This may sound like a really dumb question...

[hornfly]

This may sound like a really dumb question, but what suggestions would you guys offer about giving head? I've never done it before but will in the near future. I know the obvious principles, but what's the best way to do it? I don't want it to be a bad experience for the other guy because I'm a newbie. I'm sure that "practice makes perfect", but I want to be as prepared as possible. Any suggestions? What are some newbie mistakes that I should avoid? What are some little things I can do to make it better for me and/or the other guy that maybe I wouldn't think of? I'm really open to any suggestions to make it an amazing experience all the way around.

 

[rareboy]

Watch the teeth.

Don't suck too hard, particularly if you get their balls in your mouth.

Use your tongue creatively.

Try to get friction against your cheek.

Knock yourselves out.

 

[954dude]

Being comfortable and safe is most important. Use a flavoured condom for safety and fun. Make sure you take your time and go easy. Try different things with your hands and tongue to make it exciting.

If one of you isn't comfortable, then the joy is gone.

 

[KaraBulut]

Practice makes perfect.

Seriously.

 

[chrisdobro]

Two things:

* suck the tip only do not go deep. One to one and a half inches is enough until you feel more adventurous. By the way you neither 'suck in' nor 'blow out'. More like you move your lips up and down, as if you were jacking the dick off. You may apply just a little bit of actual sucking motion, but that will come naturally.

* make sure your teeth do not touch the dick.
One way to avoid it is to make an 'O' with your lips so that your teeth are not exposed. To clarify, you don't have to wrap your lips to the point where they go inside your mouth, as then your mustache and under-lip stubble, if any, will scrape the dick. Wrap just enough to make teeth not touch the dick.

A bit more extra
* follow your desires
* pay attention to your partner.


And no worries. My first giving and getting oral were awesome ! And I didn't know anything about any techniques, other than reading about that it is possible to suck a dick. We were quite young though, and our dicks were of a more manageable size, so we've avoided the 'teeth issue'. With fully grown dicks that's about the only thing to watch out for.

 

[sb]

Being comfortable and safe is most important. Use a flavoured condom for safety and fun.

there wont be much fun if you use condoms whilst performing oral sex.

 

[sb]

there'll be less fun explaining to your lover why you're developed bumps on your lip. your statement was dangerous in its condemnation of condoms used during oral sex. just because you want to risk your life doesn't mean you should convince everyone else to do so. my partner and i use condoms during oral sex and although its obviously a different feeling than giving head without condoms, it's certainly a necessity in today's day and time when STDs spread needlessly, possibly because of the promotion and insistance of going 'bareback'.

I would turn down oral sex if the person wanted me to wear a condom. I wouldn't perform oral sex if the person wanted to wear one. Its not risking my life.... oral sex without a condom and bareback sex cant be compared to each other. I would hate to be in a relationship where there wasnt even enough trust not to have oral sex without a condom.

There's being safe and there's being ridiculous.

 

[sb]

^ well I've sucked a lot of cock to get where I am and I am yet to have any diseases.... as I said there's safe and there's ridiculous.

Do you want me to name all the bad things that can happen if you walk out your front door?

 

[954dude]

I've given and received oral sex with and without a condom. I prefer protected oral sex, because: a) it's safer and lowers the risk of contracting STDs; b) I don't like the taste of precum; c) the condom tastes better than the penis.

If you're in a relationship and the person has been routinely been checked for STDs, then it's okay to forget the condom. But it also spices it up rather than just going down on the guy, it gets boring. Hell, even use some edible lube!

The first experience I had was mutual oral sex. First, he made sure I was relaxed and went down on me. He instructed me how to do it and I paid attention to what he liked by looking at the expressions on his face, touching him in different areas and grabbing him close to me.

 

[rareboy]

Sucking dick through latex?

yawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwn.

If you're that afraid of catching anything, then you might as well just masturbate, in my opinion. God knows you don't want to catch herpes from kissing and as for rimming.... OMFG.

Be careful if you have a latex allergy sticking that condom in your mouth.

 

[godson112]

it truly saddens me that members of the gay community not only prefer unsafe practices but actually promotes them. excluding protection is a personal choice and one that shouldn't be promoted with "i've never caught an std'. guess what?? people that contract the disease at 30 can say they didn't catch one for years but guess what?? all it takes is ONE, not years of, a mistake. your opinion about masturbation or unsafe sex is completely unfounded and leaves no space for gray areas, just because your viewpoint is simple doesn't mean the actual situation is. the decision is ultimately the OP's, but you guys are doing more harm than good by PROMOTING UNSAFE SEXUAL ACTS. ignorance really is an epidemic. yawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwn.

I think you're being utterly ridicuous.

If you can't have unprotected sex with your partner then it says alot about how much you trust eachother.

