Tell me a story

[jaydeec]

If you're in a relationship now or have been in the past I'd love to hear anything and everything about it. Where you met, things you did together, things you did for each other, the good times, the bad times, lessons learned, just anything that comes to mind really.

I've been feeling a little depressed lately and I really don't know why. Tonight was probably the worst I've felt in a while, I think I cried for at least an hour just thinking about stuff. Nothing bad has happened, it's just that I let my mind get carried away sometimes :\

So instead of explaining what's going on in my life and getting the answers I could've predicted on my own (been reading JUB for a while ), I thought I'd ask for something specific. I really want more insight on relationships. Sometimes I feel like there's no way two guys could love each other but I think that's just because it's not something I usually see every day.

So please, even if you think your story is boring I'd still love to hear it. The more average the better

 

[evil_danger]

I havn't had a homosexual relationship yet, only really had one relationship but as that was with a girl I doubt you wanna hear about it.

I believe guys can love each other, its true you dont see it everyday, and it can often be a bit of a shock to see a homosexual relationship lesbian or gay (Well I live in a place its rare to see, if ever a homosexual relationship made known in public) but I know it happens. I see no reason why it should be any different from a straight relationship.

 

[SantaCBear]

I came out in the 1970s did the bar scene then met this 'special' guy when I was 24yo we spent the next 12-13 years together.

We moved in with each other 4 months after we met. The first few yrs were great especially holidays, birthdays and our anniversaries. Funny how in the 1st yr you'll have monthly anniversaries. LOL

Sex was great! Did I say sex was great?

The old 7 year itch came and we both did shit we shouldn't have

We got over that and had a 'mature' relationship for 3 years or so.

Sex was good.

The last couple of years were the 'ending cycle' we knew we were going to breakup soon but but when...

Sex was just OK.

Finally it happened. Took me about 3 years to rid my system of "us" and accept it was just "me."

That was many years ago and I havent had a real relationship since. Dont feel sorry for me This is the way I want it...

 

[chance1]

If you're in a relationship now or have been in the past I'd love to hear anything and everything about it. Where you met, things you did together, things you did for each other, the good times, the bad times, lessons learned, just anything that comes to mind really.

I've been feeling a little depressed lately and I really don't know why. Tonight was probably the worst I've felt in a while, I think I cried for at least an hour just thinking about stuff. Nothing bad has happened, it's just that I let my mind get carried away sometimes :\

So instead of explaining what's going on in my life and getting the answers I could've predicted on my own (been reading JUB for a while ), I thought I'd ask for something specific. I really want more insight on relationships. Sometimes I feel like there's no way two guys could love each other but I think that's just because it's not something I usually see every day.

So please, even if you think your story is boring I'd still love to hear it. The more average the better

Recent sitch as follows:

Met my most recent bf at the gym - Jeff - liked him from afar for 2-3 mos. - finally decided to engage him - about his workout routine (he carried a notebook and kept track of his stuff)

Next time I saw him I asked him if he wanted to grab a slice of pizza/soda at a great local pizzeria - he said yes - as we got back in the car for me to take him to his car our hands touched - and we kissed - made out from there - great moment

we dated for about 3 mos. - strong physical attraction - generally we did what he wanted to do - movie types/restaurants, etc. - that didn't bother me at first - long as we were together

he's more formal - i'm more "what the fuck" - good combo - opposites attract - our sex was good, very good often

he would call me from work - if there was a prob - i could help him make his seem less of a big deal - i was glad he relied on me for this

we would go to the gym together 1-2x week - he was hard core - I thought i was - not compared to him - in the gym, he's in a zone - i take it serious, not as much

i would send him funny emails, an online card, or would buy him his a small snack that he might like - i'm that way - constant reminders

eventually, i didn't get the sense that we were connecting on an emotional level - that at the 3 mo. mark or so, i didn't really know him that much better - he struggled to reveal himself - not sure why - i tried very hard to get him to open up

bottom line is i wasn't feeling the connection - we discussed it - it wasn't great - so we've been apart for a couple of weeks - I miss him - but I learned

takes 2 to tango
feeling something for someone doesn't guarantee reciprocation
u gotta figure out what ur looking for - I need that connection

hope that helps

it was a good experience - i don't regret it - i learned - i wonder what i could have done diff - which is normal

good luck

 

[G-Lexington]

I used to play this online word game. I kept placing second behind this other guy. We started chatting in the "chat window", then proceeded to private messages. I told him I was gay, and he was stunned. He didn't think anyone would ever have the guts to do that...since he was gay, too. We switched to e-mail, and then, finally, I nervously gave him my phone number. I answered the phone, "This had better be good."

