Terrified at prospect of losing my HAIR

[crubbed]

I know the title sounds melodramatic. It's not like I'm losing an arm. Or being diagnosed with cancer. But it is what it is.

I am designed genetically to be a bald, hairy, fat bear. I've been fighting hard to keep in shape. Remove my body hair (especially back hair). Two years ago I started losing hair like big time. My doctor prescribed me a 2-year therapy. In August, I was supposed to finish my therapy. It had brought on great results. However, before even finishing my therapy, I started losing my hair AGAIN.

In a couple of weeks I'm at the stage where I would rather shave my head than cover the holes with a comb-over. It's that apparent. I've started a new therapy, we'll see how it goes. The thing is, I am especially worried and depressed.

1- While there are tons of hot bald guys, I don't look good with a shaved head. I look ugly.
2- I have chronic dandruff. My head is dirty with dead skin and there's nothing I can do about it. My bald head would be vomit-inducing.
3- I've wanted to be just like everyone else for my whole life. I don't want this new thing (baldness) to make me different from all the other cool guys.
4- I like the young, clean-cut guys. There's no way they would ever look twice at a bald-headed 27-year-old.

I'm just worried this will make me even more of an outcast. And a loser. I am used to getting the attention of a lot of hot guys. Especially lately. I don't want this to end.

I could have a natural hair transplant. But first, I need the money. And who's going to hire a young guy who's in the process of losing his hair? Secondly, I need to wait for all my hair to fall off before I transplant it. That's going to be excruciating.

Sorry for the rant. I know it sounds stupid but please put yourselves in my shoes... I guess the question here is: I tend to be obsess over things a lot, especially guys. What am I going to do now?

 

[aaggii]

Rather than the image, I would be worried about your character, because - and sorry for the harsh words - you come off vain as fuck.

First of all, no one is genetically designed to be fat. But staying in shape comes with moving more and eating less. That´s it, join a gym, start running, have more salads and less meat, chips, french fries etc. Even if you work out, if you don´t focus on getting rid of the fat in your body, you will build muscle under the actual fat and you´ll appear to be even fatter.

Second: unless you want to work as a model (except if it´s for a bear site?), I highly doubt someone gives a shit about you getting bald when they want to hire you.

And the third and final problem: even if you stress or not about it, you will lose hair. That´s it, you can cry about it for the rest of your days until you will (literally!!) get sick or have a breakdown or you just can accept the fact that whatever you will do, it´s happening. The sooner you aceept it, the better. There are a lot of articles and even some therapy that will help you boost your self confidence a bit. Try and change your style a bit: grow a beard (bald guys with beards are hot as fuck), get some cool hats, shave it or keep it as short as possible.

You need to stop comparing yourself to others, this ¨he looks better than me¨ crap should finish with highschool. You won´t be different, everyone that knows you will notice your look changed, for about 2 minutes until they get used to it. There are young clean-cut guys into gay bear types. A LOT. Just join a gay bear profiles site and you´ll see.

Also, body hair. Do you have any idea how popular this became (again) after the twink-image fad finally died (or almost died)? You can be fat, thin, smooth, hairy, tall, short, you name it - someone is attracted to you. Add some confidence and just see what you get. If you have so much money to waste on hair transplant (which... really?), do it. But I think it would be so much better to accept it and move on.

 

[palbert]

The Serenity Prayer

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.

Read it again.

 

[eastofeden]

I started receeding and going bald in my 20s and I took it as a sign to keep my hair short forever..

It had no effect on my social life or my love life or my sex life...none...ziltch...zero.

I always think the hair club of men people look waaaaayyy better in their before pictures....

 

[bankside]

I know the title sounds melodramatic. It's not like I'm losing an arm. Or being diagnosed with cancer. But it is what it is.

I am designed genetically to be a bald, hairy, fat bear. I've been fighting hard to keep in shape. Remove my body hair (especially back hair). Two years ago I started losing hair like big time. My doctor prescribed me a 2-year therapy. In August, I was supposed to finish my therapy. It had brought on great results. However, before even finishing my therapy, I started losing my hair AGAIN.

In a couple of weeks I'm at the stage where I would rather shave my head than cover the holes with a comb-over. It's that apparent. I've started a new therapy, we'll see how it goes. The thing is, I am especially worried and depressed.

