That will be a pretty big tipoff.

haha, that's what I always do. I look into his eyes and smile and he returns the stare and smile. If he's straight, he's definitely just an open-minded person who likes theater and operas, yet he was on the soccer team. I really appreciate you guys giving me advice. You could have just overlooked the thread.

 

[tallguy297]

haha, that's what I always do. I look into his eyes and smile and he returns the stare and smile. If he's straight, he's definitely just an open-minded person who likes theater and operas, yet he was on the soccer team. I really appreciate you guys giving me advice. You could have just overlooked the thread.

Hey Bigpayback,

Dont let the stereotypes trick you up... after all do you fit them? Luckily we all come in different shapes and sizes...

At the very least, the freindship you guys have sounds so solid and real that he just might be the perfect first person to trust and come out to. And if you simply approach it as that, as a friend who values and trusts his mate enough to confide a secret like this in, then theres no harm that can be done.

In fact my guess is at the very least it will build a bond and rapport that great lasting friendships are built on. From the way you post both of you are great guys with huge values and an ability to laugh and share, so this will just be another building block to base that freindship.

And maybe if your lucky you'll open him up too.

Just don't count on it and don't be disappointed if he doesn't. Friends are as hard to find as partners... good ones more so. Besides, we all do these things in our own time so who knows what the future holds.

Bigpayback, you deserve happiness and more in your life, so dont let the chance to include someone like this guy... a person who values you for who you are... slip away. Build that trust, be the open and honest guy you are with him the way you are here... and the futures yours.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Your story is truly amazing.

You guys study together at times?

You managed to go out together for the movies and the dinner?

You are both college dudes in college age?

And your conversation never touched the subject of dating, sex or anything as 'nasty' as that? Nope, you do not have to come out or anything. 'Yeah, I am playing the field and getting some, if I can. You?'

Give it another try. And get a bit more personal. Again, no one has to spill all of his beans and make life-long commitments. You want to make sure, he is not a committed relationship with someone else and yeah, you want to make sure, he is kinda 'open-minded'.

Sure, take one step at a time. But do take that one step at a time. Talking about the opera and football is all good and fine. But that won't get you anywhere. You know that.

SC

 

[bigpayback]

Bigpayback, you deserve happiness and more in your life, so dont let the chance to include someone like this guy... a person who values you for who you are... slip away. Build that trust, be the open and honest guy you are with him the way you are here... and the futures yours.

Aww, thanks TallGuy. Yeah, you're right about friends. Life is about connections and if you don't hold to connections then people end up never talking again because the friendship was never build upon. I definitely don't want that to happen. All the advice is really helping me move closer what I should do.
And SilverCloud, I know all those topics about music is surface stuff and I'm going to have to make some kind of move. I've got to be proactive, and I will...after winter break that is... haha

 

[SilverRRCloud]

^^^
Showing some guts is always very sexy

Good Luck,

SC

 

[bigpayback]

^^^
Showing some guts is always very sexy

Good Luck,

SC

lol...damn right.

 

[pistolperry]

well u guys are in college, get him really drunk and then ask him some things like "what do you think of me?" "so and so said she likes you what do you think?" just random stuff like that. his answers will give you more hints if he's gay or not. when people are drunk they're a lot more honest, believe me i have seen it.

 

[rareboy]

In vinum veritas......hmmmmm

Yeah, getting a buzz on might loosen your tongues so to speak, but don't get him really drunk because it is always more uncomfortable after.

Stop procrastinating. If you like the guy, tell him you think you might be gay. And then jump him.

 

[LotusOnBuddha]

This is not an obsession because we both have the most varied conversations you could imagine, from opera and classical music to the Beach Boys and Sailor Moon. I do not know if he's gay...

Sailor Moon is proof enough...clearly he is gay. 100 extra points if his favorite senshi is Sailor Venus or Sailor Moon her self. buy him a rainbow sticker and give him the hand book

 

[bigpayback]

LMAO! Well not necessarily because I'm the one who brought Sailor Moon up, and he just said he remembers watching it. I was talking about how I think if handled right and treated seriously, Sailor Moon could be successfully made into a live-action movie with Amanda Bynes as Sailor Moon...haha. I know, it's very deep conversation. And yes, someone else told me that I should get him drunk, and he's a clean guy who turns 21 next month, and I told him we're going to get drunk. But I don't know, I'll see how it goes.</p>
And believe me RareBoy, I have to use every ounce of self-control not to jump his bones. haha

 

[innocentbychoice]

Sailor Moon is proof enough...clearly he is gay. 100 extra points if his favorite senshi is Sailor Venus or Sailor Moon her self. buy him a rainbow sticker and give him the hand book

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sorry, that was really funny. I thought the exact same thing when I read you guys talked about Sailor Moon.

 

[lmarr101]

I once had an experience like that.He too was blond and have blue eyes.Back ın college ı was hanging out with girls while he was a jock so he was hanging out with boys.There were a lot of gossip about him.They said he have a girlfriend.I like him a lot.One day ı was talking with one of my girlfriends.I told him that i have a crush for him and she spread it to him.She told me that they were talked few ago about me.He told her that he founds me very cute.I wasn't knew that he was gay too.When he learned that i have an crush on him one day when i was walking at the gardens he found me and told me about his feelings about me.I told him too that i liked him very much.But our relationship doesn't last very long.He had a scholarship.After he completed his studies he must got back to Germany.(Sorry if i have faults about my English.)

 

[bigpayback]

I once had an experience like that.He too was blond and have blue eyes.Back ın college ı was hanging out with girls while he was a jock so he was hanging out with boys.There were a lot of gossip about him.They said he have a girlfriend.I like him a lot.One day ı was talking with one of my girlfriends.I told him that i have a crush for him and she spread it to him.She told me that they were talked few ago about me.He told her that he founds me very cute.I wasn't knew that he was gay too.When he learned that i have an crush on him one day when i was walking at the gardens he found me and told me about his feelings about me.I told him too that i liked him very much.But our relationship doesn't last very long.He had a scholarship.After he completed his studies he must got back to Germany.(Sorry if i have faults about my English.)

No, your English is fine. Your story gives me confidence for my situation. I wish it had worked out between you and the jock. I hope things work out between me and my guy.

 

[lmarr101]

I'm glad that if this text done to you any help.