No Animated GIFs The More Attractive You Are = The More Friends You Have ?

[Cormac135]

Do you have many friends, if not do you believe how you look has anything to do with this ?

 

[Link25]

No I don’t have many (any?) friends and yes, I do believe my looks have a lot to do with it. I have many things in common with gay men my age but I can’t seem to make a gay friend to save my life. It’s the only conclusion I can come to at this point. I know that’s why I don’t date, but I’m thinking it’s the same for finding friends too.

I’m working on losing weight although I’m not a big guy and getting really fit....it may help.

I’m pretty happy though...I think I’m getting used to it now.

 

[peeonme]

No body likes me. J/k, I have a small circle of friends. It has nothing to do with looks.

 

[NotHardUp1]

I had many friends when I was still in smalltown Arkansas. It was a product of my family knowing everyone their and my nature. I've never been attractive, but most attractive people do have more friends. And, sadly, homely people have a harder time making friends without some kind of in like money, family connections, power, etc.

I've had a harder time making friends outside work since moving to new places. I'm older, fatter, and prone to quipping. I think the old and fat have a huge effect on people being less welcoming.

 

[HoodedRat]

I have as many friends as I want/need, but I doubt that any of them care what I look like..

 

[Cormac135]

No body likes me. J/k, I have a small circle of friends. It has nothing to do with looks.

Do you thing it could be your personality

 

[peeonme]

Do you thing it could be your personality

Or lack thereof...

 

[Charon]

All of my friends are girls, my looks he nothing to do with it(obviously). I have no interest in befriending straight men because, personally, I think they're obnoxious as hell. And I don't even try to befriend other Gay guys because 99% of them in this city are twinky queens who aren't interested in bears(that does have a lot to do with my looks).

And to answer the thread title's question, totally. Just look at how many likes hot guys and pretty girls get on social media.

 

[tarallucci]

I think that if you have many friends because of the looks rather than the personality then you have shallow friends, (reason why I reject all men who fall in love with me without knowing me). I know a good amount of people but real friends are not meant to be many anyway, and yes I get a feeling that the way I look does its part even with strangers. Sadly, the aesthetic has a connection with success... which I believe is ok when combined with content... especially in our times. But also in the past, if you want a job as a receptionist or a waiter... the first requirement right after the experience has always been that you have to be personable.

I've never been attractive

Shut. The. Trap. Up.

I'm older, fatter, and prone to quipping. I think the old and fat have a huge effect on people being less welcoming.

 

[NotHardUp1]

He probably works for the same company I do.

Unfortunately, lots of studies show "attractive" people are more popular.

To your point about shallow friends, absolutely true. I had great friends when I was younger. They'd help, they'd call, they'd share, and they were reliable. As I've moved to new places, people seem less committed to friendship.

I've kept reaching out, and I will, but even the ones I've met and frequented, seem to be heavy on the flake content. Most of the times they are fine eating out or a movie, but if you ever actually need them to do anything, a no show. That's sad.

 

[Vannie]

Shut. The. Trap. Up.

Have a little respect for the elderly

 

[mcbrion]

Agreed about the looks/shallow friends observations. But it can also be a function of geography. I suspect this happens more in the US than in other countries, where people have spiritual cultures that espouse looking at someone's heart and soul. Here in the good ol' US of A, the culture has turned exceedingly superficial over the decades. Not the case in the 50s, 60 and 70s (well, part of it). 80s? It started being much more about looks, especially on soap operas, which, heretofore, had older actors, but started changing their demographic to younger, more attractive actors. Nighttime tv followed. by the 90s, both gay and straight cultures were all about the body/ab 6-pak and now we are a full-blown dysfunctional culture, where people make fun of others' looks.
Gay culture wasn't too much this was in the 60s, but in the 70s, when "we" were more out (as in San Francisco), there started the development of the "A" crowd mentality, and that meant "beautiful," as Andrew Holleran so beautifully articulated in his book "Dancer From The Dance." So, we were ahead of straight culture in that respect.
I have fewer friends because I like it that way (here in CT). In SF, I was very popular, but it was strictly that my physique stood out so strongly, something I had no control over (I had my dad's genes, and I was "built" when I was 14). I sought out "nice guys" to befriend - and to date - because they were less damaged than the "A" crowd guys, who, from the things they said when in groups, sounded more like 14-years olds. The more "average" guys (who I thought were actually pretty cute guys) came equipped with nicer personalities, and good hearts, were more than enough for me.
The entire culture (straight AND gay) now is full blown superficial. And yet, for all that, highly unattractive if you look past the surface.

 

[Happenis1]

I consider myself average-looking but I have no friends out of choice. I'm good with just having my boyfriend and my parents.

I've definitely had opportunities to make friends but nobody really seems worth my time so I kinda subtly push them away.

- I don't really want gay male friends b/c most are messy, drama-filled and untrustworthy.
- I don't like hanging out with females.
- Most straight males don't want a gay friend (even if they pretend to not care) so I don't get too close.

I'm just a loner by nature. As a kid, I was almost always by myself out of choice. I like doing independent activities.

 

[NotHardUp1]

Have a little respect for the elderly

Hey, it was a compliment. I don't get many of those.

 

[rareboy]

Our real friends don't care how we look.

 

[mcbrion]

Our real friends don't care how we look.

Amen to that!

 

[sixthson]

Picking friends for their looks can only mean your friendships have a limited shelf life. Nobody stays 20 forever.

 

[Kahaih]

Yeah, a basket full of gathered rosebuds and all that crap . . .

Being attractive means people are attracted to you - you attract a larger pool of potential friends, so it's quite likely that you would/could end up with more than just a couple of 'real' friends.

 

[USEDCAR]

I have a few straight male and female friends. I can go to the bar and strike up a conversation with any random straight guy/gal faster then any gay person.

I would love to have a few cool gay friends. The sad thing is if your not attractive and/or don't want to sleep with them they don't want to have anything to do with you. I tried to have conversations with gay guys and its like pulling teeth. It's sad all my straight friend are in and out of relationships and i'm still sitting here single.

 

[72-Jay]

No I don’t have many (any?) friends and yes, I do believe my looks have a lot to do with it.

I could say the same thing.
I'm certainly nothing special to look at, I'm sure that's part of it...
...but there's also my personality (or total lack thereof), that's good for driving people away too...