1- While there are tons of hot bald guys, I don't look good with a shaved head. I look ugly.
2- I have chronic dandruff. My head is dirty with dead skin and there's nothing I can do about it. My bald head would be vomit-inducing.
3- I've wanted to be just like everyone else for my whole life. I don't want this new thing (baldness) to make me different from all the other cool guys.
4- I like the young, clean-cut guys. There's no way they would ever look twice at a bald-headed 27-year-old.

I'm just worried this will make me even more of an outcast. And a loser. I am used to getting the attention of a lot of hot guys. Especially lately. I don't want this to end.

I could have a natural hair transplant. But first, I need the money. And who's going to hire a young guy who's in the process of losing his hair? Secondly, I need to wait for all my hair to fall off before I transplant it. That's going to be excruciating.

Sorry for the rant. I know it sounds stupid but please put yourselves in my shoes... I guess the question here is: I tend to be obsess over things a lot, especially guys. What am I going to do now?

You are not your own type. That's okay, unless you were hoping to ask yourself out.

You are somebody else's type. You must be aware that there are plenty of young, clean-cut guys who specifically enjoy bear-shaped bald guys. Tell me you're aware that these people exist. And you will blow your chances with them, not because of how you look, but because you won't let them appreciate you for you. Young clean-cut thin guys who like balding stocky bear-ish guys are not stupid, they know what they like, so don't even think of arguing with them.

Also, if a doctor can stop you from losing your hair for two years, they can deal with a stubborn dandruff problem.

Wait - when you say two years of "treatment" do you mean real actual medical hair loss treatment, or do you mean some kind of voodoo hair laser oxygenator quackery or something?

 

[aaggii]

Forgot to say about the dead skin - there are products made especially for this, the one my partner uses (he has this problem on his FACE!), you have to put it on every night or at least once in a while before going to bed or at least when you know you´re not going out. It helps a lot!

 

[racer2438]

Rather than the image, I would be worried about your character, because - and sorry for the harsh words - you come off vain as fuck.
^^^^^^^^^^^


What he said......

 

[checkinthingsout]

The Serenity Prayer

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.

Read it again.

and again. And again..

Accept: You are going bald, like every other man on the planet. And trust me when I say many guys dont care if you are bald, its the awkward comb over in between stage that is unattractive as it looks desperate and shows a lack of confidence in your body naturally changing.

Courage to change: Cut it off, be confident with your bald head. Find some medication for the dandruff because that definitely exists. At 27, your body should be at its prime, no excuses whatsoever in this dept. use the money you were spending on hair treatments to pay for a Cross fit membership and better eating habits.

 

[crubbed]

Accept: You are going bald, like every other man on the planet.

Except everyone who replied to this thread, apparently... I'm sorry I don't mean to sound rude, but I'd love to hear from someone who's gone through the process or even better has been there and then recovered.

 

[TX-Beau]

My Grandpa is 96 and has a full head of white hair. Some men lose their hair, some men don't. Luck of the draw. We don't go bald, we have heart attacks.

 

[kallipolis]

I could have a natural hair transplant. But first, I need the money. And who's going to hire a young guy who's in the process of losing his hair? Secondly, I need to wait for all my hair to fall off before I transplant it. That's going to be excruciating.

No, you don't....you can undergo a partial hair transplant paying the cost by instalments, or use your credit card.

Here's a link to DHI (Direct Hair Implants) a technology pioneered here in Greece that has spread to the rest of the planet including Hicksville, USA.

http://www.dhiglobal.com/

 

[crubbed]

My Grandpa is 96 and has a full head of white hair.

Which I'm freaking jealous of... Wherever I go, I keep looking at older, hair-equipped men and I am like 'What's he gonna do with that hair?!'.

you can undergo a partial hair transplant paying the cost by instalments, or use your credit card.

Here's a link to DHI (Direct Hair Implants) a technology pioneered here in Greece that has spread to the rest of the planet including Hicksville, USA.

http://www.dhiglobal.com/

Thank you! That is so interesting!

Honestly the pictures they've chosen for the site aren't that appealing. However, I'm definitely passing by one of their centres for a visit as soon as I can.

 

[TX-Beau]

Which I'm freaking jealous of... Wherever I go, I keep looking at older, hair-equipped men and I am like 'What's he gonna do with that hair?!'.

My Grandpa had a triple bypass at 47, his was actually one of the first. I'd probably trade that genetic heritage for losing my hair, one of my cousins has already had a heart attack, and we are all pestered by doctors about diet and exercise. It's not all that much fun.

 

[Telstra]

I know the title sounds melodramatic. It's not like I'm losing an arm. Or being diagnosed with cancer. But it is what it is.

