The Love of a Father...

[dereperez]

Surfing around on YouTube, I came across this video:

[video=youtube;J8oeGCgIUtI]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J8oeGCgIUtI[/video]

How much is enough? While I feel for the son, I can tell his father loves him very much and is showing tough love. The son is extremely damaged and a danger to the mom and dad. Can a mentally messed and manipulative child ever change and recover from the abyss?

I don't even know why this Dr. Phil episode touched me the way it did. It's a complex dynamic and one can sympathize with both sides. Maybe I'm wishing my own dad cared more for me. Growing up I'd always feel he was indifferent. Maybe he didn't love us as much. And then he left us.

I wish I could seen him more often. But when I do, our interactions almost seem forced and mechanical and our conversations always perfunctory. Come to think of it, I don't recall ever hearing an "I love you" from him.

 

[dpnice]

Interesting video. Unfortunately due to human nature we are attracted to the physically beautiful and beaten dog syndrome and subsequently the young boy comes over as really quite sympathetic and the father as extremely hard and unbending.

But I did manage to distance myself from my sexual attraction towards the young boy and fervently believe that the parents had done all they could and there is always that moment when one decides that is enough.

Goodness he is 24yrs old and should really be able to support himself and make his own decisions; if they are all the wrong ones than I don't, personally, think it is the fault of his parents nor of his upbringing.

 

[dereperez]

Interesting video. Unfortunately due to human nature we are attracted to the physically beautiful and beaten dog syndrome and subsequently the young boy comes over as really quite sympathetic and the father as extremely hard and unbending.

But I did manage to distance myself from my sexual attraction towards the young boy and fervently believe that the parents had done all they could and there is always that moment when one decides that is enough.

Goodness he is 24yrs old and should really be able to support himself and make his own decisions; if they are all the wrong ones than I don't, personally, think it is the fault of his parents nor of his upbringing.

I think the parents have done all that they could and have been more than fair and understanding, from what I could gather. You could see that the father was opening up to the idea of reconciling with his son towards the latter half of the video. The father is right, the son has to man up and prove that he is worthy of reconciliation.

It will be interesting to follow-up on what happens to the "boy" and the family after his stint in rehab.

 

[evanrick]

they never really talk about how his problems started, from his teenage years or earlier. it could come down to something as simple as breastfeeding. if you feed your child formula they end up with lower IQ and worse off immune system as well. not a complex problem but a complex solution, this man was just dealt a bad hand from the start.