Thinking of becoming a Dominator

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This site is hiring doms:
http://www.straighthell.net/star/

Oh... I thought you did not work for those sites (cfnm.net, cfnmtv.com, ruggerbugger, straighthell, eric demon etc). You were just a great fan of them.

Now you are helping them find talent. Wow, you are a good fan.

 

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This thought has been in the back of my mind for about three years now. I personally am not into wearing leather day in and out . But being a Dominator seems to really suit me. I really like the idea about just beating the fuck out of someone, and getting paid to do it.. The whole thing revolves around power and humiliating someone. I can be so nasty and i think i can do this. However, im just really confused as to how i would go about getting into this.

Sure it sounds freaky, but my moms ok (not really ok but she wouldn't get angry) with the idea and i actually have a female friend that wants to work with me.
You know as a duo team, i can be a Dominator and she Dominatrix.
What do you think ?
Fuck how much would i charge by the hour ?
Better yet, what the fuck do i do when i run out of ideas ?

You don't need to be in leather to dominate. If you can get a kick out of it, do it, but respect limits. If you don't get a real kick out of it, don't. A sub feels whether you get a kick out of it or not. If you don't get a kick out of it, you will be a deadly bore for the sub. What a sub really needs, is feeling your power all over him and you really enjoying it, but in the end you MUST have enough self-control so that you know exactly how far you can go too far. Keyword: RESPECT. You can go quite far in beating up and humiliating a guy as long as it is consensual (and not going over certain limits even if the sub begs for it during the session; some subs can get in a transe and feel less pain). You will have to develop your own SM-philosophy. It is all about communication. You must be a very good listener before beginning and ask the sub for feedback afterwards. During the session you will have to make the sub aware of your enjoyment of doing this to him, the little slut. Insert moments of real tenderness even if it is only a kind of some stupid client for you. To get into it, you could advertise as a hard top-sm-escort. Many examples of profiles on the internet. Would you be ready to study the following roleplay submitted by a sub?

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=176932

 

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Based on your "qualifications," I'd say you should not be a Dom. It's not about power and humiliation, but about helping your clients to find the proper outlet for their fetishes and desires. A true Dom/sub relationship should evolve out of mutual respect and a common need to experience something beyond a financial transaction. Doms that are in it for the money rarely last.

A good Dom must be professional, responsible and safe. Are you any of these things?

I agree, but one of the fetishes of some guys precisely is getting beated up and humiliated. But it is only a fetish and I agree mutual respect comes in the very 1st place, especially in this fetish. This can be done as well in a financial transaction as outside of it. When financial, it only means the pleasure of the sub comes first and that of the dom second. When non financial, the guy who can get the most pleasure out of it simply takes it (winner takes all), but MUTUAL RESPECT and LIMITS are and remain key words. And yes, a good dom is professional, responsible and safe.

 

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I never really got into the BDSM scene, but I've made some money off S & M. The extra money you make, compared to vanilla prostitution, is certainly pleasant.

However, like the others who have posted in this thread, I wonder if you are mature enough to do it?

Have you ever prostituted yourself? do you know what it means? Can and will you put up with it?

I agree prostitution is the business needing the greatest maturity.

 

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I just can't get over the fact that you've discussed doing this for a living with your own mother.

What's the problem? The only problem here could be the way society looks at prostitution. As long as prostitution is freely choosen, I don't see the problem. In the Netherlands it is a recognized profession and it should be everywhere.

 

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If she got angry, it would be BDSM incest.



A good Master never runs out of ideas...
are you really old enough to be on these forums?

True, a good master never runs out of ideas, but good briefing by the sub before beginning certainly helps. Moreover the master can give repetitive orders to the sub and rest at certain times or even ask the sub about the following step. It's all communication and communication is all.

 

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You know, I do not see that much wrong with what Comrad said in his first post (though I am a little shocked that he talked about it with his mother - but that is his choice and his relationship with his mother).

Frequently, a big part of Dom/sub is the threat of what many would call "violence." I have had "the fuck beaten out of me" to paraphrase Comrad. My ass has been beaten so badly that it was bruised and it was uncomfortable to sit down. I have had cock so torqued, pulled and weighted that it was bruised. My nipples have been sore and bruised. One Dom used me as target practice while he learned how to handle his bull whip (just imagine the marks and pain that caused). I think that equates well with the idea of "beating the fuck out of some one."

While this is not for everyone, and not a part of every Dom/sub relationship it is what I did. It is also a part of what many in "the life" do. When my Dom with the bullwhip called to tell me about the new whip, I knew, given the nature of our relationship, just what I was going to do to please him. It was within our limits.

My guess is that if Comrad posted his profile, with pics of himself on certain websites, that his email box would be full by the end of the day - with both young and old, experienced and inexperienced clients/players. I am sure that Comrad has the sense to not take his interests passed past where his clients, sexual partners and others want it to go.

Comrad has the fantasy of Dominating other men - not that big of a deal. I think that some are shocked at his choice of words. If he needs practice... sign me up!

I can completely agree with that.