This question is for straight dudes only

[Stevekub]

He's bi. I don't think a 100% straight dude would make the "sit next to me" comment.

 

[chace1617]

i think he's bi, or a very cool straight guy...

 

[TX-Beau]

Thanks...Yea I find it funny how much the other members hate me but its w/e...

Yes i've had sex with guys.

Oh come on, let's not be drama queens shall we, I doubt that there is anyone in here who is so invested in your life that they're willing to put in the energy required to hate you.

I will say that when you run around on a gay porn site, telling people that having sex with men is a sin, and goes against God, that leads people to think you have issues.

It's your about faces on that and other things that people respond to. I'd call it hypocrisy, but I suspect that it's pretty much being conflicted over who you are.

 

[Nomenclature]

I was straight two past-lives ago, so that somehow makes it okay for me to respond to your post, OP:

I've known a few straight guys who secretly liked watching chick flicks and Sex And The City. They just wanted a good male friend to talk one-on-one with, open themselves up to and to just be themselves around. So many straight guys nowdays are tired of putting on the "bro", macho douchebag attitude. Sometimes, they feel like they can only let this facade down in front of a gay dude, because he won't think they're any less masculine or try to dominate him for showing "weakness" like another straight guy would.


Important questions: Does he know you're bi? Are you out to anyone?

 

[TX-Beau]

I think that operating with some adolescent idea of what masculine is about, will lead you to do unfortunate things like misconstrue two guys sitting next to each other watching a movie.

If fact I'd say that if you're not 16, being paranoid that someone will think you're gay - is more a confirmation than not.

Straight guys comfortable with their sexuality aren't evaluating every action in terms of whether or not other people are going to think they're gay.

I suspect they don't think about the gay much at all.

 

[palemale]

I suspect your friend is a raging queen on the inside who appears completely straight. However, he is in the closet, but in order to stay in the closet, he can't come across as a closet case. If he seems weird about sitting next to a male friend, he is concerned people will think he is putting physical distance between himself and the male friend only to make other people believe he is straight, but knows they will suspect he is gay. He realizes if he sits right next to a male friend, people will believe he is straight because he does not have a hang up about being close to another man. Therefore, by masquerading as a strongly heterosexual man secure enough in his masculinity to sit next to a male friend in a movie theater, he will fool people into believing he is not actually a closeted gay man. I hope this clears everything up.

 

[TX-Beau]

Lol.........

 

[blackbeltninja]

Insecure guys sit one seat apart from each other. Straight guys don't give a fuck.

Agreed. My straight friends and I have never sat a seat apart, whether it's only 2 of us or 5 of us.

That's not at all common here in .za.

I was thinkgin about when we go to the pool me getting out of the pool and my shorts coming down cuz that really does happen lol...and see if he says anything or looks lol...

Um... someone's pants coming off in a public place? Everyone would look. It's like seeing a streaker. Everyone looks. I don't think that would tell you anything. Stripping off afterwards, if it's a private pool and you can get changed out in the open - if he looks then, that's maybe another story.

-d-

 

[Nomenclature]

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I feel u but as i said in America this is a known.."straight man rule" so thats y i sat 1 seat away

First of all: I live in America, too. Welcome to my country.


Second of all: If you were alone in the theater with someone and you sat ONE SEAT AWAY, that would be kind of awkward. He was teasing you for being afraid to sit next to him.


When he was driving in the front seat, did you insist on sitting in the back seat to keep your distance from him, too? lol



He just wants to be your friend. Quit being a weirdo.

 

[TX-Beau]

I'm never that...lol And that is my Christian belief so i'm not gonna sit here and apologize for that...if you want to think its crazy thats on you..you will have to take that up with someone higher than me.



I feel u but as i said in America this is a known.."straight man rule" so thats y i sat 1 seat away and then he waited a couple sec and told me to sit next to him. I don't believe it was for anyone around....(it was dark by the time we even sat down).

You see, there’s the issue again. You say you believe that god condemns gay sex, so how can it possibly matter to you if this straight guy is gay or not? Intellectual curiosity? Are you intent on saving his soul? Obviously you won’t be sleeping with him.

And here you are on a gay porn site presumably whacking off to all that sin.


You insist that there is some kind of “straight guy,” rule involving gay panic and homophobia that exists in the US, when in fact I haven’t seen that kind of behavior since high school.

But YOU were the one that was going to sit one seat away. Since you’re not straight, you either thought he was gonna freak if a guy sat next to him (strange choice of friend if that's what you thought,) or far more likely YOU were the one who was worried about being perceived as gay; and are insisting this rule exists simply to justify your own actions, and your fear that someone will find out.

He didn’t care where you sat, but since it wasn't his face, why does that signify anything at all?


I didn’t call you crazy, I called you conflicted. I suspect that you’re a young gay man who desperately doesn’t want to be a gay man.

OK, a lot of us have been there, hopefully at some point you might realize that we have something useful to tell you about that.

