Teach me

[Ticklefro3]

Hey guys - so I'm going to college this year (move-in-day is in 2 weeks) and I want to start getting in on the dating scene. Only problem is that I've never been in a relationship (though, only 2 of my friends know that I'm gay), and I don't really know how I should approach the situation of even finding a guy.

Teach me this simple things, please!....After this, Flirting 101

First thread and wall post - success~
(By the way, I'll be living in the Big Apple - Washington Square)

 

[neditesjamais]

Welcome to JUB and congratulations on deciding to go to college. Do keep in mind that, for the vast majority of people, the first 3-6 months of college represents the most major life change they ever experience. It's exciting and complicated. Hard work, too.

In the "olden days" (before networking, let alone social networking!), we used to just smile and say "hi" to every person we met. So simple, but so productive. If you meet 2 people a day, and they introduce you to even 1 person they know . . . well, the likelihood that you'll find someone to date really goes up.

Also, remember that many new college students are "reinventing" themselves in some way. It's a fresh start. So, if you consciously decide to be yourself and to present the self you want others to meet, you'll find that you attract those who want to meet you.

Good luck. You'll be fine!

 

[exceeder]

As someone who is finishing uni soon, I can agree with the above poster.
Many colleges have gay clubs, and some even have 'lgbt frosh weeks'.
Definitly one good way to meet other gay people is to join university gay-themed groups or organisations.

Of course being friendly helps a ton when meeting new people, gay or straight.

Biggest help though is being out. Even though I only came out towards the end of my first year/middle of my second year, being openly gay is a great help in meeting other gay people on campus, especially if you live in residence. The moment your peers know you are gay, the more likely you are to meet other gays. Incidental scenarios where you meet people who go "Oh your gay? Do you know 'so and so' he is gay too!", etc will occur... at least in my experience anyway.

Enjoy your first year! Its definitly gonna be one of the most exciting times of your life

 

[MoltenRock III]

Tickle, you have to crawl before you can walk, and have to walk before you can run. The first thing you need to concentrate on is coming out / being out. You are starting a whole new life so to speak, so make sure you start out on the right foot.

When you tell people you first meet you're gay you'll have a liberated life and find no need in hiding in the closet as you have seen many at JUB do; who go on to post thread after thread about "how do I know he's gay, what can I do to find out, but I don't want to come out to him".

 

[TheOscar]

Join the college GLBT club or organization or whatever. I'm actually gonna be doing that this year over in my college, too. That'll help you get to know other gay people and then they can introduce you to other gay men and such. Or you can find someone within that organization. That's really the best thing to do, as you'll also get support there. Baby steps.

 

[Seasoned]

I have nothing to add except my welcome to JUB and wishes for you to have a great year. Good luck on all fronts!

 

[Ticklefro3]

Wowowow! Thanks, guys, for all of your responses - really appreciate it.

Yeah, I plan coming out (first person being to my roomate). Just seems like the best time since i'll be starting school all over again - this time without any kind of pressure.

Again, appreciate the kind words! JUB = awesome~