This guy I met

[Stitch627]

I met this guy K. at a professional luncheon about a month ago. We talked a
bit. He was very nice. On top of his being cute, he was working for a firm
and on a project I was interested in. Thus, I decided to try to get in touch
with him. As we had not exchanged business cards, I had to ask the organizer
of the luncheon for K’s contact information. I got his email, and sent him a
message. We then exchanged a couple of emails and phone calls to set up a
meeting that turned into a lunch. Over the emails, he said that he was very
happy that I had gotten in touch with him after the luncheon, and that he
would be delighted to have lunch with me to talk about his company. First,
he suggested yesterday for our lunch. But, as it was a holiday, I declined
and suggested the following day instead.
So, we met today for lunch. Once again, he was really nice and smiling. He
said it was so good to see me again. He even paid for the 2 of us (but he’ll
get a refund from his firm). Also I found out that today was a day off for
him…
I like the guy, he’s nice and cute. If only I knew he was gay, I would ask
him out for a drink. And this is extremely uncommon for me!! I am really shy
in that matter. I have actually never asked a guy out, just like that. The
problem is, I don’t know if he is. And I honestly have no clue. Sure, he is
very nice to me, smiling, says he is happy to see me, and suggests we have
lunch whereas it is on one of his days off. Yet, if I am being honest, this
does not prove anything. I usually have a pretty good gaydar, but in this
case, I really don’t know. I would like to think so, which clouds judgement.
So I do not know what to do.
I want to send him an email, because I need information following up on what
we discussed over the lunch. Should I add that it was really nice to see
him? And that I would like to see him again? Should I suggest that we go for
a drink someday and not being professional? What do you guys think?

 

[Stitch627]

Sorry about the typo, don't know what happened...

 

[rareboy]

I want to send him an email, because I need information following up on what
we discussed over the lunch. Should I add that it was really nice to see
him? And that I would like to see him again? Should I suggest that we go for
a drink someday and not being professional? What do you guys think?

Yes. This.

 

[racer2438]

Sure, maybe say --hey next time your off work maybe we could go have a drink or something after lunch.

Or, you doing anthing after work later , thought we could go grab a beer or something..

And that way you can start to probe his personal life and see what he is into...

 

[BlondeCanadian]

i think you are missing some very much needed info for us to advice you properly

What did you talk about at this lunch? did he keep it completely professional did you two talk about your personal life anything that would constitute flirting?

 

[TX-Beau]

Yeah, if this was work related, it's possible that his interest is work related.

I'd ask him to get a drink sometime, explicitly not work related, and see what comes up.

 

[KaraBulut]

The thing that is fuzzy here is whether this is a professional contact or whether it's a personal contact.

You've given a bit of a mixed message- expressing an interest in his company and in a project that they are working on.

Because of that, it's difficult to tell whether he's treating you as an interested colleague or whether he's treating you as a friend.

If there is any possibility that you will be doing business with or working with this guy, you're better off sending a note thanking him for meeting with you on his day off, that you enjoyed the conversation and you look forward to keeping in touch with him.

If this is to move into a more personal non-work thing, it's something that you want to be careful about until you know whether he's gay and whether he's single.

 

[MisterMajestic]

I met this guy K. at a professional luncheon about a month ago. We talked a bit. I like the guy, he’s nice and cute. If only I knew he was gay, I would ask him out for a drink. And this is extremely uncommon for me!! I am really shy in that matter.

Did you notice a "Ring"? Did you ask about his family, wife, kids? Do you both live in the same town or is he in town on business?

You have to ask questions...The Fact that he said "We can meet again so we can talk about my Business", Pretty much tells the story....

You are lazy with your skills as a Single-Man...You had several opportunities to throw in questions during your 2nd lunch-meeting..You chose not to..Go ahead and Call him or Email him and suggest you go out for a drink real soon...

If he's Gay/Bi or Curious it's obvious he's letting you do all the work...That's fine..Work for it if you're up for it...Smiling back & forth will get you NOTHING & NO-WHERE..If he agrees to drinks you need to step-up your game...

 

[Stitch627]

He has no ring, and we live in the same town.

We talked about his company, for sure. But he also asked about my job, and what I did before. This is a first job for the 2 of us. So, we talked about our studies. He also told me about his taking an exam next week for another job he's interested in.

I sent him an email, thanking him for the lunch and asking for some complementary information. I also added it was nice to see him again and that we should get a drink sometime. We'll see if/what he replies...

 

[Stitch627]

He replied to my email. He gave me the information I wanted and said he'll come back to me for more. He also thanked me for accepting his lunch invitation. Yet, he didn't mention the drink thing...
I think I should move on, right? from a dating perspective

 

[rareboy]

Move on.

You're not dating.