The Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2014

[dereperez]

yep...or pay off one's loans they made when going to college to get a bullshit degree to begin with.

Gawd...sometimes I feel like I just need to start over. If I could turn back time, I would choose a more practical career path...or take up a number of different trades or something. Hindsight is 20/20. That bullshit dream of "go to college...and life is x,y,z easier..." was just that...a dream.

People are fighting tooth and nail to get a decent job these days, so it's hard as hell to get in the door at any place.

sorry, MissAnne. I'm just going off on a tangent. I feel like I was lied to...made a series of dumbass decisions, and now I'm paying for it on a daily basis. It's a damn shame when someone selling their body for money reminds me what a waste of time (and money) my degree is.

I totally agree with you. I think basically being told at 18: okay here's the deal, you better go to college, right now, because if you don't, you're going to be a loser forever, so pick something you're going to use for the rest of your life, is really dumb. Kids make one of two decisions largely, the safe bet for the money field (this can go wrong... remember when they were saying there was "infinite" demand in programming and IT?) which they could very well end up hating (or even not using) or they take something interesting and can't land a career job with the degree they get. I think most people would choose something much more in between those two extremes if it was "normal" for people to work for 5 or 10 years after high school and then go to college.

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I do not have my masters, I intended to go back years ago, and the way the economy has been, I just haven't been able to justify the thought of losing all income, taking out huge loans, going massively into debt and then just hoping I can get a job that will take care of all of that afterwards.

Hmmmm....makes sense. Its so frustrating.

This is what I hear all the time, basically everywhere and from most everyone. I am becoming more and more anxious to enter the workforce...hoping to get in the door somewhere...

 

[eastofeden]

This is what I hear all the time, basically everywhere and from most everyone. I am becoming more and more anxious to enter the workforce...hoping to get in the door somewhere...

I was reading this article in Bloomberg recently where most of the young talent and college grads in Greece are leaving the country as there is no work for them.

 

[dereperez]

I was reading this article in Bloomberg recently where most of the young talent and college grads in Greece are leaving the country as there is no work for them.

I know it is a universal problem...it's becoming a pandemic. I know some of my peers are actually considering looking for opportunities in other countries as well. Seeking a compatible job (one that you actually like or are interested in, and make decent money) is probably akin to finding a "soul mate." He or she is out there...you just have to find each other. And he or she may be halfway around the world. Yikes.

 

[jdcnow]

AAAhhhhhhh!!!! Yes, my place is finally mine again.

As it's the first of the month, the past few days have been OMFG, WHAT NOW???!!!

I've had to keep my boss's elderly friend from out of town at my apartment, so that this gentleman could go to the VA hospital here (he's a disabled Vietnam vet) in Dallas, and the gentleman wouldn't have to spring for a hotel room out of his own pocket for the weekend.

In return, my boss also excused me from several days of coming over for housekeeping, which 1) was awesome of him - thank you, "Andy"!!!; and 2) let me get some of my college algebra homework at least partly done, omfg.

I've had to take caffeine pills my store job sells just to make it through the night sometimes. I've had to live with the aggravating feeling of being physically alert, and full of energy - almost hyper, while at the same time, being mentally beyond exhausted, and just wanting to sleep for days on end... I'm not kidding - just put a catheter up my dick to where I don't have to get up and go pee, and just let me sleep non-stop for a few days. I'd be right as rain by Friday or so.

The 10-hour non-stop shifts at my work (10 hours straight through - no lunch or anything), then I have to go home, and jump on algebra, then be thinking about my speech class assignments (thankfully, those don't come due for a good little while).

My days start have started at 8.30pm, and have not ended until, like, 4 or 5 the next day because of all the stuff I have to do. My therapist is proud of me - it's hard as omfg, and it takes a work ethic made of steel to do what I'm going through right now, but I'm making this ridiculous workload work. She's (my therapist) is still on me about me stopping to give myself props to build my self esteem up, when I am working this hard, and doing this well.

I'll be so glad when the end of my rotation comes at my store job. I want to go to sleep, and actually enjoy it, and not just feel like I only just physically shut my eyes for 2 hours.

