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The “Fluid” Sexuality Of Bisexuals

RRR, have you ever had a threesome? Or even more? Just wondering as a few Bi guys I've know were very into threesomes (either MMF or MFF, the later more often for obvious reasons).
 
pisces69 said:
RRR, have you ever had a threesome? Or even more? Just wondering as a few Bi guys I've know were very into threesomes (either MMF or MFF, the later more often for obvious reasons).
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No, i haven't. Maybe i should, just for the experience. I did have a couple of jack off sessions with my teammates in high school, but that doesn't count.
 
Sorry,RR Ralph, neither the three-way nor the circle-jerk measures up for me. To me, they allow too much of the public in. "Two is company; three's a crowd." My sexual self is not for public display; I share it with my beloved other who similarly shares himself/herself with me.

Obviously my sexuality is unique to me. I choose a monogamous relationship and cannot conceive of myself every becoming promiscuous. That doesn't strike me as fluid.

When one is at one of the crossroads of one's sexual life, one is faced with choices; having known happiness with a man and also with a woman. I would say that that was possible because I am open to deep friendship, including sex, with either a male or female other. Once in a committed relationship, I don't cheat.

Open, yes. Fluid, haradly!

Peace!
 
AmBi Dex said:
Maybe fluidity is the wrong idea. I mean sometimes it seems to get to the point.

However, it strikes me that perhaps bi-sexuality is really a side effect of a higher level manifestation of aesthetics. Perhaps it is condemed because it is too close to a reflection of the divine and the unlimited! The ability to appreciate beauty unconditionally, i.e. regardless of the particulars between the legs.

So a good question might be, are bisexuals pickier about sexual partners than self described gays or straights? If so, one might infer a higher value in aesthetic perception.

In my own case I find less that 10% of guys or girls attractive.... when visual input is the sole criteria.
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I think I see what this guy means, although I wouldn't call it devine. Some people would call me asexual, but the truth is (though I don't tell anyone this) that I think that guys and girls both look hot, but...my standards of what is hot are pretty high. For a short time I was wondering if I was actually gay because I liked looking at pictures/shirtless guys with toned bodies, but the thing is, I also like a certain type of girl. (Besides which, the idea of sucking, fucking, or being fucked by another guy isn't at all a turn on to me.)

So what I think the poster I've quoted is saying relates to my position. I'm not saying it's higher or more noble or devine, but it's rather an artistic thing mixed with lust. That is, I see human forms (or parts of them) that are works of art and I admire them as beauty, whether they are of the graceful femme or the majesty of masculinity.

Of course, the truth of the matter is I like people for who they are, and even though with me that plays out as friendship rather than anything deeper, I'm okay with that. To me, the person is what matters, not simply the body, and because of this, I can sometimes see beauty in places that, if I judged soley on outter appearances and first glances, I would miss. That said, I still find a guy with toned muscles and a six pack to be attractive, just as I find a girl with a toned midriff, sparkling eyes, and long flowing hair to be attractive.

As for the fluidity stuff, I think that's refering to which you find yourself attracted to with time/seasons. That is, do you find yourself looking more at girls in January and Feburary, but by March's Spring Break, find yourself oogling the dudes at the beach? It's not refering to you actually SLEEPING with all of those people, it's just a concept of whether the one you're attraced to more changes with time or not. For my part I can't say. Physically, I tend to be more attracted to guys (again, I have high standards, but it seems easier for those to be met than my physical standards for girls), but I often think it'd be cool to have a cute girl that I could protect, you know, be all chivalrous and knight-like. ^_^ If I ever was with a guy, I think I'd rather be the one protected for some reason...but that's all beside the point, I guess. ^_^; I don't notice much fluitity in mine, it's just a matter of if I see something that qualifies as hot/beautiful to me or not. Gee...I hope I'm not sounding all lust driven or, on the opposite side of the spectru, an asthetic assexual who only notices the shape of form and not the sexaul value...neither of which focus on the person behind the body, which is what I'm really more truly interested in anyway. After all, friends are better than loves in one sense, you can have lots of them, almost never have too many, and you can be true to them for life without worrying about how you perform in the sack.


(For the record, I'm still a virgin though, so...what do I know...)
 
^ I think i can sum your story up as:
you like certain guys and girls, which has in my opinion nothing to do with divinity.

radical matt said:
As for the fluidity stuff. It's not refering to you actually SLEEPING with all of those people, it's just a concept of whether the one you're attraced to more changes with time or not.
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I only sleep with the ones i'm attracted to. Those two things are connected.
 
westwood blues said:
I can't imagine being with someone whose attraction for me waxed & waned. That would totally suck. I have a keeper of a boyfriend now. Thank God for that. However, if it ever ended with him, and I had to go out there and search for another guy, the first 2 questions I'd ask would be "Are you negative?" and "Are you a fluid bisexual?" Yes, I'm more of relationship oriented guy, and I primarily look for relationship material. Of course, there are greater numbers of guys out there just looking for a good fuck, but I'm definitely not one of them. A fluid bisexual would be totally off limits for me. Thanks for educating, dudes!
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Exactly my point, thank you http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=145697

It would suck big time, for a fluid bisexual partner, be it either male or female. I mean, you go to bed with the guy and tonight he loves you and desires you, but tomorrow, he may still love you, but will he desire you? will he be thinking of the opposite sex while being with you? Will he be jacking off to some straight or gay porn behind your back cause you can´t fulfull that need of him? Sucks...
 
i have just come out of a relationship with a girl. after all the stress i just want to try something with a guy. doesn't have to be serious, just fun really after the bs of going out with my last gf. i personally look at girls 80% of time, not really look at guys but when i see gorgeous ones like in my display picture avatar then i'd love to be gay....
 
this will probably throw a spanner in the works.

i do not see people as one sex or the other i see them only as characters. if i think theyre hot then theyre hot i fall for the gift inside not the wrapper it came in.

if that makes any sense at all
 
For me, it seems like my attraction for women and my attraction for men operates out of different parts of my brain.

My emotional relationships have all been with women. I enjoy just about everything sexually with women. I am turned on by attractive women. What I "get" from women is the same thing that "straight" guys get from women (I think!)

A good looking guy definately attracts my eye. I am attracted to men physically. I have enjoyed my sexual encounters with men. I really like penises. I love looking at them, even better to suck them. The dynamic with men is different than with women. Not better, but just different. It is hard to explain. When I am having sex with a man, it seems to affect a different part of my brain. That's why I cannot compare sex with women to sex with men, to me they are two different things. I don't think I would enjoy having sex with both a man and a woman at the same time. My brain would be unable to process it correctly.

That isn't to say I could never have a committed relationship with a man. Right now, that doesn't seem likely, but who knows? I do have one friend that I am very attracted to on many levels. Deep down we are so much a like, that I do feel somewhat that he is my soulmate ( I know, pretty corny ). I also find him extremely physically attractive. I don't see him that much now that he lives out of state, but when I do, I get all tingly inside. He is somewhat conservative and very religious (but he is no homophobe). I have often wondered about his sexuality. He hasn't really dated in the 10 yrs I have known him. I have also seen him checking out guys ( I'm not even sure he's aware that he does this. I know he would never do that openly, but when a great looking guy is around, and I am consciously trying not to notice, he definately notices him)

I'm not sure what I'd do if he ever came out. We have had a great friendship and I wouldn't ever want to ruin that. But if I there is a guy I could spend the rest of my life with, he's the one.
 
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