Dude, I know. This feels so totally lame. Like you need a female intermediary to meet up with other cute gay dudes or that dude is kinda so lame that he needs one too... It sounds and feels as lame as it could be...
BUT, NOT ALWAYS. In other words, in most such cases, it is awkward and lame and you want to tell the dude that you have got something urgent coming up, so you escape with your life ASAP. So, if you want to escape, do so. You owe nothing to anybody.
Several years ago, a friend of mine kept on pestering me about meeting up with his GAY friend, please, please, please, 'he is so lonely, and so misunderstood and his family is giving him hard times and yadda, yadda, yadda.'
So unlike myself, I agreed. Probably just to stop him. Wow. The cutest little blonde dude showed up. We fell for each other there and then and stayed together for almost two years. Awesome little dude.
So, ya never know...
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