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That stupid feeling you get after a....rendez-vous?

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Had an experience recently that's left me feeling stupid. Was trying to reconnect with someone after a long period, and he suggested we make it a dinner. I wasn't thinking it was a date, but I wasn't entirely sure it wasn't either. We hadn't spend much time together in the past, so it was hard to tell what the vibe of the evening was. We paid separately, and even though it was clear he has a GF, there was this awkwardness. It came up during the convo that he knows some people I know...

...even though I wasn't interested in pursuing anything romantic, I wrote a follow-up email about something he'd mentioned, honestly hoping to erase the weirdness that I was feeling at the end of our meal. He hasn't replied. I don't know why I wrote back - if he thinks I'm interested, then that must have seemed like a "move" on my part. I was really trying to say "look, I hope you don't think that was a date or something" but obviously that can't be said.

So now...I'm wondering what and if he might be saying to the other people we know, and if he's convinced I'm after him or something. Arg! Confusion.
 
I would try and let it go. What's done is done.

Are you out?
 
loki81 said:
you sound like you're massively overthinking this and need to take a step back from the edge you're on ;)
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Exactly.

You may have felt there was "maybe" another level to your meeting, but if you can't really put your finger on it then let it go. If there was an intended meaning I think it would have been more evident.

See what happens next time.
 
Yup.

Just relax.

Breathe.

When you get together, why not just get together.

Just enjoy the company and friendship.
 
Thing is, I'm NEVER going to see this person again, unless in the company of our mutual friends. I got the sense he was looking at me like I was totally coming onto him.

And no, I'm not out. I'm not even at the point of labelling...so this would probably not be so fun for me to have come up one night during a party as a question to have to answer: "Did you go out on a date with so-and-so? You moron, he's straight and had a girlfriend!!!"

Okay, maybe I'm over-thinking it a little...I'm definitely going to let it go...but it just annoys that now...

*Sigh*
 
You are soooooooooooo overthinking this.

Go to a mirror.

Slap yourself.
 
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