teenage relationship advice..

[legendaryxlover]

hello everyone! I'm completely new to JUB, but I thought I'd start myself off here by asking
you what your thoughts are on my current relationship.

I'm 18 years old, a senior in high school from the city. I'm very into music production and
avant garde fashion. I'm not really a "flamer", but I do have a lot of artistic interests but I
have a bigger masculine side then I do a feminine side.

I'm currently in the midst of a 19 year old guy, whose such a beautiful guy in my eyes. we've
known each other for awhile, and he likes me too.

we have a really, really deep passion physically. with him, nothing is off limits, but we keep
it very precious and within our age boundaries in terms of what we do. but if you lock us in
a room somewhere, someone's gonna get naked, to say the least.

however, we are on separate wave lengths mentally and emotionally. he's a guy's guy; he's
into hunting, drinking, fixing and talking about cars.. those sort of things.

he has a bit of a temper. and he enjoys using my easiness to his advantage by playing a
dominent role and making me feel bad on purpose to make himself feel good..

but I feel as though I'm gonna break sooner or later. I have daddy issues, and I've grown a
real deep sense of insecurity when I'm around people as close as he is, who say things like
he does.

but he thinks I'm being a pussy about it. verbatim, his words are like that.
but I don't want to leave him because he's my inspiration, and my ideal guy.

what should I do? I've already tried talking to him and stated my thoughts on it. but nothing
has gone through yet. if you'd ever be so kind to reply, please do. I'd really appreciate it!

 

[seven2go]

He is what he is and apparently has no intention of changing WHO he is.
I don't envy you........

 

[dragon08]

This does not sound like a healthy relationship at all. He abuses you plain and simple. It's not ok, he gets off treating you like shit. Break up. Relationships come and go you have your entire life to find someone worth your time.

Statistically, gay men are about 3-5 years behind in relationship development age. Pretty much you guys are acting like a straight couple of 13 year Olds with fully working parts. Thus isn't the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with. Either he's going to leave you when he gets bored, or he'll toy with you as long as possible.

 

[bruce379]

hello everyone! I'm completely new to JUB, but I thought I'd start myself off here by asking
you what your thoughts are on my current relationship.

I'm 18 years old, a senior in high school from the city. I'm very into music production and
avant garde fashion. I'm not really a "flamer", but I do have a lot of artistic interests but I
have a bigger masculine side then I do a feminine side.

I'm currently in the midst of a 19 year old guy, whose such a beautiful guy in my eyes. we've
known each other for awhile, and he likes me too.

we have a really, really deep passion physically. with him, nothing is off limits, but we keep
it very precious and within our age boundaries in terms of what we do. but if you lock us in
a room somewhere, someone's gonna get naked, to say the least.

however, we are on separate wave lengths mentally and emotionally. he's a guy's guy; he's
into hunting, drinking, fixing and talking about cars.. those sort of things.

he has a bit of a temper. and he enjoys using my easiness to his advantage by playing a
dominent role and making me feel bad on purpose to make himself feel good..

but I feel as though I'm gonna break sooner or later. I have daddy issues, and I've grown a
real deep sense of insecurity when I'm around people as close as he is, who say things like
he does.

but he thinks I'm being a pussy about it. verbatim, his words are like that.
but I don't want to leave him because he's my inspiration, and my ideal guy.

what should I do? I've already tried talking to him and stated my thoughts on it. but nothing
has gone through yet. if you'd ever be so kind to reply, please do. I'd really appreciate it!

Oooh this is tricky. Teenagers. Always volatile until age 25.
People change. He will too. The question is when and do you have the fortitude to slug it out.
Communicate. He's very butch, that's fine - he is a source of your inspiration, I understand. But he has to understand, and you have to make him understand, that he needs to treat you better.
Sometimes, it might be necessary to have some cooling off time for both of you. Hard, I know. But he needs to learn to respect you a little. And he's right. Don't be a pussy about it.

 

[Seasoned]

Welcome to JUB.

I think this relationship could be hurting you emotionally. What a couple does or doesn't do in terms of sex is immaterial if it is consensual and there's an atmosphere of trust and respect. Your relationship seems unhealthy. I wouldn't compromise self-esteem and/or emotional health in order to be in a relationship. Now, it's up to you to determine if you're in an unhealthy relationship.

Take care. Be well.

 

[LuckysRevenge]

Is he going to change? Doesn't sound like he's open to it. If he isn't then break up.

I know it sucks but you're both very young. You will find someone who treats you the way you deserve to be treated.

 

[KaraBulut]

You have to decide what this is.

If it's a fuckbuddy/friends-with-benefits thing, then enjoy it for what is it and don't try to change him.

If you want more or you're looking for him to change, then you will probably have to forfeit the sex and find what you are looking for with someone else. If you're not willing to accept him for who he is, then you are in the wrong relationship with the wrong person... and more importantly, you're wasting time that could be spent with someone more compatible.

Sexual compatibility is not the same thing as relationship compatibility.