I want to dream about waking up with my head on the beautiful bare chest of a gorgeous hairy guy with his arms around me. I don't feel like I'm asking for much, after busting my ass for the past week and a half.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

I think part of the problem is school systems that try to pawn off the idea that, "you can grow up and be ANYTHING you want to be...", take your money and give you a degree in Underwater Basket Weaving - fully well knowing that there just isn't job markets out there in a greater portion of fields that people are deeming as their "dream career". Not to mention the over saturation of degrees. A greater number of these kids should be learning trades that are needed instead of chasing expensive pipe dreams and buying into the idea that just any old degree is going to help you out in life and pave the way.

 

[Scealle]

^ Right? I mean I am not going to lie - I love parts of my college experience ; but I dreaded most of it and I had to gave up my biggest dream since childhood - competing which I somewhat regret. Now I am stuck with a career path that I do love to an extent ; but a sad one. One that requires long working hours in front of the computer and away from people.

I will begin volunteer teaching this weekend. Im a little nervous.

Are there any teachers on JUB that could give me some tips ?

What Borg said ; kids are cute and I do love them (growing up surrounded by them) but don't let their cuteness fool you They can be very bratty and turn your day upside down.

 

[xbuzzerx]

I think part of the problem is school systems that try to pawn off the idea that, "you can grow up and be ANYTHING you want to be...", take your money and give you a degree in Underwater Basket Weaving - fully well knowing that there just isn't job markets out there in a greater portion of fields that people are deeming as their "dream career". Not to mention the over saturation of degrees. A greater number of these kids should be learning trades that are needed instead of chasing expensive pipe dreams and buying into the idea that just any old degree is going to help you out in life and pave the way.

Well, no one was saying this 20-30 years ago. They were saying "it's all about the education, it's all about the education, go to college and you'll be good." Then it was "well, go into these specific fields", many of which have been outsourced or really no longer offer any guarantee of employment due to oversaturation or economic downturn (nursing, IT, etc.) Basically, the myth of "the only obstacle to upwards mobility/a great career and a bright future is education" has been put to rest. When everyone gets a college degree all that really means is that the value of a college degree goes down... jobs don't necessarily materialize out there for all the extra people who got degrees. 28% of Americans on minimum wage have a college degree today.

 

[jdcnow]

I think part of the problem is school systems that try to pawn off the idea that, "you can grow up and be ANYTHING you want to be...", take your money and give you a degree in Underwater Basket Weaving - fully well knowing that there just isn't job markets out there in a greater portion of fields that people are deeming as their "dream career". Not to mention the over saturation of degrees. A greater number of these kids should be learning trades that are needed instead of chasing expensive pipe dreams and buying into the idea that just any old degree is going to help you out in life and pave the way.

This. My therapist and I had a discussion, kind of on this very thing, that if I couldn't go after my "A" dream - weather science, what would my "B" dream be - computer visual graphics. In her field - mental health medicine, there actually aren't enough professionals out there - especially psychiatrists to meet the demand, and that's why the wait to get in to see one is ridiculous (1 to 3 months). A new psychiatrist fresh out of medical school could open up a brand new practice, and literally be booked solid from now to the end of summer, just because the sheer demand is there.

On the other hand, there are people - my boss at my store - with a college degree, and not using it, because of the job opportunities not panning out.

And a great big hug to all fellow college students out there. I'm glad I'm not the only one!

 

[xbuzzerx]

This. My therapist and I had a discussion, kind of on this very thing, that if I couldn't go after my "A" dream - weather science, what would my "B" dream be - computer visual graphics. In her field - mental health medicine, there actually aren't enough professionals out there - especially psychiatrists to meet the demand, and that's why the wait to get in to see one is ridiculous (1 to 3 months). A new psychiatrist fresh out of medical school could open up a brand new practice, and literally be booked solid from now to the end of summer, just because the sheer demand is there.

On the other hand, there are people - my boss at my store - with a college degree, and not using it, because of the job opportunities not panning out.

And a great big hug to all fellow college students out there. I'm glad I'm not the only one!

The enormous cost of med school is a rather serious impediment to many people who might otherwise be interested. It's not simply that "kids all want to take useless majors."

 

[pat grimshaw]

I think part of the problem is school systems that try to pawn off the idea that, "you can grow up and be ANYTHING you want to be...", ..

It's the American Dream.

 

[dereperez]

I've a friend getting a philosophy major. Things aren't looking too good for her. She realized this last year when it was already "too late." After graduation, she is going to take some classes at a community college to satisfy the pre-reqs for dental school. Talk about a career 180.