 

[TX-Beau]

Ok i see you want to turn this into a Justlove thread. Which i refuse to do. but anyways I sat a seat away because I didn't want him to think anything funny. IDK where you live and hang out but I see it all the time everywhere...w/ men of all ages. I truthfully have no problem sitting next to a straight guy, but i was doing it for him. And I'm not gay at all.

Of course this thread is about you, it's about you and the scary theater seat.

Bending over showing your asshole on a gay porn site seems pretty gay to me.

Look, you're all over the place with what you post. You're not consistent, that screams issues.

You don't want to deal with them fine, but that doesn't stop people from noticing.

 

[kissthesky88]

Insecure guys sit one seat apart from each other. Straight guys don't give a fuck.

Straight guys also, when they're looking for new friends, generally try to find ones slightly better-looking than they are. Sound counter-intuitive? Like they'd be setting themselves up to be cock-blocked all the time around girls? Nope. The mentality is to form a better-looking group of friends overall and attract the girls that way.

I'm willing to bet he contacts you to hang out again soon. Chances are he's sensed your insecurities, and knows you're not a competitive threat when it comes to girls, while at the same time realizes you're a little better-looking than him, so you'll at least get the attention of chicks to come talk to you guys. He's looking at you as a potentially awesome friend.

Oh, and the one-seat apart thing? That's also an exclusively American quirk. He's Costa Rican.

All totally true and I concur. He's probably straight, you being awkward and distant is probably your subconscious projection on him seeking approval and "hints he's into you". All of my friends are straight white anglo saxon protestants. If I sat one seat apart from them at the movies, they would probably think I think they smell or something. You're friends, right? He wants to chill and spend time with you? That means he enjoys your company. If I were in his position, I would just have assumed that you clearly have boundary/intimacy issues. Normal friends aren't afraid of getting close... that's sortof the point.

 

[WildBeast]

I soooo agree.

Was this weird in anyway?

The situation, no. But what's going on in your mind is pretty weird, I'm still trying to find the connection between fear of heights and analyzing sentences... xD

 

[MarkMySpoT]

sounds like ur mind thinks too much, which can be good. just be careful and not let it jinx your friendship with the guy.

 

[PhalloPhage]

Some people aren't into hanging out in groups, and some just don't mind having two people. I go out with straight friends one-on-one all the time, and there's absolutely nothing sexual about it. I find it a little odd that you'd think two guys not in a group must be dating, or something like it.

 

[USEDCAR]

Your friend sounds like a really nice guy i don't think he wants you or anything. Just because a straight guy asks you to sit next to him doesn't mean he wants to fuck you.

I wish i could meet a nice straight guy like that

 

[aneal_lingus]

i really dislike like the way you generalize and stereotype straight people just because you've been around them, but w/e.

i think these rules you have are only rules that bi/bicurious "straight" males have. my straight friends dont care about stuff like that and i never think twice about it. if i notice someone sit far away in a theatre it means they like the extra room for their elbows or popcorn. if someone hangs out with just me, it means they are my friend. ALL of my straight friends like/prefer to hang out with just me. and even though i'm gay, ALL of my guy friends are straight and they ALL know.

being gay is not a contagious disease that straight guys fear and just because a guy is straight doesn't mean he's homophobic.

(and i totally agree to the people who said this thread holds no interest, my caring just ran out but i felt a need to defend my "straight" men)

 

[MindBlast]

My best friend is straight and he doesn't give a shit if he sits next to me (I'm gay and not hiding it at all) in a movie theater. He doesn't care if people think he's gay either (he thinks it's hilarious when people think he and I are together). We've been friends for 15 years now.

 

[Halifaxboy8]

Ok, I read through this post and it just seems to have gotten rediculous.

Bud, you're obsessing. Just..STOP. S.T.O.P.

Who CARES if he sat next to you, or if you have this "rule" about a one seat space, or whatever the fuck it is you are all hung up on. REALLY. I mean..just fucking get over it.

At the end of the day, its not him, its you and your insecurity, and your narrow set of rules of how things in your little world should be.

But, its not even that. There's a page and a half of you going over and over and over this rediculous, looping discussion.

 

[aneal_lingus]

Well i have 4 straight bro's, all straight male friends, constantly around straight males...so i do know a thing or two about how they act...anything can be turned into a generalization or looked at as stereotypical in the striaght world...I'm not saying YES HE iS BI BECAUSE HE INSISTED I SIT RIGHT NEXT TO HIM i clearly said it sent off an alarm in my head.

You can take any straight "stereotype" and say if he doesn't do this he's def gay. Which most straight men do. You are use to a certain type of straight friend and I'm accustomed to another type. So if either one of them does something out of the norm that would be weird. So IDK why your attacking me but u need to sit down somewhere w/ that. I've seen many-a thread where folks talk about the same thing (oh my straight friend winked at me....i know he's in love w/ me) but because its the wonderful justlove everyone is on the attack.

ALL straight me do not sit 1 seat apart...i KNOW THIS..am i used to seeing two straight me sitting 1 seat apart YES.

Its not just this one thing that he has done its other things....and there are more...which i won't tell anymore because anything i say is wrong. LoL....w/e

.......... okay