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The more attractive you are = The more friends you have?

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Basically, this is something that I find to be possibly, but sadly true. I think it makes sense in a way, but is kind of unfair in a way.

What do you guys think?
 
There's that aspect, but there's also the aspect of personality, if your personalities dont meld, then there can be no friendship, so I dont think it's as cut and dry as appearance.
 
I think beauty fosters self-confidence which allows oneself to network well.

I know damn hot people with only few friends. It's also personal preference.
 
I'm extremely attractive (I know this because people tell me constantly wherever I go) and have very few good friends. A lot of posers though, as someone else said.
 
Deep friendship and true love are more than superficial looks or attraction to the looks.
I have read that good looking people generally have better shots at life.
I witnessed attractive men & women getting preferential treatment in the hiring process, in courtrooms, in show biz, politics etc.
 
I think looks can open the door to a lot of friendships--- but they last for a long time based on personality, mutual respect and a lot of other factors more important than looks!
 
Bob6896 said:
What do you guys think?
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NO.

There is this new guy at work he is so cute and has a body to match, but he is a loner. You would think he would have alot of friends and be sociable and all but he shuts everyone out, guys and girls.

I have tried to befriend him and so have other people but he is non responsive.

Just because a person might be hot doesnt mean they dont have issues.

Sometimes i see guys that are so sexy you really have to wonder whats wrong with them why they don't have any friends or are single.

So no hotness does not equate friendships nor relationships.
 
newboy12 said:
Just because a person might be hot doesnt mean they dont have issues.
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Very well said Newboy.

I also knew someone from work who was very hot but didn't have many friends outside work at all.

I don't consider myself attractive but I am very lucky to have a large group of very good friends. They may not be the people I went to school with but we have been friends for a very long time and each and everyone would do anything for any of the others.

I think the amount of good friends (not just mates) you have depends on how much effort you put into those relationships. Real friends are not interested in how attractive you are.

Real friends are the ones that make you feel confident not your looks.
 
Yeah, I bet. I'm not attractive and don't really have friends. I wish I was.
 
I agree with a lot of what I read. Nothing is etched in stone. Sociologically, people are attracted to more attractive people, but i've seen plenty of examples of very blah looking people with gorgeous partners. sometimes its what you make of it, and other times i do think society tries to limit us. thats why i thinks its important to take care of ourselves and make the most of our looks, but also the most of ourselves emotionally and vocationally. find a path and follow it. the rest should take care of itself.
 
unclaimedblessing said:
Deep friendship and true love are more than superficial looks or attraction to the looks.
I have read that good looking people generally have better shots at life.
I witnessed attractive men & women getting preferential treatment in the hiring process, in courtrooms, in show biz, politics etc.
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That can also be a double-edged sword. I have witnessed
the same ones with pink slips in their hands and escorted to the parking lot. Looks don't guarantee performance in the workplace.
 
Bob6896 said:
Basically, this is something that I find to be possibly, but sadly true. I think it makes sense in a way, but is kind of unfair in a way.

What do you guys think?
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It's a fact of life. Attractive people have friends because they ARE more attractive!
 
i think the more attractive you are the more people want to sleep with you-not be your friend.when i was going to the gay bar-i went from age 15 to 30-people told me all the time how hot i was.that's what kept me going all those years! it was nice but never went to my head cause i realized they all wanted something from me and it was not my friendship.even those who turned out to be my good friends had to test me out first. it came to the point that if i wanted to be friends with someone i would sleep with them 1st to get it out of the way!but i am in no way complaining! i had some kick ass butch hot guys.and some really great friends once the sex stuff was out of the way.
 
Personality has alot more to do with friendship than looks do. I know some uber hotties who have very few friends because they have a nasty attitude. On the flip side I know some ug-mugs (bless their hearts, I love 'em like my luggage) who have such attractive personalities that they are never in need of company or friendship.
 
WCPages said:
The more attractive you are = There more confident you feel = The more social you behave = The more friends you have.
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As long as we are abusing the equal sign:

The more attractive you are = The more you expect people to like you = The more you expect from people = People not meeting your expectations = You acting like a jerk to them = The fewer friends you have.
 
Yes.

The message you have entered is too short.
 
This is teenager's stuff / judgement.

In the meantime, so many "handsome" and "attractive" Hollywood movie stars have been using drugs, alcohol , suicide etc.. 'cause their lifes were so good as empty.
Including Marilyn Monroe and Jean-Claude Van Damme's.

Arnaud
 
Well there is some truth to this as they have done several socialogical studies on the subject. Propensity for something doesn't mean it is. It is very dangerous to apply global meanings to a population. If something has some statistical significance it is just that, nothing more.

I'm not attractive and yet people love to be with me because I am lots of fun to be with. I make others have a good time. I mean I am having a good time so it just rubs off, I guess. So that is my own anecdotal evidence on the matter. :D
 
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