 

[xbuzzerx]

Just looked it up.

In 2012 the cost of most med schools was 200,000 on average per student, with the most expensive twelve (one would presume, the ones most people compete to get into) exceeding 300,000. Both the pure cost of med school and the average debt incurred have both increased faster than the rate of inflation for the last 20 years and nearly 90% are in debt for years after leaving school.

I know for law school the numbers are quite similar; not sure about business school, it may be a bit lower but that's only a guess because it seems like MBA's are a dime a dozen, so I presume more people are able to finance it.

 

[frankfrank]

When everyone gets a college degree all that really means is that the value of a college degree goes down... jobs don't necessarily materialize out there for all the extra people who got degrees. 28% of Americans on minimum wage have a college degree today.

The enormous cost of med school is a rather serious impediment to many people who might otherwise be interested. It's not simply that "kids all want to take useless majors."

While the cost of going to college/university continues to skyrocket. I expected the "college bubble" to burst as long as three or four years ago, and it hasn't happened yet. This can't keep up forever, and there not be a major reckoning on the way.

 

[altlover85]

I don't regret going to college. Heck, I don't even regret majoring in art history. What I regret is not taking advantage of the internships and other activities that would have given me a much better resume after I graduated. I don't feel like they were stressed enough when I was going to college.

I know for law school the numbers are quite similar; not sure about business school, it may be a bit lower but that's only a guess because it seems like MBA's are a dime a dozen, so I presume more people are able to finance it.

I think MBA's might have a better time of it because there is a chance that their companies might pay for some of their schooling. I'm not sure though. Also, it takes less time to get an MBA as compared to a JD or MD.

 

[Gentleheart]

omg...random, but how is it possible for a guy to be so incredibly GORGEOUS and completely sweet at the same time!?



I think I have a little JUB cuddle-crush. meaning I don't want to date or have sex with said person...but they just make me want to give them lots and lots of cuddles.

 

[frankfrank]

When I'm trrying to buy stuff online - perhaps through Amazon - WHY in the hell does it NEVER specify whether the item is being shipped via Mail or via UPS? I never have any way to find out ahead of time, there is never a choice, nothing ever says what the specific shipping method is.

If I'm receiving by mail, I **ABSOLUTELY DO NOT** want it going to the UPS address, because they charge me to handle packages, and I have to depend on a phone call (which I may not be home to intercept). If they are shipping via UPS and I give them the PO Box address, it can take up to three weeks for me to get the package because some places take forever to tell me they can't deliver to a PO Box.

I strongly prefer MAIL in all cases, because it's incredibly safer and far more convenient.

Wh in the FUCK can't they say that in their listing, that a street address is required?

This pisses me off to no end.

[EDIT: This is the fifth or sixth time I've checked Amazon since about October and, this time, FOR THE FIRST TIME, I actually found a place that specifies a choice of UPS or MAIL. I've been trying to find and buy a loud phone ringer which has a "regular bell sound" OPTION, but is electronic - NOT A MECHANICAL METAL BELL - the fiber optic line here does not provide enough voltage to ring a metal bell and sometimes I don't get phone calls. Finally, this might be solved! Having the tee-lee-lee-lee-lee chirp type ring is not an option to me, it's worse than fingernails on a chalkboard. Whew. Success.]

 

[MissAnne]

I still find myself seeking the approval of people that I shouldn't give two shakes about.

 

[jdcnow]

#First World Problems, I know, but...

When I get home, and am tired as the living dead from a 10hr shift at work, the last thing I want to hear is construction and faffing around down on the ground outside my apartment building. I know I'm on the 3rd, floor, but I can still hear that!!!

 

[jdcnow]

I hate that when I get home from work, I can't just immediately shut my mind off and go to bed. I know I need to unwind a bit, and I use the internet (YouTube, music, porn, etc.) to do that. But that takes time - a commodity I find in way short supply, these days.

Meanwhile, I'm quoting this, in the hope that this will actually happen, this time, when I go to sleep, here in a few...

I want to dream about waking up with my head on the beautiful bare chest of a gorgeous hairy guy with his arms around me. I don't feel like I'm asking for much, after busting my ass for the past week and a half.

Good night, day dwellers...

 

[pat grimshaw]

...

I think I have a little JUB cuddle-crush. ..

Yes, I've got a little one too. (and it isn't Buzzer )