We ran up large phone bills, he came to visit me (he lived 2000 miles away), I visited him, and then he decided to move to my state. We were scared - what if it didn't work out? His friends felt the same way - they took a poll on when he'd move back. The longest time picked was nine months.

That was over nine years ago. Still together.

Lex

 

[luminum]

I met my first boyfriend when I was 19 and a sophomore in college. He had seen me around the dorm and sent out an email to a group I belonged to asking if he was eligible for membership (it was a queer asian group and he was half Japanese). I responded and he followed up and asked me out for coffee or something. So it eventually became a date. The same night, I got my first kiss.

Eventually, after one other date we decided to be in a relationship. It was great for a while, he and I shared the same sense of humor, and I liked him a lot, though initially he wasn't really my type physically.

But in retrospect, things weren't perfect and we would get into arguments about the stupidest shit, like why they should leave Final Fantasy VII alone and stop remaking the shit out of it or why they should (I know, right?). He also had a hard time dealing with the fact that though I was out, telling my parents that I was actually in a relationship would result in a big falling out with them. I told them and it went terribly and we didn't speak for a month or so. He felt guilty that this happened, but he was far from understanding.

I think the pressure of our situation got to him and out of the blue one morning he broke up with me. I could sense that things between us weren't how they should be, but when he said it, I felt like my heart was ripping in two. Immediately following, I could see how much of a different person I had been around him. Stupider, more vapid and childish. It was surreal. But I was crushed nonetheless and humiliated by the realization of how deluded I was.

It took me a long time to get over it, especially because it was my first relationship though it had only been three months long. In between then, we had talked and made that silly idea to be "friends" and he said that he was about to graduate and didn't want another serious relationship for a while. In truth, though, he had been talking to a friend of his for some time and started dating him about a week after we broke up and they're still together now. So learning this, I began to deal with the hurt and the lies of the situation, and I found it best for me to roll with my feelings and cut my contact away from him.

About nine months later, I was still feeling depressed and like crap, but I did run into him at his workplace and spoke with him a little online and instantly I felt okay. All my baggage was dropped and I stopped caring about him or feeling depressed. I realized that I was indifferent to everything that had happened and was happy that it ended.

 

[bluedragon4]

Met my recent bf right after I turned 30. I was at a club flirting with this hot muscle guy. He was so flirting back. So after 30 minutes or so he finally came up to me. At the same time he put his hand out a guy from behind me also came up to hit on me. That guy was this really cute guy (Colin Farrell looking) and I had never noticed him before. We all chatted but something drew me to this guy. They both gave me their numbers but I was excited about this colin farrell looking guy. We went out on a date and we had fantastic chemistry but more than that we could really talk to each other. Never an awkward silence. The problem for me was when he said he was 22. I do not like younger men at all whatsoever.But his thick beard growth and hairy chest really made think he was much older. Our first year was crazy gut wrenching drama just like I feared.I actually lost several great friends over him cause they had never seen me in love after knowing me for 7 years. I was always the Brian Kinney of the group. But it's been almost 5 years later and we moved from Ohio To Phoenix, AZ together and have lived drama free since.Starting new in a new city really is fantastic for a couple. We are actually pretty boring now lol. I still feel a bit of an age twist now that I will be 35 soon and he's about to be 27. If I was with someone older or my age that 35 year old knife might be a bit less but nothing is perfect and sometimes you sacrifice what you think you want for the reality that you have.Which at times is much better than what you think or thought you wanted. We have a really nice life together and I hope I didn't jinx it by writing that! LOL

 

[jaydeec]

Thanks for taking the time everyone, I really appreciate it. Hopefully more people will share as time goes on because these stories are great. I really get the feeling that anything can happen while reading them and that's much better than feeling like nothing could happen

I feel so much better now but please keep the stories coming!

 

[Shepherd 2]

I am a professional man as is my now partner of 18 years. We met after each of us had divorced after each of us had lengthy marriages and children. At first it was just a casual friendship, for several months. Then we had a candid talk over a lunch in a public place.

Together we agreed to explore together our relationship after he told me that he already loved me. I was glad for this, but I was not immediately ready. After a few weeks we agreed this was a time to explore, and we did. My did we explore.

A few months later, we decided again that we would make this a firm and committed relationship. It seemed apparent that we loved each other and were both ready for an arrangement of living together with the intention of remaining faithful to each other.
A month later, we found a way to formalize that part of the coming together, and we moved in.

We were already sharing our sexual part of the relationship. So it has been for 17 years, with love making to each other. I am so very lucky and I am happy, and so is he. Almost everyone accepts our living arrangement, but no one has asked the big question. We do not bring it up either. He is still working and his employer may not keep him on until he is retirement age. Practicality is practicality.
We may have a few more bridges to cross in the future. But loving and being loved is a blessing.
Shep+