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the secrets that are left behind after you die

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are you worried about the damage it may cause to the ones that are living? we all know that somebody that has that secret that could ruin whole families and lives.


well, me, let's just hope that all the dirt that i've played in has washed itself away where it can't be traced to me and that anybody i know playing with dirt doesn't leave their trail around me. with that said, victimless crimes shouldn't be prosecuted.
 
Stop worrying. Your parents have bigger secrets.

And so do your aunts and uncles. You might hear them when they're told on their deathbed. But most die with them.
 
Your threads are pretty deep refuji

I've often thought about this... I mean I haven't exactly been known for honesty, and that's something I'm trying to work on. I just hope when I'm gone, that the lies that I've told won't hurt the ones I love.
 
I have a secret from my teenage years. I've never told anyone and I still blush when I think about it.
 
Hopefully someone close will erase my hard drive and empty out the drawer of my nightstand :badgrin:
 
My life is an open book...

But -- if I WASN'T -- I'm SURE that the LAST thing I would worry about is what people found AFTER I no longer existed... :rotflmao:

:):):)
 
porn in my house is not really a secret.
They can discover/watch all they want after i die.
 
I can't say as I'm privy to much in the way of "secrets". Maybe I've got more porn than my parents think I've got.

People have told me some rather embarrassing thoughts or stories while I was in "therapist" mode. But the reason they share this information with me is because they know it's safe in my hands. I'd never share it.

Lex
 
I'm sure I'll get this story wrong because it was told to me over a decade ago - it was about the dad of my best friend, and it went something like this....

So my friend's dad, he was brought up in Lancashire in the 1940's/1950's by his parents, and so the decades pass, and he marries and moves up to Scotland, and his parents pass away. And he has a son (my friend) and more years pass, and he reaches his 50's in age, and then his sister dies, and he goes back down to Lancashire for the funeral.

And at the funeral are cousins/relatives of him. And at some point before or after the funeral, a relative comes up to him and they talk, and during the conversation, this person suddenly says something to him like, "Oh, well, it was hard for you what with your mum and dad not being your real parents." :eek:

It turned out that his real mother was his mother's sister, and who he always knew as his mother was actually his aunt.

And even more, the person he always knew as his dad was in reality just his aunt's husband, and completely unrelated biologically to him.

And even more, the sister whose funeral he was attending was actually his cousin.

NO-ONE had EVER told him. And the relative who told him had assumed that he knew.

The story went that back in the 1940's his real mother had a one-night stand, a fling with a guy, and she found herself pregnant and unmarried at a young age, and so she left town and secretly gave birth to him miles away over in Wales, and then she returned home, and the baby was given to her elder sister's family and brought up as their own, and he was given his aunt's husband's surname.

The sad thing is that by the time he found out, they were all gone - his mother, his aunt, his father, his sister - they were all dead. And he still has no idea who his real father is, and will never know.

ALL of them had gone their entire lives, and died, without EVER telling him.

:(
 
overheard at the funeral for "mjeh89":

"Christ, that asshole sure was infatuated with Taylor Lautner!"
 
Well, I'd hate for my family to find the porn collection my hubby and I have built.
 
I have no such secrets. If I died tomorrow the only thing i'd be worried about is the ability of my parents to contact my friends.
 
Well, I'd hate for my family to find the porn collection my hubby and I have built.

Don't worry, I have a great idea! We'll partner up and if we die we'll each get a JUB member to go to or house and clean it out. Just take all porn, condoms, whips, chains, the lot of it before our families can find them!
 
I'm sure I'll get this story wrong because it was told to me over a decade ago - it was about the dad of my best friend, and it went something like this....

So my friend's dad, he was brought up in Lancashire in the 1940's/1950's by his parents, and so the decades pass, and he marries and moves up to Scotland, and his parents pass away. And he has a son (my friend) and more years pass, and he reaches his 50's in age, and then his sister dies, and he goes back down to Lancashire for the funeral.

