The Ex...

[NineOfClubs]

Don't know quite what to say.

The fact that you're still together, even in just a living together way, says that you have a lot in common and that you will remain friends.

Still, it's important that you find a way to move apart. To sleep separately. You need to do that so you can both move on.

 

[Lube]

Although that's never happened to me, it seems pretty common among friends and acquaintances I know.

If you want to go out and have sex and be independent, one of you should move out.

Or maybe you just have a very very open relationship.

 

[GamerBear]

I think moving out would be best. I wish I had that kind of relationship with my Ex.

 

[HornyHenry]

Once my relationships soured beyond recovery the ex split or I split and after the breakups my ex's and I never saw hide nor hair of each other.
One friend described relationships with most people as being like a sheet of kleenex, you discard it after you finish blowing your nose on it, you dont keep it once it's all used-up.

 

[rareboy]

Are you sure you've broken up?

Or are the two of you really still in love in some way but want an open sexual relationship?

 

[Echoes]

I know it's for the best to move on. I know that we're not going to be anymore that friends and I don't want to get back together and give the relationship a second chance.

you or your partner should move out now, otherwise you guys will end up hurting each other and you won't call him friend again.

 

[Echoes]

I hope you won't mate. However, if you're not together but living and acting as if you were together, that just messes things up with time and believe me sooner or later one of you will ask the other one what the hell is going on and that sounds like the beginning of the end.

 

[KaraBulut]

The real issue here is not the past, it's the future.

Neither of you can really have a new relationship as long as you're living together, sleeping in the same bed and having sex on occasion. Anyone who comes into your life with an interest in something serious is going to look at the situation and run, run, run, far, far away.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

Maybe Quanchi can't afford to move out?

I had a terrible argument with my husband and I simply can't pay for an appartment of my own in Amsterdam.

 

[Lube]

^As I'm sure you know by now (or will soon discover), that can be a very toxic environment to live under.

Find someone else who needs a roommate.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

^As I'm sure you know by now (or will soon discover), that can be a very toxic environment to live under.

Find someone else who needs a roommate.

They don't do that in Amsterdam. I sleep with a friend.

 

[altlover85]

Although I don't think this will be an issue when looking for a new relationship, I need to find a guy who's actually interested in dating me first...

You don't think what will be an issue when looking for a new relationship? Do you mean you being roommates with and sleeping with your ex won't be an issue? It would be to most people. I'd be nervous that you two were going to get back together if we dated and you still lived with him.

I lived with my ex (who was not my ex at the time) and his ex and it was weird at first, but I got used to it. They are just friends, but it wasn't really an ideal situation because we didn't have a lot of alone time.

 

[HockeyGuy89]

To add a little more:



The thing is that I'm not sure about him. His financial could be better, he has child support to pay and not making as much with his job. He get paid by the job, and with the economy down, he just not making as much as he used to (also it doesn't sound like they have the best management).

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What does this have to do with you? His problems shouldn't be your problems. If your broken up, this shouldn't matter. It sounds like you still have feelings for him, and still care for him.

 

[altlover85]

Well if you just want to sleep with other people, than no it's not an issue. Sleeping with him, living together, and sharing expenses, while not actually being together would seem to me to be selling yourself short. However, if you are happy and don't want to sleep with other people, than I wouldn't be too worried.

You just have to understand that once you want to be with someone new, the ex has got to go. It's also important to make sure you aren't using the ex like a crutch, when you could be with someone better. I know that's easier said than done, trust me.