The Reluctant Homosexual

[Scrub]

So, I came out to my mother last night. She's a little 70 year old Irish granny.

We were chatting on the phone (she lives a few hours away) and I just dropped "How would you feel if I said I had a boyfriend?" (I haven't but that's how it came out).

She was all like "Sure nothing would surprise me at this stage, anyway you were always a bit that way, is he good looking?".

It seems that everyone else knew I was gay all along - WTF! I thought I was 'straight acting', I may as well have wrapped myself in a rainbow flag and sprinkled glitter everywhere I went.

We finished the conversation in great form (usually we fight) and she just said "Well as long as you're happy".

Noelie, good for you

I'm please to hear this went so well for you

 

[G-Lexington]

Everyone told me I couldn't tell Grandma I was gay. It'd break her heart, she'd never get over it, could you take off the ring when you come visit her, the whole thing.

One day, when my sister was visiting her, my grandmother asked, "How do you feel about Lex being a homosexual?"

As my sister said, "Grandma ain't dumb."

>>>I thought I was 'straight acting', I may as well have wrapped myself in a rainbow flag and sprinkled glitter everywhere I went.

Don't let this get you down (if it indeed does). It just means they already know, and since they're still your friends, they're already cool with it.

Lex

 

[G-Lexington]

That's precisely what you want to hear from your therapist. Way to go.

Lex

 

[chivaslow]

Hi Noel, I hope you have a happy and wonderful life ahead of you.

It is sometimes difficult to be who we are due to many social disapproval but I suppose as society slowly opens up to the idea that people are born gay and that’s a natural thing, people will accept gay people more.

All the best !

 

[alley]

Noelie--so happy your life is falling into place---just being around happy and proud gay men is so life changing for us guys who were in the closet so long. Good luck with your new male therapist.

 

[looseliam]

I'm so glad it went well for you!

I found out, too, that many knew I was gay before I did.

*hugs*

Oh, and you still owe me a visit to Chicago!

 

[DonDon]

^ OMG I so want to visit Chicago - you're on! I'll see if I can incorporate it into the trip for the LA meet, if not I may come over at Christmas.

There's an LA meet???? When, where, how??? I wanna go!!!

 

[mojoe54]

Hey,Noelie,
I just stumbled upon this thread--just wanted to say I feel for you and what you are going through. I think most gay people have a difficult time "coming out' and becoming comfortable with their sexuality and societal disapproval of it. You have been getting very good advice here,and it is apparent that you are making great progress in becoming more comfortable with yourself. I think the gay therapist is a good idea--you will be able to speak to him without censoring yourself, and in addition he can probably give you very good advice about being a gay man in Ireland.
I wanted to mention maybe you should check out the gay scene in Dublin. I have heard that there is more of a gay community there. I know it is not that close to Cork but you could always go for a short holiday--check it out and see if you like it. Life is too short to spend it being unhappy. Best of luck to you!!
bb

 

[mojoe54]

That is great, Noelie! You seem so much happier and more centered. I think you're gonna be just fine!!
bb

P.S. Thanks for the link --another gay website--cool! My next overseas trip (whenever that might be) is definitely going to be to Ireland, the land of my ancestors!

 

[mojoe54]

^ I just might take you up on that sometime!
Take care,
bb