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The Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2014

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...sorry. (Straightens loincloth, wipes mouth) Me and Bort were upstairs....um...talking. Talking about....comic books. ...Donald Duck comic books. Yeah.

...so, what'd I miss?

Lex
 
Dude, the universe is change; our life is what our thoughts make it.

marcus aurelius
 
I wanna go downstairs to the donut shop across the street. It's 530am, and the woman and her husband who run it should just now be opening up. But after working on visual graphics projects all night long in just boxer briefs, do I really wanna get dressed just to go get some grub?

As much as I love her food...(stops to ponder...)...fuck it, I'm just going to bed. I'm done, stick a fork in me. I'm going grocery shopping this afternoon, anyway with my boss I housekeep for. Plenty of time then.

"Good night, and good luck." - Edward R Murrow

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Thinking about it now, I've shared parts of where my personal life is with a few friends via PM recently, but nothing particularly in-depth or hugely personal. I've briefly mentioned the stress and emotional drain of my work and things like that, but I think it all pales in comparison to what I used to share, and I used to share it all publicly too.

I don't think I fear people using what I reveal about myself against me, although I do understand that being a concern. Many can't seem to have a disagreement without either taking it personally or making it personal, and I think people viewing the forums with a chip on their shoulder is the reason we keep seeing so many rehashed arguments or things being dragged from one thread to another. I do get into the occasional slap-fight myself if I'm in a rough mood, but I could probably count every instance of that since 2010 on one hand alone.

I'm honestly not 100% sure why I don't feel as comfortable sharing personal things the way I used to. Perhaps it simply relates to what I said in my previous post. If I'm not here as often, I'm not going to feel as close to the people who are, and as a result of that, I might not feel comfortable sharing things that make me feel vulnerable. I don't want to say it was a clique, but the venting/confession threads used to have a pretty tight group of people who would always post about their frustrations or things they were really struggling with, and sometimes they would just post an embarrassing story or something interesting that had been on their mind. It felt as if every time I logged in, there would be something in either of those threads that would spark an interesting discussion, and it felt like everybody was sharing and interacting with each other. So many of them have since self-deleted or just stopped sharing, and now the confessions thread is practically dead and this one isn't nearly as active as it used to be.

Those two threads were sort of like my home on JUB, and it always felt like I could talk about anything and it wouldn't matter because on the previous page, somebody else was sharing something equally personal, and on the page after, another person would. Again, it might still feel that way for the people who post here actively and it could just be a shift in my own perception since I haven't been actively participating myself.

Interestingly enough, the last page of this thread has felt a whole lot more like the JUB I remember than anything else I've seen recently.

That's something for me to think about, I suppose.
 
Yeah - maybe it's true.
When I first joined there was a fair bit of banter, people who were smart and funny were here to meet and have a good time.
Went all a little toxic after various spats from politics strayed out. And some of those commenters were remarkably aggressive, which lowers the trust factor.
Having people trawl through other posts to use as ammunition in a partisan argument is low.
Seems the mods are adverse to deleting anything now, given that some of the trolly types provide much of the remaining activity on here.
I've come back from time to time to see if I'm missing anything, but the place gets quieter.
 
It's definitely quieter, but at least that makes it easier to hear the hot guys fucking upstairs.
 
Since it's past 3am and I can't sleep, I've been reflecting on my time at JUB and how the experience of the forum has changed for me over the years. I was really tempted to post in the "what's wrong with JUB?" thread to air out all of the grievances I have, but then I realised I've sort of lost the right to complain since I'm not really actively contributing to the forums anymore. At least in the past when I complained, it was somewhat counterbalanced by the fact that I was here interacting with my friends and contributing to the forums as a whole. Now if I complain I'm just that guy who stops by to remind everybody why he doesn't like to come here much anymore. That's kind of a downer for all of the people who still post daily (or the new people who have started contributing and still really enjoy being here).

I think it's pretty obvious to most people that JUB isn't as active as it once was, and I think there has also been a shift in the overall tone of the forums, but I can't help wondering whether I've been overstating how much change has actually occurred. My experience on JUB is very different now to what it was 3 years ago, but how much of that is due to JUB changing, and how much of it is due to me being a different person now than I was back then?