I am designed genetically to be a bald, hairy, fat bear. I've been fighting hard to keep in shape. Remove my body hair (especially back hair). Two years ago I started losing hair like big time. My doctor prescribed me a 2-year therapy. In August, I was supposed to finish my therapy. It had brought on great results. However, before even finishing my therapy, I started losing my hair AGAIN.

In a couple of weeks I'm at the stage where I would rather shave my head than cover the holes with a comb-over. It's that apparent. I've started a new therapy, we'll see how it goes. The thing is, I am especially worried and depressed.

1- While there are tons of hot bald guys, I don't look good with a shaved head. I look ugly.
2- I have chronic dandruff. My head is dirty with dead skin and there's nothing I can do about it. My bald head would be vomit-inducing.
3- I've wanted to be just like everyone else for my whole life. I don't want this new thing (baldness) to make me different from all the other cool guys.
4- I like the young, clean-cut guys. There's no way they would ever look twice at a bald-headed 27-year-old.

I'm just worried this will make me even more of an outcast. And a loser. I am used to getting the attention of a lot of hot guys. Especially lately. I don't want this to end.

I could have a natural hair transplant. But first, I need the money. And who's going to hire a young guy who's in the process of losing his hair? Secondly, I need to wait for all my hair to fall off before I transplant it. That's going to be excruciating.

Sorry for the rant. I know it sounds stupid but please put yourselves in my shoes... I guess the question here is: I tend to be obsess over things a lot, especially guys. What am I going to do now?

Hair transplant is a bad idea.
You better off spending these energy and go to the gym as you mention you are a "fat bear".
About dandruff, just shampoo twice a day (using minty shampoo/body wash) ...

 

[guyfromNY]

Crubbed, you said that your doctor prescribed you a two year therapy.. May I ask exactly what that was. Hair loss treatments that are FDA approved and legitimate are a lifetime commitment.

 

[secondmonkey]

I'm kinda in the same situation. My hair has always been a big deal for me...and now it's falling out. I'm the last person that should be saying this, but you've only got two options: be pissed off or get over it. I'm trying to get over it. You might as well be pissed off that it gets dark at night, there is no stopping it.

Find yourself a cool hat. Collect cool hats. Be that guy that always has a cool hat on. I got a new hat that I like about a year ago, and I've been absolutely shocked how many strangers tell me they like it. It seems to be mostly hot young straight guys! Seriously!

 

[crubbed]

My Grandpa had a triple bypass at 47, his was actually one of the first. I'd probably trade that genetic heritage for losing my hair, one of my cousins has already had a heart attack, and we are all pestered by doctors about diet and exercise. It's not all that much fun.

Oh well, my father's family has a history of blindness, I am likely to have inherited that particular trait. My mother's family has a history of heart disease. So you can see I've plenty of things to choose from.

So I guess you guys are also against plastic surgery and whatever leads people to have it. Because you know, they kinda mope around and act all miserable like I'm doing before going under surgery...

Hair transplant is a bad idea.

Why do you say so? I thought several people did that hair-plugs thing. That is what I'm looking for.

Crubbed, you said that your doctor prescribed you a two year therapy.. May I ask exactly what that was. Hair loss treatments that are FDA approved and legitimate are a lifetime commitment.

I had to take one pill of Finasteride. Plus some shampoo and lotion occasionally. It worked. Please, take into account that I'm based in Italy.

I'm kinda in the same situation. My hair has always been a big deal for me...and now it's falling out. I'm the last person that should be saying this, but you've only got two options: be pissed off or get over it. I'm trying to get over it. You might as well be pissed off that it gets dark at night, there is no stopping it.

I'm so sorry to hear this! Are you sure there's nothing else you can do? What have you tried?

Find yourself a cool hat. Collect cool hats. Be that guy that always has a cool hat on. I got a new hat that I like about a year ago, and I've been absolutely shocked how many strangers tell me they like it. It seems to be mostly hot young straight guys! Seriously!

Yeah, I already thought about that...

 

[Telstra]

Because you are better off spending other times to get rid off the "fat bear" image .

 

[guyfromNY]

Crubbed, I'm not an expert, but finasteride (we call it propecia in the US) is something that has to be taken permanently. The minute you stop taking it, you will start losing any hair that the pill might have helped you to keep. Get back on it!!!!

 

[crubbed]

Thanks for your reply guyfromNY, the thing is-- I never stopped taking propecia. I'm still on it. It's just that suddenly my hair started falling on the right side... maybe it's the season change? Sounds stupid but one can only hope...