SilverRRCloud
I'd rather be a Sexgod:)
You have cheated on your friend by breaking the promise and bond of monogamy that was the base of your relationship. Furthermore, you did not disclose your 'going astray' to him, making it even worse. I do not think that anyone really has any problem in saying that, and I am sure that you are not denying this obvious truth either.
Equally so, your BF has cheated on you. He has been rejecting any sex with you for a very long time, while refusing to state his grounds. Equally so, he is refusing to make a full disclosure of his actions, or as the case may be, his inactions. Just like yourself, he has broken the bond of sex that was at the base of your relationship and has declined to come out with the truth.
It is very disturbing to read some of the previous posts, calling you a cheater and blaming you for dishonesty vs. your BF, without applying the same standards of honesty and truthfulness to him as well. This is a clear example of double standards and the basic misunderstanding of morals in the whole story.
IMHO, you are not in a relationship with your friend any more. And you stopped being in that state not at the moment when you cheated on him but at the moment he refused to explain his rejections and come up with a plan to either overcome this situation or openly say, 'we are friends. We love each other. But we are not lovers anymore.'
It would be entirely unreasonable from anyone to expect you to give up on your sexuality just because your partner has inexplicably chosen to stop having sex with you.
Only you really know, what is best for you and only you can make a really qualified decision.
No matter what, your BF cannot deny you the right to know, what is wrong with him and why is he permanently rejecting you, while at the same time insisting that you respect the bonds of monogamy, you had adhered to at the beginning of your relationship.
You had promised him monogamy. But you have never promised him a continuous sexless relationship. He had promised you a sexual fulfillment and he had inexpilcably broken that promise, actually freeing you from the promise of monogamy that you gave to him in return. We all want you to stick to your promise. He on the other hand is free to do as he pleases and does not have to fulfill his part of the deal. Does that really make sense to anyone here?
If you want to open your present relationship, take the high road and tell him simply: You have been rejecting me now for a very long time, without ever stating any grounds for it. I am entitled to my sexual life and I will have it with other people, as I find fit. Obviously, the same is true for you as well.
He may not like this, but this is the only way to let him know that his inactions have caused a serious rupture in your relationship and that he should bear his responsibility for the consequences thereof.
SC
Equally so, your BF has cheated on you. He has been rejecting any sex with you for a very long time, while refusing to state his grounds. Equally so, he is refusing to make a full disclosure of his actions, or as the case may be, his inactions. Just like yourself, he has broken the bond of sex that was at the base of your relationship and has declined to come out with the truth.
It is very disturbing to read some of the previous posts, calling you a cheater and blaming you for dishonesty vs. your BF, without applying the same standards of honesty and truthfulness to him as well. This is a clear example of double standards and the basic misunderstanding of morals in the whole story.
IMHO, you are not in a relationship with your friend any more. And you stopped being in that state not at the moment when you cheated on him but at the moment he refused to explain his rejections and come up with a plan to either overcome this situation or openly say, 'we are friends. We love each other. But we are not lovers anymore.'
It would be entirely unreasonable from anyone to expect you to give up on your sexuality just because your partner has inexplicably chosen to stop having sex with you.
Only you really know, what is best for you and only you can make a really qualified decision.
No matter what, your BF cannot deny you the right to know, what is wrong with him and why is he permanently rejecting you, while at the same time insisting that you respect the bonds of monogamy, you had adhered to at the beginning of your relationship.
You had promised him monogamy. But you have never promised him a continuous sexless relationship. He had promised you a sexual fulfillment and he had inexpilcably broken that promise, actually freeing you from the promise of monogamy that you gave to him in return. We all want you to stick to your promise. He on the other hand is free to do as he pleases and does not have to fulfill his part of the deal. Does that really make sense to anyone here?
If you want to open your present relationship, take the high road and tell him simply: You have been rejecting me now for a very long time, without ever stating any grounds for it. I am entitled to my sexual life and I will have it with other people, as I find fit. Obviously, the same is true for you as well.
He may not like this, but this is the only way to let him know that his inactions have caused a serious rupture in your relationship and that he should bear his responsibility for the consequences thereof.
SC
