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Telling a gay guy I'm bi

Mr.BiGuy

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Okay I decided to ask this question here.

I finally asked out a guy that I had a crush on in college a few days ago. He's a really smart and attractive twinkish guy who was in my biology class and we met thourgh a study group. We got to talking and getting to know each other and out of the blue I gathered up my balls and asked him out.

Now the thing is, he's really the first guy I've ever planned on dating. My past 3 relationships have been with women and they were mostly short-term, and the men that I've been with (2) were both one-night stands. I'm really nervous if it will lead into a gay relationship and even more nervous to tell him I'm bisexual (a couple of my gay male friends think I'm in a "phase":rolleyes: )

What should I do?
 
As a gay guy, it would freak me out if my bf was bi, but better to be honest.
 
Personally, I don't understand the apprehension some have with dating someone who is bi.

But be open with him. No need to start out on the wrong foot.

Other than that, good luck!
 
I agree with looseliam. Be honest. There is no need to hide what you feel. This is a new scenario for you and this might be a great experience as long as you guys are honest with each other. Bisexuality is not a sin and he deserves to know.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.
 
Relationships are best built on honesty not sexuality. Tell him the truth. Best of luck
 
Thanks for the advice. I knew I had to be honest with him, but damn I'm afraid he's going to think I'm a "man whore" or a closet case.

Anyway thanks again. :)
 
Be honest... but be prepared for him to lose all interest in you.

Alas, many gay men (myself included, I'm afraid) won't date a bisexual man.
 
should definitely tell him, but probably not on a first date.

The extent he's freaking out will probably be minimized if you at least give him a little time to get to know you first. I'm not really sure how you'd integrate it into a conversation casually. IMO, it's not that big of a deal anyway. Not really sure what's up with the "dating a bi guy would freak me out" posts...not offended, just suprised, you'd think that being gay they'd be a little more tolerant.

So, yeah, shouldn't be that big of a deal, just be sure to tell him sooner rather than later.
 
You should be both truthful and honest.

Yet, you are only talking a date here. Not a lasting committment. Not an LTR. Just a good, ole' date.

I'd be fine with guy disclosing whatever he feels like disclosing even on the first date, but I would not be expecting too much in that sense to start with.

You do not really know the guy, so take your time, listen to what he has to say and do what is right.

Rushing into assumption that he might be fully interested in starting an exclusive, monogamous relationship with you is simply too far-fetched.

SC
 
Thanks for some of your helpful comments. :)

You can read what happened on my date over at the bi forum for those that are interested.
 
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