And at the funeral are cousins/relatives of him. And at some point before or after the funeral, a relative comes up to him and they talk, and during the conversation, this person suddenly says something to him like, "Oh, well, it was hard for you what with your mum and dad not being your real parents." :eek:

It turned out that his real mother was his mother's sister, and who he always knew as his mother was actually his aunt.

And even more, the person he always knew as his dad was in reality just his aunt's husband, and completely unrelated biologically to him.

And even more, the sister whose funeral he was attending was actually his cousin.

NO-ONE had EVER told him. And the relative who told him had assumed that he knew.

The story went that back in the 1940's his real mother had a one-night stand, a fling with a guy, and she found herself pregnant and unmarried at a young age, and so she left town and secretly gave birth to him miles away over in Wales, and then she returned home, and the baby was given to her elder sister's family and brought up as their own, and he was given his aunt's husband's surname.

The sad thing is that by the time he found out, they were all gone - his mother, his aunt, his father, his sister - they were all dead. And he still has no idea who his real father is, and will never know.

ALL of them had gone their entire lives, and died, without EVER telling him.

:(


WOW. that is incredibly fucked up on some many levels. that sounds like something out of a nightmare. does he still talk to his remaining family after that? i think that is one of the worst things any family member could do to somebody. geez.

Sounds like a guilt to me ^
If it's guilt then it doesn't matter for you or others, as long the outcome changed/ not harmful anymore to others.

I think the cruelest secret left after you die, that if your current life full of debts and misfortunes...and when you die, you're still have them inherit to your relatives/family/close person to you. Just like my dad.

i'm pretty sure nobody got hurt over it. you know, the thing is as far as i know, what i've done hasn't come back to haunt me as in so and so from my past saying my name and having me mixed up in some situation i have nothing to do with-more like being caught up in a conspiracy. it's very easy from what i understand. you get something from one person that is involved in something and next thing you know, you have your name being called to court because you're involved in someone elses legal problem.

but on the last thing you said, i'm worried that my father might have some dirt in his closet that might come to haunt my brother and me. supposedly the only relatives that he knows claims that he is a liar that has lied about his past and is hiding something and that it might come back to get his sons. i believe them too because he pretty much is the exact opposite of what he claims to be. he claims to have been a police officer/auto mechanic/bank manager that went to college in his old country but yet he came to america, broke, was homeless, living on the train doing a dead end job with no aspirations for life. he pretty much lives off my mother.
 
Now, I would LOVE to be a fly on the wall after I die, when they clean out my house/apartment and discover just how many pairs of underwear I have. I'm sure THAT will be a freely discussed topic at the wake. ;)

This will be the same for me. :D

-d-
 
My friends have instructions that if I die, they're to open the door and toss in a few matches to get the fire going.
 
Since I don't keep the mutilated bodies of my victims in my bedroom, I haven't committed treason or given away any children, and don't have a stash of blackmail notes in my jewelry box, there's nothing in my life to surprise anyone who knows me. Porn? Naturally! Everyone knows I like porn, and there's no kiddies or critters among the collection. Chicken-bones and empty ice-cream containers under my bed? Not nice but not shocking. Thick layers of dust on anything that I can't see from the door or my bed? Well, so what?

Point of fact, if I ever feel ashamed of anything, I make a point of telling it to the people closest to me...or whoever is nearby when I think of it, or whoever feels like reading my blog when I decide to write it down. As I see it, you're only as sick as your secrets, and there's nothing in the world so lonely as thinking there's something you can't tell anyone.

And seriously, information never ruined anyone's life unless they want it to. Even discovering a father's second family or an aunt's fling with Naziism... or finding out you're adopted after everyone involved is dead... is certainly shocking but won't actually destroy you. People only die of shock and shame in Victorian novels, not real life.
 
That dusty life size large Dildo tucked behind the computer desk might haunt some for a while after I die.
 
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