The question of Lube

[chrisdobro]

I suppose this topic best belongs here.

I keep having these two issues:

1. I keep running out of lube (and lube is expensive)
2. It is difficult to apply the lube during moments of passion.

More on 1: I use Astroglide. I don't like KY since it gives me a burning sensation.
More on 2: when you are hot and heavy and your guy pokes you with his dick, it is probably not the time to say "uhmm hang on a minute, let me lube up". Even though I keep the lube right by the bed, it's typically not an easy process to put the lube on. I squirt some in my hand, then I rub it on, and it's kinda messy.

Is there a better way? Ideally I'd prefer to get a whole gallon of lube, and get a smaller squirter bottle that can be readily used to perhaps squirt some on the required areas, thus leaving less stickiness on the hands.

I've heard of JLube. Is it good to use for this purpose ?

 

[Rule-Of-Thirds]

You should look into those lube shooter things that they sell. They're kind of like turkey basters filled with lube that you shoot up your bum so you don't have to worry about your guy needing to apply lube when you're caught up in the moment.

http://www.condomdepot.com/product/detail.cfm/pnid/214/nid/271/pid/2671

 

[justdoitinnj]

For about 12 years now I've used a lube called Surgilube (my Dr recommended it) it comes in a tube like toothpaste and its easy to apply or squirt where ever.
I buy it at Rite Aid and its like $1.45 for a 4 oz tube.
Its water soluble and stays "wet" for a long time.

 

[najfus]

I use JO system.. It's silicone based (condom safe). I've never had a problem with applying it... It's not cheap, but I don't have a vast amount of anal sex.

My boyfriend likes boy butter (oil based NOT condom safe).. a little cheaper than JO.

 

[tx_doc]

Why not apply the lube while he's putting the condom on?.... or while you're putting the condom on him, let him lube your ass up. That way you're incorporating it in your sex play.

 

[chrisdobro]

we are not using condoms.

and before I set off your alarms guys, me and my boy were together for a while and are both safe.

We sleep together, and it offen happens that either me or him start feeling the poke all of a sudden without a warning.

That's when I feel like I'm in an emergency situation. Lube LUBE ! 10-4 We need lube right now !!

It is not the time to say .. Umm excuse me while I get out of bed, fumble with the lube, put some on, make it back to bed, and then be ready for you.

Maybe we are rushing though. But when you're horny it feels like every second counts. Even when I have lube right there by the bed, I often don't lube up properly, since I'm so much in a hurry. It's almost like I need to prelube myself "just in case" every time I go to bed. I've done that and it does save the situation, but at the expense of lubing myself up every time.

 

[3nipples]

Umm. Why isn't he lubing you up?

 

[DeMan06]

seems like there are a couple things you could do.

First and foremost... make the lube easily accessible.. like on top of the night stand right next to the bed. Don't stick it in a drawer so it takes time to get to.

1. Get some foreplay in there (personally I find it make sex more enjoyable and the orgasms better). Also if you keep the lube near your bed (like on top of the nightstand,) you should be able to grab it without breaking contact with your partner. Both my BF and I are able to kiss and roam with one hand while the other hand grabs lube. Then apply lube while performing oral or something.. figure out your own thing

2. If you wanna skip the foreplay then have a conversation with your BF.... something like... "Babe (or some other <pet name>)... I really like it when you f*ck me... but I really need a bit of lube so it doesn't hurt." (feel free to stroke his ego and mention because he's a little big or something). He can always lube up his dick before he attempts to enter, and he can also lube you up a bit as he guides himself in...

You shouldn't be afraid to communicate with your partner about what helps you enjoy sex. I would think he should be concerned with your enjoyment as much as his own. just my thoughts from personal experience

 

[chrisdobro]

without lube ? hmm we've done it once, when natural lubrication (or some sweat?) helped a long way.

Otherwise it is not entirely my thing. It can be done, but I find it that most of the times it hurts. Especially since my partner insists on doing it hard and fast ...

if it can be nice and slow, it probably wouldn't be that much of a problem. Lube does help a lot though for me.
thanks guys