Theory About Straight People's Theory on Gays

[gaystorm]

I had a discussion with a straight woman today arguing if being gay is a choice or something you are born with. Well, she, of course was saying that being gay was a lifestyle choice and got into this whole thing about race not being the same as being gay as far as being born with something. Anyway, it got me thinking. People who think it is a choice must have made a choice. Perhaps those people have struggled with their sexuality and do think they have chosen to be straight. Or they truly cannot believe someone is actually attracted to the same sex; rather, they are looking for attention.

 

[chrisw87]

I have the same sort of scenario going with a few young girls at work, strangely all from the same cultural background (might be a family upbringing thing, strict christian Macedonian families).

The usual response is to ask them;

Q-"How do you know you are straight? how do you know that you are attracted to men/women?"

A-usually something like "uhhh because I am!"

Q-"that is how it is for gay people too... "

A-"no its a choice!"

Q- "how do you know, were you gay in the past?"

A- "never, why would I be gay?"

 

[swerve]

That is EXACTLY the CORRECT question to pose to someone proclaiming sexuality to be a CHOCIE...

 

[Benvolio]

No, gay storm, I do not think that people who think it is a choice have themselves made a choice. They take it for granted that everyone is attracted to the opposite sex so gays must as well. I agree that the best answer to them is to challenge them to stop for a short period being attracted to the opposite sex and be attracted to their own sex for a short period. They will, of course assert that they are so straight that they cannot chage. So why do they think others can. The most important thing is to assure them that no one ever chooses to be gay.

 

[Treborf]

It's more likely that those type of straight people lack the empathy to understand a gay man's perspective.

 

[G-Lexington]

It's a standard response. They didn't choose to be gay, so we must have chose to be gay. As for me, so for all.

And although I didn't choose to BE gay, I did choose to LIVE gay. But they're not the same thing.

Lex

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

I had a discussion with a straight woman today arguing if being gay is a choice or something you are born with. Well, she, of course was saying that being gay was a lifestyle choice and got into this whole thing about race not being the same as being gay as far as being born with something. Anyway, it got me thinking. People who think it is a choice must have made a choice. Perhaps those people have struggled with their sexuality and do think they have chosen to be straight. Or they truly cannot believe someone is actually attracted to the same sex; rather, they are looking for attention.

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[looseliam]

Choice or not, what fucking difference does it make?

We make 'lifestyle' choices all the time - hair colour, nail colour, plastic surgery, etc., all of which aren't 'natural' yet no one bats an eye.

 

[8tomtoms8]

You are not going to change the way they think anymore than they are going to make you straight. To me it's like arguing religion or politics... a total waste of time.

 

[evanrick]

i think some people especially women believe its a choice because they fear their husband or boyfriend might be gay or bisexual. if they say its a choice its like saying your not good enough so your boyfriend decided to sleep with men, has nothing to do with the person other than making it about "me".
it stems from insecurity.
she sounds stupid anyways. just sayin.

 

[Titanic]

The standard argument that I use against anyone who's ever been single is this.

Why don't you and your best friend just fall in love? Go on, it'll make things so much easier. You already know that you get on well, and it'll save a ton of time on the dating scene. Oh you can't? Why not? I thought who to love was a choice for us to make.

I used this on a homophobic friend once and his response was "ugh, no, he's ugly". *Facepalm*

 

[Jersey Domino]

I thought it was pretty obvious why some people think being gay is a choice?

1) They think heterosexuality is natural.

2) They think homosexuality is unnatural.

3) Being gay is going against nature, so one would have to make a choice to be something that nature did not intend. Or it's a defect of some sort.

4) There is no such thing as choosing to be straight. We all are/should be straight by default, thanks to nature.

But 2, 3, and 4 are not even true. (althought I'm sure you know that.)

 

[gaystorm]

And ... apparently we have some kind of political agenda. She did not expand on that.

 

[looseliam]

^ I don't know about you, but I'm still waiting for my copy of the 'gay agenda'.

 

[Nickt11]

I feel you are either born to be gay or straight. I am happy being gay and who i am but the amount of grief or bllying you can get from being gay, would we really chose it if there was a choice to be made?

 

[subbtopp]

what if it is a choice, Im glad I chose it there's nothing to reccommend being st8.
95% of child abuse is committed by hetro men
1 in 5 women will be murdered by their st8 partner
1 in 3 women will be verbal sexual or mentally physically abuse by their st8 male partner.

what do these people know about whats natural or not they are people with emotionasl and psycological trauma.they are to be forgiven

they are basically pissed off with gays because we are fabulous creative loving compasinate and not hypnotised to breed and ruin our lives they way they have to .


so fuck umm they are cunts.

 

[oakpope]

The most important thing is to assure them that no one ever chooses to be gay.

I believe too that there is no conscious choice. But even if it were, I don't see why there would be a problem. Being gay is not a disease, is not something wrong, not something we should be ashamed and there is no 'sane' reason to be discriminated against because of it.

Either Society recognizes that homosexuality is morally acceptable, either it's not.
Once Society finds it acceptable, there is no more valid arguments for discrimination.
And if Society doesn't find it acceptable, whether it's a choice or not is irrelevant as we would always be perceived as wrong.

my 2 cents.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

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[Ninja108]

Domestic violence happens in gay & lesbian relationships too. It just isn't talked about..on either side.

 

[MTLDude]

Do you know why "straight" men cry the first time they get fucked in the ass by another man? They realize what they were missing all those years...

My theory about "straight" male: there in nos such thing as a "straight" male, only undiscovered gay men...