That's so gay!

[fetaby]

Yes, yes, yes, no, yes, no, and yes.

 

[Jayden]

Havent we gone done the 'so gay' thread before?

 

[PreTTy PeTe]

sticks and stones will break my bones
but words will never hurt me

i don't listen to the fucks who say them with hate because they mean nothing to me. and there opinion means less.

 

[CudDULL]

It bugs me because it makes them sound so ignorant, especially if they blatantly say it in front of me without thinking. I just like to use that so straight or that so broosefff. Ew.

Other than that I try not to let it get to me but it is offensive you know.

 

[TickTockMan]

They are words. Word are suppose to be used.




With that said it does bother me when a couple specific people use them. They don’t use them much though.

 

[DigitalFudge]

"Thats so gay"

Bugs the shit out of me everytime

 

[Hellax24]

Yes. Yes it does.

They are negative, demeaning and meant to make people feel inferior. I won't allow people to make me the butt of their jokes or be harassed by them. A year and a half ago while in school i got into it with a lesbian classmate for using the term "That so Gay" she felt that she was almost forty and earned the right to use the term. I let her know how ignorant she was and how offensive the term was in front of our class and never spoke to her again.

People who say they are only words are not seeing the big picture.Ignoring their behavior doesn't help them or us in evolving into a more accepting and nurturing society. We are fighting for our civil rights and allowing people to throw around words such as these we allow them to believe they are better then us and we are lesser human beings that don't deserve equal rights.

Words have can be used to hurt and harm as well as inspire and console. They can provoke and lead to war. They are not empty and void of meaning. If you can allow people to be asshats around and to you I'm happy for you. I don't believe allowing people to demean me whether them doing it intentionally or in their ignorance is a way to live well.

CXXX

 

[SilverWolf]

It annoys me because it equates gay to bad. Its like how I would not want people say to things they don't like or are bad are so "white" or "black" or "any race" if I was that race.

 

[hungrybrownbear]

I get occasionally irked when some uses fag.

 

[Hellax24]

We can't choose what other people say or do but we can choose how we react and how we feel about it. People will continue to be ignorant and having to hear your rant on why they shouldn't use those words is just going to reinforce that mentality that they have.

"Gee, The Homo doesn't like being called a Homo. Let's keep calling them that so they can continue to be annoyed."

I think that by arguing with a person over a word you are in a way proving that they are right and that the word is important enough to have to defend. I think a shrug would have proved more against that angry dyke more than a lecture would have. The best example to give is one of indifference to ignorance of others. To be able to entertain the idea without identifying with it is imperative for social well-being. People will always say what they shouldn't because it's wired in our nature to be taboo at times. The only way to fix it is to transcend that kind of seedy behaviour and not allow people's opinions to become fact by saying that they are right and that you are offended.

Yeah we should all let people go around spreading hate. I mean hey it worked so well for Jewish people, right?

CXXX

 

[Nomenclature]

The words themselves don't really bother me. . .it only bothers me if someone intentionally means to offend me by saying them.

But honestly, I call my cat a faggot all the time . If you saw the way he walks on his tip toes sometimes, you'd probably agree.

 

[Kennylingus]

Nah it doesn't bother me, in fact I use a lot of those words regularly. Especially "so gay" and fag.

I guess I can see why some homos get their panties in a twist, but honestly how much fun are you going have if you have an aneurysm everytime someone unwittingly uses a word that in most cases the user doesn't mean anything homosexual at all.
And how much fun are the people you're hanging out with going to have if they have worry about everything they say under threat of some oversensitive queen having a bitch fit.

Get over it, it's a fucking word.

 

[Hellax24]

So someone calls you a Faggot and you agree with them?!

" Yes, I am a Faggot and i am Offended that you would so publicly call me out by that name! You are correct in saying that i am what you think i am and that it is a negative thing, so i am going to get angry about it!"

Hate spreads hate. Period.

People say things to illicit a response sometimes it only takes a look, other times the point needs to be driven home in other ways. I do not tolerate hate. I do not tolerate people attempting to demean me. If you do then remember when they are calling you a fag and homo while beating the shit out of you that YOU weren't bothered by those names or behavior. OK? We good? Great!

CXXX

 

[Reality101]

I think there is a difference between having a good sense of humor and being overly tolerant and appeasing to other peoples ignorance. All of the examples the op listed have the ability to rub me the wrong way and they shouldn't be chopped up to "just words" because it is deeper than that. As someone already said, there is a bigger picture.

I can recognize when someone is saying something demeaning in a funny/lighthearted way, and i can be receptive to that and even play along BUT in my opinion "that's so gay", "faggot", "fairy" and the like should be abolished. The N word should be abolished too. When a black person says that, it truly annoys me and I am not even black.

 

[saxaphonic]

Not as much as overused terms like "hate" or "bigot" from the mouths of gay people who are no strangers to dishing out either.

 

[boiseboy]

I want to say yes but in all reality it doesn't bother me that much. I think it's because I'm so used to hearing it, not saying that thats a good thing, just saying.

But then again, honestly I believe the bigger percentage of people arn't associating "I'm saying this is so gay because homosexuals are bad and stupid" while saying it. I think it's kind of like saying "that's retarded." You don't really think about people with down syndrom in your head. It's kind of the first thing that comes to your mind when something is stupid.

When you think about it, isn't saying "this is dumb" degrading to people who are mute?

 

[BRIOHAZARD]

If anyone calls me:

fag
faggot
homo
lesbo
nelly
pansy
fairy


I just eye them, and say "pish, breeder..." and walk away all fabulous like.

 

[thisisinteresting]

Yes, it bothers me. Partly because it's sad that nobody is more creative than defaulting to "that's gay" or "you're a fag."

I mean really, we've been using that shit since 6th grade and you still can't come up with some variety?

 

[Kennylingus]

That's so paraplegic.

 

[asadoyayunta]

That's so paraplegic.

Not sure of its usage in the US, but in the UK the word "spastic" was originally the correct term for someone with cerebral palsy. The word became so commonly used as a term of abuse or to describe something useless or broken that the main cerebral palsy charity The Spastic Society changed its name to SCOPE. Unfortunately, within months the term 'Scoper' apeared as an abusive term for the disabled.

I have never particularly liked the word "gay" which was only adopted fairly recently (60s?) to avoid using either abusive (faggot, queer) or medical (homosexual, invert) terms to describe our "condition". Personally, I prefer to reclaim terms of abuse, such as queer, in the same way the N word has been reclaimed. Also queer suggests a difference, an otherness to the 'norm' which is vital to avoid assimilation.