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That one boy makes me confused

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Soooo... I am on my 3rd year of University right now. On the first year I have met one guy (let's call him X), but we were not talking to each other often (simply just "hi" or some jokes during classes). I was always thinking that he was in some kind handsome, but knowing my luck (terrible trust me) I did not make any move. After some time we have become friends and even lived in one flat for short period of time (now it is a past). That is where eveything started. During our living together we really came closer not in phisical meaning. From now we are taxting everyday after classes that we have togehter. But anyway, straight to te point: one month ago we were at a mutual friend's birthday, and surprisingly for me he sat next to me knowing that there is not so much space beacuse of other people. We have been sitting like leg to leg almost hugging, and when one friend asked if it is not to tight for us, he anwsered that it is no problem for us. After this he also bought me food but nevermind. Some time after this party he asked me if I do not want to go out to a few clothes shops after class. I mean, it is ok for me just to hang out but it was awkward that we would be alone beacuse we have one group of friends that sometimes go to these shops. After this when we were sitting at McDonald's that's how the dialogue went on:
Me: Hey, it actually looks like a date
X: well, I was on a date few years ago but I do not recomend it
Me: but as you can see, you can feed me and go to the shops as you like
X: yeah, all in all you are right

There are of course some dick jokes and other related to that topic moments but he seems straight to me and he also says that he is into women, but his behaviour towards me is kinda different. I do not want to ask him about this, because I do not want to lost my friend, but it is also drives me crazy. Should I wait more time for his "first move"? Or maybe wait for more suitable moment for a more serious conversation about our relationship?

TL;TR:
I have a crush on a boy that says he is straight but he makes "not straight" moves and makes me confused.
 
If he is your friend he will gladly invite your straight crush. If he isn't straight he may do some fun stuff with you. Or he may even identify as straight and still want to fool around.
 
...TL;TR:
I have a crush on a boy that says he is straight but he makes "not straight" moves and makes me confused.

There's nothing wrong with having a crush. But you have to make a choice here. Do you want a friend that enjoys your company or do you want to risk that friendship for what might be a one-night stand?

I was always thinking that he was in some kind handsome, but knowing my luck (terrible trust me) I did not make any move.
You know... it's a lot safer to lust after guys who aren't interested in guys than it is to get involved with a gay guy who might break your heart.

But unfortunately, time goes by quickly. Believe that you're a guy worth dating and don't waste time with guys who don't believe that you're a guy worth dating, too.
 
When a man tells you he's into women - believe him. If he's actually gay and hiding - he's hiding because he's not comfortable with himself, and won't be comfortable with you.

But MUCH more likely he's into women, which is why he told you he was.

We've all been there, so trust me when I tell you I understand the depth of the disappointment - but you'll find nothing but heartache chasing fantasy. Go find some gay boys who won't tell you they want women, and won't make you play these games with yourself.
 
He's told you he's into women; does he know you're gay? It's cool that you've got a friend to hang out with..focus on the friendship with him. Don't get caught up in the fantasy that he'll go gay for you, you'll likely be disappointed and hurt in the long run. The best way to get over a crush is to find a guy that is into dating you. Let X know you are interested in meeting a nice guy to date...maybe he has a hot gay friend that he can hook you up with.
 
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