The Girlfriend Question...

[On The Edge]

So hey guys...I've been lurking & kinda posting for awhile but yeah my 1st thread ...

So..I consider myself Bi but do like guys more. Right now I would like to explore they guy aspect more than the girl.

I've been single for a long while & like it that way but the problem is my buddies guys & girls now feel the need to make it they mission to get me a girl, even if it's just one to flirt around with since they feel I'm lonely!... *sigh*...

I know a simple 'No' will do but,.... just that it's the reason behind my no?...like which guy would not want to just flirt around or go on a coffee date with a beautiful girl.

please.. share would me your thoughts. thanks ....

 

[KaraBulut]

Well, if you are single and you don't have a boyfriend, you have one of three options:

1. Go on the date. Hang out. Don't ask for a second date.
2. Tell your friends that you're tied up with work/school/family and that you aren't "boyfriend" material.
3. Tell the truth.

Options #1 and #2 will buy you time. Option #3 might get you introduced to guys.

It's up to you, though.

 

[Sk8ter_Boy]

I agree tell the truth it is coming out day...

 

[Lube]

I know a simple 'No' will do but,.... just that it's the reason behind my no?...like which guy would not want to just flirt around or go on a coffee date with a beautiful girl.

A gay guy.

Sit down and listen: nobody believes you if you say work or school keeps you busy, ok? A horny guy will get sex no matter how busy he is.

No excuse you give them will be believable.

Just tell them a guy or girl will work, preferably a guy for now.

 

[Echoes]

if they're your friends why can't you be honest with them? I believe that's the easiest way to solve this.

 

[hylas]

"please stop trying to hook me up with a girl, i dont like that"

...

"just because. just leave it be, kay?"

 

[SLCBiGuy]

Did everyone completely disregard that he identifies as probably bi? I think coming out as gay would be a very bad thing to do and could be detrimental to any future you might want with women.

You could come out as bi but that really would only be for YOU. I say do it when you're ready to be openly bi. I have been in your exact situation and I told them that I needed to focus on myself more, but id get them to hook me up when/if I was ready. They understood and didn't persue it further (nor did they think anything was... off).

I hope I could help and let us know how it works out

 

[Eagle653]

Did everyone completely disregard that he identifies as probably bi? I think coming out as gay would be a very bad thing to do and could be detrimental to any future you might want with women.

No, I don't think anyone disregarded it but I do think the OP made it clear that he was interested in guys more now, and not interested in any female set-ups his friends might be trying to make.

There's really no graceful way out of pesky friends who are determined to see you happily married off. You can put them off only so long, and if you're lucky they give up, but aren't happy about losing or failing in their mission. The only way to really settle this would be to be upfront with them that you aren't into girls/women right now. If that leads to "are you gay?" question, you can answer that any way you feel comfortable: 1) yes or 2) no, but I am bi and into guys right now or 3) give them an icy stare.

 

[Lube]

And don't underestimate the stamina of friends who will keep pestering because their real agenda is to get you to admit you're gay. Just sayin'.