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All this has started in the last month and I could use some advice on what to do.
Background:
Me: 30 y/o, single white male, bi (prefer relationships with women, but enjoy sex with guys too), in decent shape, personable, etc. I travel extensively for work but my current assignment has me close to where I grew up so rather than staying in a hotel for 2-3 months, I'm staying at my parent's.
Neighbor: 19 or 20 y/o white male, nice looking, kinda skinny but fit (does gymnastics or cheerleading or something of the like), fresh/soph in college but living at home. His family has lived on the block for about 15 years. I'm not sure of orientation or relationship status. He was quiet and shy when he was younger and there was never anything other than small talk in passing (I assume due to age difference). Obviously I think he might be into guys or I wouldn't be here.
Situation:
I got back home about a month ago and it was life as normal for the first week. Occasionally see my neighbor in passing, wave, make small talk and that was it until he found out I would be I town for a couple months. Since then, any time he sees me outside, he pretty much stops what he's doing to come talk it up. This happens a couple times a week. His demeanor is much more outgoing than the the quiet, reserved guy he was before. Conversations are more substantial than before, asking about my weekend plans telling me about his. It's only been talking up to this point. There hasn't been any physical contact like touching my arm or pat on the back (which to me would be a dead give away), and he's never invited me to join in his weekend plans. He also only does this when no one else is around. If his parents are around, I'm lucky to get a "hey".
Now comes the tricky part. When I'm gone months at a time for work, I'm generally in one place and I find it easier (and often more fun) to find a guy that's down with the short term. Someone to chill with, drink a few beers, get each other off, no drama, basically friends with benefits... If I were anywhere but home, I'd push the issue, flirt back and be all over him if he is indeed interested. It's turned into a battle of the heads: the little head stands at attention and says go for it, the big head says I need to be cautious.
So far I've managed to maintain a "neutral" attitude in our conversations and not lead him on but I'm really unsure where to go from here...
1. Do I go for it to see if he is interested? If he is, do we go forward or is it not worth the risk? I just keeping thinking there could be potentially be a really good thing next door.
2. Do I stay stone faced and continue to ignore what may be his advances towards me (which kinda feels like l leading him on)?
3. Do I make an indirect statement in our next convo to tell him I'm not into guys to let him down easy (like saying I met a girl)? I don't want to come off as a jerk neighbor.
Any thoughts or comments are greatly appreciated.
Background:
Me: 30 y/o, single white male, bi (prefer relationships with women, but enjoy sex with guys too), in decent shape, personable, etc. I travel extensively for work but my current assignment has me close to where I grew up so rather than staying in a hotel for 2-3 months, I'm staying at my parent's.
Neighbor: 19 or 20 y/o white male, nice looking, kinda skinny but fit (does gymnastics or cheerleading or something of the like), fresh/soph in college but living at home. His family has lived on the block for about 15 years. I'm not sure of orientation or relationship status. He was quiet and shy when he was younger and there was never anything other than small talk in passing (I assume due to age difference). Obviously I think he might be into guys or I wouldn't be here.
Situation:
I got back home about a month ago and it was life as normal for the first week. Occasionally see my neighbor in passing, wave, make small talk and that was it until he found out I would be I town for a couple months. Since then, any time he sees me outside, he pretty much stops what he's doing to come talk it up. This happens a couple times a week. His demeanor is much more outgoing than the the quiet, reserved guy he was before. Conversations are more substantial than before, asking about my weekend plans telling me about his. It's only been talking up to this point. There hasn't been any physical contact like touching my arm or pat on the back (which to me would be a dead give away), and he's never invited me to join in his weekend plans. He also only does this when no one else is around. If his parents are around, I'm lucky to get a "hey".
Now comes the tricky part. When I'm gone months at a time for work, I'm generally in one place and I find it easier (and often more fun) to find a guy that's down with the short term. Someone to chill with, drink a few beers, get each other off, no drama, basically friends with benefits... If I were anywhere but home, I'd push the issue, flirt back and be all over him if he is indeed interested. It's turned into a battle of the heads: the little head stands at attention and says go for it, the big head says I need to be cautious.
So far I've managed to maintain a "neutral" attitude in our conversations and not lead him on but I'm really unsure where to go from here...
1. Do I go for it to see if he is interested? If he is, do we go forward or is it not worth the risk? I just keeping thinking there could be potentially be a really good thing next door.
2. Do I stay stone faced and continue to ignore what may be his advances towards me (which kinda feels like l leading him on)?
3. Do I make an indirect statement in our next convo to tell him I'm not into guys to let him down easy (like saying I met a girl)? I don't want to come off as a jerk neighbor.
Any thoughts or comments are greatly appreciated.