When I come to JUB now, it's a whole lot easier for me to focus on the petty arguments and the negativity, but that sort of stuff has always been here, at least it was here 4 years ago when I first signed up. I think it's just that back then, I was interacting with everybody constantly and people were going out of their way to interact with me too. That's not really the case anymore, and I think it's mostly my fault. I can't really blame people for not interacting with me when I log in for a day or two and then disappear for a month, especially if I neglect the PM conversations I start or participate in. I'd probably be less inclined to drop somebody a forum comment or a PM too if they hadn't responded to the last few I sent.

So of course JUB is going to seem like a shitty place if when I browse the forums I can't really see many people who are interested in interacting with me. I mean, I can't count how many of my friends have self-deleted or gone inactive, and that's certainly a factor too, but whether it's by my own doing or not, a community forum isn't exactly going to be appealing to me if I don't really feel like a part of the community anymore. I can't really tell if there's less of a sense of community on JUB, or if it just seems that way because I'm not really a part of it anymore (at least not in the way I used to be).

I don't really know what the point of saying all this is, but it's definitely something that's been on my mind tonight. I should probably just sleep. :lol:

I share many of the same thoughts. I come back less and less because the community and interaction are not what they were, and I myself have changed. It also didn't help that private attacks were made when I shared and I revealed my vulnerable side and the difficult events that I went through. There has been continual support and love from my friends here (and some of them have left) but the trolling and hate are sometimes too much. In the end it all adds up to not having a very enjoyable time.
 
This evening was my first night back at the store with my new tattoo. I showed it off to several co-workers, 2 of which are fellow Legend Of Zelda fans. If you'll see the pic i posted several posts above, you see that the Triforce - the the 4-triangle centerpiece - has 2 triangles filled in and 2 not filled. The center one pointing down is supposed to be left blank and open. As in mine, if the lower-right triangle pointed up is also not filled in, that Triforce symbol represents the Triforce Of Courage - for me, it personally represents how I have overcome my dark, damaged,and abusive past. It is a permanent reminder forever etched into my skin, that I have the courage to overcome my abusive past, and that I have the courage to step out on my own, rise above the demons of sexual abuse, neglect, and family violence, and truly make something great of myself.

Well, the 2 Zelda fan co-worker didn't know what the extra blank triangle meant. I was like, "OK, you can turn in your fan cards, now. Both of you."

One of the cosmetics dept girls was like, "I never expected you, of all people, to have one."

Really? Because, ya' know, only certain people would ever want a tattoo. /sarcasm...

It's so much fun to blow people's stereotypes and preconceived notions to Kingdom Cum, and watch as they start blowing smoke out of their ears trying to process that the last person they thought would be into tattoos...actually is into tattoos bigtime
 
Just helped my boss unload an almost 400-piece 18-wheeler truck shipment at my store. Home in bed now, and everything hurts.

I don't think it's unreasonable to request that my dream being about watching Tyler Hoechlin lift weights, all sweaty, and shit. :)
 
^ Just try watching Mrs Browns boys Da movie. That'll help with insomnia.:lol:
 
I'm so glad that in 2 days, this [strike]shitshow[/strike] sideshow will be over for me. Christmas happens to fall on my natural off-rotation.

Starting tomorrow I work until Christmas Eve. My specific store is actually closed on Christmas, which is literally a first, so I didn't have to worry about possibly having to work. I'm bracing myself for the craziness that will happen, but I am in a lot better spirits this time of year than I was last year during this season.
 
I think it's disgusting that I had to wait 10 minutes for two silly women to let me and my friends at the till. I was buying £2000 worth of clothes at Harrods when those two silly women stood around and brought nothing.

There's nothing worse than window shopping paupers who waste everybodys time. :roll: At least buy something and they should dress appropriately to even enter that store.
 
I'm frustrated enough with google I think they should be slammed with an anti-trust suit.

I wanted to change one setting, and before I was done google had taken over my browser by opening so many new tabs the thing crashed -- and somehow I now have three google accounts instead of one. So I called their customer service number, waded through the menu, and when I finally got "Press 5 for customer service", and I pressed 5, it said, "Thank you, and good-bye". Nice customer service!

What are good alternatives to gmail?
 
I think it's disgusting that I had to wait 10 minutes for two silly women to let me and my friends at the till. I was buying £2000 worth of clothes at Harrods when those two silly women stood around and brought nothing.

There's nothing worse than window shopping paupers who waste everybodys time. :roll: At least buy something and they should dress appropriately to even enter that store.

10 minutes? Patience Miz. And over 3,100 dollars of clothes??? :eek: :dead:
 
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