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So here's the scoop- I am a 24 year old virgin living in North Carolina. I'm not new to dating, I've dated off and on for the past seven years; but never found anyone that I've been able to be intimate with. It's not for lack of good-looking guys or guys I like; but it always seems that nothing comes of the relationship. I've been looking for a man to be with for seven years now, and haven't been able to find a single one that I could date for about a month before they decided to break things off; either by telling me directly or not answering their email/ phone until mutual friends tell me what happened. I want to find a good guy who I can be with; but it seems almost impossible. Are there any guys in the NC- VA area who can help me out?
 
A site like this isn't a great place to find potential boyfriends. I would recommend sites like OKCupid or Plenty Of Fish if you are looking for a long-term relationship. Despite its changes, I still feel gay.com is a good one too. I met my first long-term boyfriend on there. If possible, try to find out why the guys broke off the relationships. There may be something that you are doing that is causing them to break up with you. Best of luck. (*8*)
 
Never make a list of criteria that is more than 5 items long.

For example:
1. Age
2. Height
3. Weight
4. Educational attainment
5. HIV status
 
Answer to yourself on these questions:
Do you feel confident about yourself? What 5 qualities are you offering to your potential date if you two were in a relationship? If you can't name 5 qualities about yourself, then what 5 qualities would you like to have? Work on those. You have to sell yourself.

Most people find confidence in a man very attractive...down right sexy! ..|
 
I don't think there are many gay men who are willing to date for an entire month or longer without having sex. If that's what you want, you just have to accept that many men will be disqualified/disqualify you for that reason alone, and you'll just have to search harder. Good luck!
 
lostone89 said:
So here's the scoop- I am a 24 year old virgin living in North Carolina. I'm not new to dating, I've dated off and on for the past seven years; but never found anyone that I've been able to be intimate with. It's not for lack of good-looking guys or guys I like; but it always seems that nothing comes of the relationship. I've been looking for a man to be with for seven years now, and haven't been able to find a single one that I could date for about a month before they decided to break things off; either by telling me directly or not answering their email/ phone until mutual friends tell me what happened. I want to find a good guy who I can be with; but it seems almost impossible. Are there any guys in the NC- VA area who can help me out?
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I definitely know where ur coming from. I just moved from NC. Hit me up (PM) if u ever wanna talk.
 
HunterM said:
Answer to yourself on these questions:
Do you feel confident about yourself? What 5 qualities are you offering to your potential date if you two were in a relationship? If you can't name 5 qualities about yourself, then what 5 qualities would you like to have? Work on those. You have to sell yourself.

Most people find confidence in a man very attractive...down right sexy! ..|
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Good advice. You have to ask yourself - what might be the reason for them not wanting to be in a relationship?
 
lostone89 said:
I've been looking for a man to be with for seven years now, and haven't been able to find a single one that I could date for about a month before they decided to break things off; either by telling me directly or not answering their email/ phone until mutual friends tell me what happened. I want to find a good guy who I can be with; but it seems almost impossible. Are there any guys in the NC- VA area who can help me out?
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If you've been doing this for 7 years, then you're already found good guys.

Have any of them told you why they didn't want to continue dating you?
 
If the other person is looking for sex or is already sexually active they may thing that waiting a month is too long a time and have a sense that the relationship won't go anywhere. I don't write that to pressure you, but if holding out is important to you any guy you are dating needs to know that a few dates in to a relationship.
 
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