You make out that everyone has STD's, when in fact that is not the case. Yes they are a risk, but nearly as prominant as you make out they are.
Maybe with a complete and utte stranger you pick up from a bar you might use a condom, and even then I don't think I would. Not because I believe I'm immune to STD's or invincible, but because I'm willing to accept the risk and have more fun without a laer of latex between us.

And to be fair, yes you can get STD's through oral sex, but nothing deadly if you don't cure it. Which, let's be honest, nobody is going to let an unsightly sore around their mouth go untreated are they?

In my opinion, if you're willing to accept the risks and you trust eachother and you're committed, or if you're just a slut (lol), there's no need for condoms.

 

[KaraBulut]

Um, I think hornfly asked for advice on giving head before this thread got hijacked....

This is the No Flame Zone. Can we get back on topic...?

 

[tallguy297]

Guys,

Please remember where you are. This forum is about advice and support - not about who's right and wrong.

As always theres a balanced point of view and a range of opinions offered which is why this place is so helpful to people who need it... but please do not hijack the threads or let them degenerate into futile arguments about who's point of view is more correct.

The information provided here thus far alerts the op to the risks involved... lets now move back onto the topic and give him the advice he's asked for in regard to technique etc so he feels like he can approach this with confidence.

Cheers fellas... and thanks.

TG

 

[sb]

it truly saddens me that members of the gay community not only prefer unsafe practices but actually promotes them. excluding protection is a personal choice and one that shouldn't be promoted with "i've never caught an std'. guess what?? people that contract the disease at 30 can say they didn't catch one for years but guess what?? all it takes is ONE, not years of, a mistake. your opinion about masturbation or unsafe sex is completely unfounded and leaves no space for gray areas, just because your viewpoint is simple doesn't mean the actual situation is. the decision is ultimately the OP's, but you guys are doing more harm than good by PROMOTING UNSAFE SEXUAL ACTS. ignorance really is an epidemic. yawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwn.

why is this post still in here.... its not on topic... I had two of my posts deleted from this thread that were on the same topic as this post....

and why is this post still allowed?

(syracus) This is so true!

Additionally, I believe chances are way higher of catching some disease if you're not protected, in contrast to walking on the street.

(tallguy297)As always theres a balanced point of view and a range of opinions offered which is why this place is so helpful to people who need it.

keep telling yourself that.

 

[Puzuzzu]

marleyisalegend is right!!
What are you people looking for std's or something?
Oral without condom=idiot.
Also, this IS advice. Nothing without protection, hornfly.

 

[sb]

marleyisalegend is right!!
What are you people looking for std's or something?
Oral without condom=idiot.
Also, this IS advice. Nothing without protection, hornfly.

this thread is about how to give good head not scaremongering health advice or who is wrong or right....

 

[landers]

Okay, back to the advice. Uncut dicks tend to be more sensitive than cut dicks so it's best to be a little more gentle with an uncut dick. Something that feels good to a guy with a cut dick may be too intense for a guy with an uncut dick to the point where it becomes uncomfortable.

Also, don't forget that you have hands, two of them. You can use them to play with any combination of: the rest of his dick (if you can't deepthroat and if you can't don't worry, it's not the end of the world) his balls and the perineum.

 

[tallguy297]

why is this post still in here.... its not on topic... I had two of my posts deleted from this thread that were on the same topic as this post....

and why is this post still allowed?

keep telling yourself that.

this thread is about how to give good head not scaremongering health advice or who is wrong or right....

Yes and some of your "off topic" posts remain also...

In the interest of openness I'll explain... That post was left as the final word on that discussion that had evolved between the three of you because up until then like I said, it was balanced and while not directly on topic offered something to the thread. After that the thread degenerated into sniping and pointless off topic debate.

Now, follow the advice in your last post... and lets get back to topic shall we?


And fellas please... the safe sex issue IS very important and one that should be debated. But it should also be for another thread if you choose. This one needs to focus on helping the op with advice that he seeks about how to give head so that his partner might enjoy it.

Thanks!

 

[954dude]

food with texture always adds a nice touch: peanut butter, chocolate syrup, one time, (though don't try this unless you know how sensitive your partner is) i used a blowpop, that was loads of fun. starbursts work pretty good to, and the biggest reaction i ever got from my b/f was when i put some mcdonald's mucflurry in my mouth before giving him head, i had him gripping the rails to the staircase. oh yeah, that's another thing, location. i've blown my bf on the kitchen counter, on the stairs, on the bed, in the hallway, in the car, etc... sometimes a simple change of scenery can make a world of a difference

Wow. I would love to try some of those. So freaky!!

 

[Eagle653]

I can't add much to what's already here, except to remember to breathe. You'll learn how to breathe right with your mouth full.

Good luck and enjoy! Report back and let us know how it went!